My baby girls birthday is also around the corner (Dec. 19th). I struggled at first also, i had no idea what to do for her 1st birthday. So i just went with her nursery theme. Alice in wonderland. It was really hard choosing a location for a babys birthday party, escpecially in december. So i went with a local park, i live in an apartment and our picnic tables are small so that wasnt going to work. hours are from 12-3pm. i know its early but i figured it will be cold outside so i chose the warmest hours. im making most of her decorations from scratch. got the deco ideas from Etsy. im still unsure about what food to serve for kids and adults. but im sure i'll figure something out.
To answer your question about your lil guys birhtday, I think a small celebration with close family and friends would be nice. you know nothing too big. And then maybe have a half year birhtday party in the summer. Thats what im going to do for my baby girls 2 1/2. it just seems easier. a small dinner as a family and a cake. celebrate christmas stress free. and give ur little one a nice birthday party in summer when the weather is nice and isnt so stressing getting family together.
Again, just a thought. =) Good luck on your planning. Happy holidays and Happy Birthday to your little one.