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11-06-2012 at 2:43 PM
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Anyone having trouble deciding on an epidural or not?

I'm having a very hard time deciding what to do during labor.  I've talked to people who have done it both ways and nobody has regretted the choice they made (although I have read stories where people regretted their epidural). My one friend said that the decision is easier made during labor and I'll just know what to do.  Is anyone else having a similar dilemma?  Any second time moms have advice? I'm open to anything at this point!

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11-06-2012 at 2:47 PM
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No one can make that decision for you, except for you.

 
11-06-2012 at 2:50 PM
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I'm just goin' with the flow. I'll figure out what I need when the time comes.

It's not like anyone else is going to be able to tell you what to do - this is sorely YOUR decision!


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11-06-2012 at 2:52 PM
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I am still deciding.  Actually, I'm still trying to decide whether to VBAC or not after 2 previous csections.  If I go the VBAC route I want to try natural just for the sake of an extremely different experience (plus it lowers the likelyhood that I'd end up with another csection if i didn't want one), but am still undecided.  Like you said, though, I heard online stories about people who regret their decision one way or another but no one I know in real life ever regrets it.  The goal is a healthy baby, right? :)

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ngarden01:

I'm just goin' with the flow. I'll figure out what I need when the time comes.

This. When anyone asks me what my plan is, I say that I have no plan because I have no idea what it will be like and my body and I will figure it out as we go along!


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11-06-2012 at 2:54 PM
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MrsT1108:
No one can make that decision for you, except for you.

MrsT speaks the truth, yet again.

Really, OP... it's your choice. Research and keep your mind open that when you go into labor, some things may be completely different than what you imagined. 



 
11-06-2012 at 2:54 PM
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All I can say is, going natural when everyone thought I couldn't (myself included) was amazing.

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11-06-2012 at 2:56 PM
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Oh, I know I'm the only one who can make the final choice. I guess I'm just looking for any words of wisdom from anyone who wants to share -- why they chose what they chose, or the personal experiences of any second time moms on here.  I've been researching forever and thought some advice for you ladies might be helpful :) Thanks to everyone for replying!


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11-06-2012 at 3:07 PM
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Im a STM and I am definitly going for the epi, like I did with my first.  Both pregnancies have been difficult for me with pre-existing back problems so there I have constant pain for months.  And labour just makes these back problems worse so and epi provides some relief.   The way I see it, Ive spent 5 or 6 months in pain so why not get some help with pain management so I can enjoy the birth process.

However, that being said not everyone has the same experience so if you are able to go natural, all the power to you!  No one can really make thst decision until they're in the moment because every expereince is different and circumstances can change really fast. 

 
11-06-2012 at 3:10 PM
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Why do you have to decide right now?  Why not prepare for the birth you want and be open to what the day brings?

I mean let's face it a med-free birth is guaranteed to no one, nor is an epidural.    


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11-06-2012 at 3:15 PM
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Everyone is different, but for an idea of someone who did it both ways... with my first I was scared of the epidural (big needle fright) but not looking for a natural birth, I was to be induced so I knew I would need an IV.  They gave me Demerol and it basically knocked me out.  When it wore off I was in so much pain and not progressing much, out of energy, etc.  The epidural was like heaven at that moment, instant pain relief.  I still went on to have a long labor, but it was expected since it was my first.  With my second, labor progressed so fast that when I finally got to hospital and they admitted me my son was already crowning, they would not give me an IV or epidural even though I wanted something.  I survived obviously, but until you are in the midst of labor, you will not know whether you can handle the pain of natural labor.  But, if you want to try natural, you should.  It's your right and you can always change your mind and say, I would like an epidural now.  GL
 
11-06-2012 at 3:17 PM
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It seems like in general, people who decide that they will decide during labor choose an epi. I think that if you might want to go without, you would need to decide beforehand.

That said, I am in the same boat you are in -- or just slightly out of it. I have been reading and reading on unmedicated birth, but I still feel like, "yikes, am I really going to plan on this?" But I think....I am. My last birth was very medical and high-intervention due to a lot of complications, and I like the idea of having a very different experience this time.


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11-06-2012 at 3:18 PM
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Whitney915:

Oh, I know I'm the only one who can make the final choice. I guess I'm just looking for any words of wisdom from anyone who wants to share -- why they chose what they chose, or the personal experiences of any second time moms on here.  I've been researching forever and thought some advice for you ladies might be helpful :) Thanks to everyone for replying!

That makes more sense.  I had a med-free birth and hope to have the same this time around.  

Here's what I liked about it, having freedom of movement the entire time, never having to have an IV or a needle inserted into my spin, being able to get up almost right after DD was born, knowing that DD's birth unfolding exactly as nature had intended, and of course a huge sense of accomplishment.

Here's what I didn't like, soon after she was born I was so uncomfortable from where I tore that I didn't even want to hold her until they brought me pain-meds and they started to work.    


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11-06-2012 at 3:20 PM
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lucy460:
It seems like in general, people who decide that they will decide during labor choose an epi. I think that if you might want to go without, you would need to decide beforehand.

 

That said, I am in the same boat you are in -- or just slightly out of it. I have been reading and reading on unmedicated birth, but I still feel like, "yikes, am I really going to plan on this?" But I think....I am. My last birth was very medical and high-intervention due to a lot of complications, and I like the idea of having a very different experience this time.

Have you looked into Hypnobirthing?  I believe that made a world of difference for me. 


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11-06-2012 at 3:21 PM
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sschwege:

Why do you have to decide right now?  Why not prepare for the birth you want and be open to what the day brings?

The thing is, I can't even decide what kind of birth I want!  Ha!  I can't quite pinpoint why I'm having so much anxiety over the issue.  I feel like non-pregnant, non-hormonal me would be very much into just going with whatever the day brings.  But right now I feel the need to commit to a plan (even if that plan goes by the wayside on d-day)!  But maybe you're right, that I should just need to let this decision go, knowing that whatever happens, happens.


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11-06-2012 at 3:21 PM
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sschwege:

Why do you have to decide right now?  Why not prepare for the birth you want and be open to what the day brings?

I mean let's face it a med-free birth is guaranteed to no one, nor is an epidural.    

Actually, globally speaking a med-free birth is guaranteed to a lot of women. 

I've even heard that in some first world countries epidurals are only given if deemed medically necessary (as in not given for pain relief).

OP: keep reading birth stories, the more variety to them the better, and then make a loose plan for what you think you'd like. 

 
11-06-2012 at 3:24 PM
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I am just going to see what happens and how I feel when I am in labor. My plan is to make the decision when I am in the situation. This approach seems best for me (and from what your post says, for you as well) since I'm not set on a med-free birth, but am open to the possibility. Good luck to you!

 
11-06-2012 at 3:28 PM
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sschwege:

Why do you have to decide right now?  Why not prepare for the birth you want and be open to what the day brings?

I mean let's face it a med-free birth is guaranteed to no one, nor is an epidural.    

Actually, globally speaking a med-free birth is guaranteed to a lot of women. 

I've even heard that in some first world countries epidurals are only given if deemed medically necessary (as in not given for pain relief).

OP: keep reading birth stories, the more variety to them the better, and then make a loose plan for what you think you'd like. 

What I'm saying is you could prepare your entire pregnancy for a med-free birth, but things may go awry and you could end up with every intervention under the sun.  So from a first world perspective it is guaranteed to no one.  Unless of course you decide to go unassisted, which I'm guessing most of us would not!

But you are right from a global perspective there are plenty of 3rd world countries where med-free is the only way, sadly to their detriment. 


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11-06-2012 at 3:29 PM
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I had an epi with my first that only worked on one side.  I did not like the feeling of pain but not being able to move.  I went med-free with my second and although painful, I felt was worth it and plan to do it again.

The best thing to do is to keep reading birth stories, watching videos, talking to friends, etc... Try to take in what actually happened to people versus their opinon on how you should birth.

  Get an overall idea of the different birthing scenarios and whatever makes the most sense for you will hopefully surface.  Keep an open mind whatever you choose and good luck with your delivery!!




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11-06-2012 at 3:33 PM
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not me! I did epidural with my first child and will definitely do it with my second child. It made everything go so much easier and stress free. I am not sure how it will be without it.

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11-06-2012 at 3:36 PM
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sschwege:

Why do you have to decide right now?  Why not prepare for the birth you want and be open to what the day brings?

I mean let's face it a med-free birth is guaranteed to no one, nor is an epidural.    

Yep, this.  

At the same time, I do think there's something to be said for if you do want to avoid the epidural committing to not getting it.  That's not to say that unexpected situations may not arise, but the thing is, going without isn't exactly easy and if you walk in there open to getting the epidural and just in a "wait and see" mindset (which is totally fine, I'm not saying you have to avoid the epidural, I'm just saying if you would like to) you'll likely end up with an epidural.

I was of the "wait and see" mindset and "I'll try to go without as long as possible" and when labor started I was all eff this noise, give me the meds.  And you know what?  It didn't work.  I didn't get pain relief, but I sure got a cascade of interventions that often come along with the epidural.  Because of my experience (and other factors) I'm planning to go unmedicated this time and I'm working hard to prepare for this in a variety of ways.  I'm very committed to it.  

I say do your research, plan for the birth you want (we all know that things might not go as planned, but that doesn't mean you can't plan for the best!), and commit to and be at peace with whatever that is.  But no one can tell you what's right for you.


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This is my 3rd baby and with my 1st 2 I did have an epi.

With my 1st, my plan was to go as long as I could without drugs, but was never opposed to getting an epidural.  After being induced on pitocin and in labor for 12 + hours, extremely hungry and only dilated to a 4, I opted for the epi, them breaking my water at the thought that the baby would be out in the next 4 hours.  I was able to get some rest and sure enough baby was out in less than 4 hours.

With my 2nd I went into labor on my own and contractions were extremely painful, one on top of another and constant for hours with very little dilation.  I opted again for the epi so I could get some rest and relief.  The only problem was that I had to have them redo it since I still had pain on one side.  But after I had it I was just fine.

Recovery was fine afterwards, I was still up and moving within an hour or so after both deliveries and pain was low and I never needed any other medication after delivery except maybe a Tylenol.

I was very anti-narcotics and only went for the epi for pain relief.

 

I think if you choose to go med-free you need to educate yourself and mentally prepare for that as much as you can before you deliver.  Most people that I have talked to, if they go in with a heart set on eh, if I need an epi or drugs, will end up getting one.  But (short of medical emergencies) for a regular med-free birth, the more you prepare yourself mentally, the better off you will be with sticking to it. 

Either way, if you are passionate about having a med free birth, go for it!   I'm in the camp that I wouldn't go get dental work done without novacaine, and I don't see myself giving birth without an epi. ;o)~

 


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11-06-2012 at 3:44 PM
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With my first I definitely had a go-with-the-flow attitude since I had no idea what labor would feel like and how I would tolerate the pain.  I did end up getting an epidural at 8cm mostly because I was scared I would not be able to handle any further increases in the pain.  This time around I'm taking advantage of a doula-on-call service that our hospital offers ($350) so that I have someone in the room who can give me some sense as to where I am in the process and if the pain is likely to get worse or stay the same.  I'm still open to the epi (which was fantastic the first time around), but will avoid it if I can since the whole concept creeps me out.  I think there are just too many variables to stake out a hard and fast position on pain management ahead of time.

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11-06-2012 at 3:58 PM
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Labor is really different for everyone. Personally, I LOVED my epidurals and still had plenty of movement, no trouble BF, and a fine recovery. It was like a miracle to go from really bad pain to feeling fine and being able to talk, laugh, sleep in an instant. However, whatever you decide, I would probably choose to avoid other narcotics if you can. I had stadol pre-epi with my first and it just made me really out of it. Have heard similar stories from others.

Definitely planning on getting an epi again but it was never a debate for me. I figured if I felt I needed it, I'd get it...and I sure felt I needed it. :)  I know women do it all the time med-free, but seriously, I would have had a VERY hard time, and my mom still seems somewhat traumatized by her 1970s med-free births with bad labors (except with my 10 pound plus brother, who was by far the easiest). I wish she had had better pain relief options.


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I'm a FTM & having a hard time deciding. I'm going into the hospital planning to use the bed squat bar [meaning I can't have an epidural] but I know my body and I'm not going to push it, if I get there and realize it's just not working for me I'll take the epi and feel fine about it.
11-06-2012 at 4:31 PM
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My plan is not necessarily to go natural but to play it by ear.  I know the epidural is there and I'll use to if I get so uncomfortable that I can't stand it, but otherwise I'll just be flexible.
 
11-06-2012 at 5:02 PM
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I suggest going in with an open mind (and good support system who is on board with whatever you choose), and see how you do. If you are managing the pain well, great! If it becomes unbearable, there is no shame in getting an epi. Once you are in the situation, I think you'll have a better idea of what you want to do.

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11-06-2012 at 5:08 PM
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I'm a FTM and I plan on getting the epidural, my husband really wants me to and I really have a low tolerance for pain. I have already met with the anesthesiologist and everything. I want to enjoy the birth process and be able to rest. Hope this helps you somehow GL

 
11-06-2012 at 5:35 PM
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11-06-2012 at 5:46 PM
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ngarden01:

I'm just goin' with the flow. I'll figure out what I need when the time comes.

It's not like anyone else is going to be able to tell you what to do - this is sorely YOUR decision!

I am also going to decide when I get there. 


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