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11-08-2012 at 12:38 PM
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Hosting shower while pregnant?

Background: I am pregnant with our third (our boys are 5 and 11) and am perfectly content with not having a shower, I have turned down 2 (church and friend). We have no baby stuff but can buy it ourselves and plenty of people are so exciting we are having a girl this time so I know she won't do without.

DH's cousin, whom we are both very close to, is expecting her first! She is due 3 weeks after me. She lives a few states away but will be visiting up here before the baby comes; most of the family lives around here.

I would love to host a shower...but will people then feel obligated to offer me one? Or worse, think I'm digging for my own shower? I know I can say "no" but I would hate for someone to insist, and since it is the cousin's first she deserves all the thunder.

There are other people that could offer a shower,I realize I'm not the only person. But she was my maid of honor and I would love to do this for her. 
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11-08-2012 at 12:43 PM
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If I were a guest I wouldn't think anything of it. I wouldn't think you were being "gift grabby" at all. I think it's a really nice offer of you especially since you must be so busy yourself. 

And if anyone does offer, just say no. I'm sure they won't be offended.

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11-08-2012 at 12:50 PM
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People might bring you a little something for your baby but I wouldn't think you were fishing for a shower or gifts for yourself at all.

If you end up getting gifts for yourself, put them aside and open them in private after your cousin's shower is over.  If anyone tries to insist you open their gift, go into a different room to do so or simply say "today is all about the guest of honor, I'll open this later."
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11-08-2012 at 12:53 PM
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Oh gosh, I didn't even think about someone bringing me gifts. Awkward.

Hmmmm...maybe I will have to do some sleuthing and some covert hosting...let her know I'm in on it but keep my name out of it completely. Like a puppet regime, but nice. ;) 
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11-08-2012 at 12:58 PM
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No, honestly, I don't think it would be a problem at all for you to host while pregnant, just obviously don't open anything in front of the guest of honor...
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11-08-2012 at 1:13 PM
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CougFan:

Oh gosh, I didn't even think about someone bringing me gifts. Awkward.

Hmmmm...maybe I will have to do some sleuthing and some covert hosting...let her know I'm in on it but keep my name out of it completely. Like a puppet regime, but nice. ;) 

 

I just hosted my friends shower and I'm much bigger than her cause I'm pregnant with twins.  :)  No one brought me any presents or anything, etc.  I think it's perfectly fine to host.  :)

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11-09-2012 at 10:52 AM
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526SadieSadie:

People might bring you a little something for your baby but I wouldn't think you were fishing for a shower or gifts for yourself at all.

If you end up getting gifts for yourself, put them aside and open them in private after your cousin's shower is over.  If anyone tries to insist you open their gift, go into a different room to do so or simply say "today is all about the guest of honor, I'll open this later."

Yep. This is what I would do. 

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11-09-2012 at 4:56 PM
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I would offer to host it anyways. Especially where she was your MOH, it sounds like you're close. You have 2 other kids and have turned down showers, so no one should think you're fishing, and you can refuse if you get more offers. I don't think many people would bring gifts, but like PPs said, just tell them it's all about the guest of honour and that you'll open it for them privately before they leave.
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11-09-2012 at 9:48 PM
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Go ahead and host it, you close friend will be thankful. If someone does bring a gift just follow pp advice and thank them, move it to the side so you don't take attention from the guest of honor. I would be surprised if someone brought you a gift though.
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11-09-2012 at 11:23 PM
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I think you would be fine hosting. 

Since it is not your first kid - I wouldn't even think of you wanting/having a shower.

I would never bring a gift for you to a shower for someone else. If I wanted to get you something, I would just bring it to you after the baby arrived.  
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11-10-2012 at 9:57 AM
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I don't think of a single situation where I would ever think about it.  Showers are for first time moms and unless I was already going to get you a gift, I wouldn't feel obligated at all to buy you anything. 

If you want to throw her a shower, do it. 
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