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11-06-2012 at 2:10 PM
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Co-Ed Baby Shower ... invite question?

Hi all, 

 A friend is throwing me a baby shower next month. I was trying to help with the invite wording and have a question.

Among those who are invited will be friends and my husbands family (cousins, Aunts, Uncles, sisters, etc). We would like to send the invites out with verbiage that everyone is invited (spouses, boyfriends, etc) but I'm hesitant to say something like Couples Baby Shower. Should the invite say Couples Invited? Should the envelope just be addressed to the couple? What do you guys think? 

Thanks! 

ETA: Just realized the title of this post sounds like it has nothing to do with the actual post. I changed the wording from Party to Invites. And editing title again  :)
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11-06-2012 at 2:13 PM
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Traditionally speaking, whomever the invite is specifically addressed to is/are the one/s invited.  So you can write whatever you want on the standard invite, but if you address it to "Mr and Mrs Joe Smith" they are both invited. 

I think about 50% of common day society would understand this. 

I'd consider switching the title to "co-ed shower" or "co-ed Baby-Q" or "a co-ed celebration in honor of the upcoming arrival of baby X".  I believe that for most people, the words "baby shower" would imply a females only celebration. 
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11-06-2012 at 2:20 PM
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BallSox:
Traditionally speaking, whomever the invite is specifically addressed to is/are the one/s invited.  So you can write whatever you want on the standard invite, but if you address it to "Mr and Mrs Joe Smith" they are both invited. 

I think about 50% of common day society would understand this. 

I'd consider switching the title to "co-ed shower" or "co-ed Baby-Q" or "a co-ed celebration in honor of the upcoming arrival of baby X".  I believe that for most people, the words "baby shower" would imply a females only celebration. 

Good suggestion about the title. Just changed it! 
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11-06-2012 at 2:22 PM
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BallSox:
Traditionally speaking, whomever the invite is specifically addressed to is/are the one/s invited.  So you can write whatever you want on the standard invite, but if you address it to "Mr and Mrs Joe Smith" they are both invited. 

I think about 50% of common day society would understand this. 

I'd consider switching the title to "co-ed shower" or "co-ed Baby-Q" or "a co-ed celebration in honor of the upcoming arrival of baby X".  I believe that for most people, the words "baby shower" would imply a females only celebration. 

All of this.  Addressing the invite to Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith should let people know that it is a co-ed shower.  However, for the people that don't pay attention to the envelope, having the phrase "co-ed shower" on the invite should make it clear.  

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11-06-2012 at 2:47 PM
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Allycat11:

BallSox:

Alright, that sounds good. Thanks for your help ladies!  
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11-06-2012 at 4:40 PM
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Allycat11:

BallSox:
Traditionally speaking, whomever the invite is specifically addressed to is/are the one/s invited.  So you can write whatever you want on the standard invite, but if you address it to "Mr and Mrs Joe Smith" they are both invited. 

I think about 50% of common day society would understand this. 

I'd consider switching the title to "co-ed shower" or "co-ed Baby-Q" or "a co-ed celebration in honor of the upcoming arrival of baby X".  I believe that for most people, the words "baby shower" would imply a females only celebration. 

All of this.  Addressing the invite to Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith should let people know that it is a co-ed shower.  However, for the people that don't pay attention to the envelope, having the phrase "co-ed shower" on the invite should make it clear.  

all of this...

for my shower, we made sure the invite stated co-ed shower 
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11-07-2012 at 2:46 PM
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They are also referred to as "Jack and Jill" showers. We just got an invite to one, and it said that on the invite, it was also addressed to both DH and I. 
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11-08-2012 at 2:25 PM
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We just had our shower, and men were invited as well. We addressed the invites accordingly, and some people were still confused! (Well, some people in DH's family were confused!) So I'd probably just make sure that it said something about a couples shower on the invite itself, as well, just to be sure.
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11-08-2012 at 9:23 PM
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ours is going to be a baby shower with a diaper party for the men (when the men go out side and grill and hang out while the ladies have fun) and we are going to word it something like to Mr and Ms X and something about men that bring some form of diapering supplies will have access to the "man-cave" during the shower.
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11-08-2012 at 10:58 PM
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I'm adding a little note to the bottom of my invitation that says something along the lines of "per H's request, this is not a female-only party, so please bring the men and children, as she wants to see everyone one last time before going back to the west coast!" (since I live on the opposite side of the country). You could put something like that on the invite, omitting the last part so it would fit your situation. 
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11-10-2012 at 10:05 AM
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I went to a co-ed baby shower last week. The invite was addressed to my husband and I. There was no wording on the invite saying it was co-ed, but we called to clarify. My baby shower tomorrow is also co-ed. This is more of an informal event and is being thrown by friends. The invites were e-vites and stated that it was a co-ed shower and were obviously sent to everyone's emails (male and female) who were invited.
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