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11-08-2012 at 1:12 PM
katt3233
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Conflicted emotions

Everyone knows that pregnancy announcements to IFers suck and hurt. Well my sister is starting to TTC. Ugh! She texted me that they want to start but she feels guilty that she may have a baby before me.

I love my sister to death! For her to get pregnant easily and without any of the heartache I endured would be so great! However for her to be a mom before me, or her to be a mom and me never achieve that, really really sucks!

I realize its very, very likely that she'll get pregnant long before me, and while its what I want her to have for her life, it will hurt.

I hate you, infertility!

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TTC since Jan 2007 with MFI and crappy left tube
IUI#1 (10/09)=ectopic
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Natural (08/12)=M/C of twins at 8 wks with d&c
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11-08-2012 at 1:32 PM
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Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. ((Big Hugs))  That is so incredibly hard. You have every right to feel conflicted. IF is pure hell. I pray with all my heart that you and your sister both get to experience your dream.
TTC #1 Dx: severe MFI
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TESE for DH 08/09/09
ER 08/09/09; ET 08/14/09; Beta #1 08/23/09: 150; Beta #2 08/25/09: 267
TTC #2: FET #1: BFP
ET 06/16/11; Beta #1 06/25/11: 282; Beta #2 06/27/11: 777
First u/s: Twins! Baby A stopped growing @ 9 weeks, forever in our hearts

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11-08-2012 at 3:13 PM
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((hugs))

Yup.

My sister got pregnant 2 mos after getting married.  My nephew is now almost 5 mos old.  If I had her kind of luck, I'd have an almost 4 year old right now.  Sh!t, I'd have 2 kids by now!

Thankfully, she's super awesome & motherhood hasn't changed her one bit but it's still hard.  I'm kind of thankful we'll likely be having ER or ET around Christmas so I can have an excuse to be on bedrest because I don't want to deal with all of the  "BABY'S FIRST CHRISTMAS!!!" crap.  I mean, it's not her fault my ladygarden sucks, but it doesn't make it any easier.

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Me: weird eggs * Him: low motility
8 IUIs of varying med combos: all BFNs
IVF #1 w/ICSI (Long Lupron): 5R, 2M, 1F
3dt of 1 = BFFN
IVF #2 w/ICSI (Antagonist): 10R, 8M, 4F
3dt of 2 = BFMFN
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11-08-2012 at 3:43 PM
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I'm sorry sweetheart. I hope with everything I've got your FET will be successful, whenever that is. 

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First beta 247, second beta 487. 9/20 Twins!
Grow little babies, please, please continue to grow
 
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11-08-2012 at 4:52 PM
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Anasara:
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Yup.
My sister got pregnant 2 mos after getting married.nbsp; My nephew is now almostnbsp;5 mos old.nbsp; If I had her kind of luck, I'd have an almost 4 year old right now.nbsp; Sh!t, I'd have 2 kids by now!
Thankfully, she's super awesome amp; motherhood hasn't changed her one bit but it's still hard.nbsp; I'm kind of thankful we'll likely be having ER or ET around Christmas so I can have an excuse to be on bedrest because I don't wantnbsp;to deal with all of the nbsp;"BABY'S FIRST CHRISTMAS!!!" crap.nbsp; I mean, it's not her fault my ladygarden sucks, but it doesn't make it any easier.

I just KNOW this is going to be me! And honestly I know it's not fair to her to put her life on hold because I can't get KU and stay KU, but dammit it's just not fair!! I'm older, I've been married longer and I've been trying longer. I should be first! :[

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TTC since Jan 2007 with MFI and crappy left tube
IUI#1 (10/09)=ectopic
Natural (03/10)=ectopic
IUI#2 (08/10)=ectopic
IVF#1 (10/11)=BFN
(4 frozen embryos)
Natural (01/12)=ectopic
Emergency lap and left tube removal.Dx with Stage III endo.
Natural (08/12)=M/C of twins at 8 wks with d&c
Waiting for FET 
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11-08-2012 at 9:41 PM
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11-08-2012 at 10:19 PM
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11-09-2012 at 8:41 AM
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:(

Expectation is the root of all heartache ~William Shakespeare
TTC since 1/08-- 2 IVF's (11/09 and 4/10)- total of 10 fert but no embryos for transfer :(
Forced break after abdominal myomectomy
Spring 2011 - IVF #3 - nothing for transfer
Fall/Winter 2011 - IVF #4 - one lost twin between 7-9 weeks
one beautiful little girl born 8/2012 
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11-09-2012 at 10:52 AM
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((HUGS)) IF sucks on so many levels. I don't have a sister, but my cousin is like my sister. She grew up couple houses from ours. She was married 4 years after me and pregnant within the first couple months of being married. I was just in the thick of IF. It sucked. I was happy for her, but couldn't help being sad at the same time. I'm sending lots of prayers your way.

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11-09-2012 at 11:32 AM
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Ohhh this sucks katt3233. The one positive is that you and your sister are close enough that she addressed it immediately with you and shared her feelings. Some families would never have talked about the elephant in the room. It might sound terrible, but I think people should feel at least a little guilty or awkward if they are close to someone with IF and they conceive easily. I know when we thought we were pregnant the first month (the beginnings of 2.5 yrs of problems) I felt guilty thinking it was easy for us when it's so hard for some people. Little did I know I would be one of those 'some people'.

It's such a crappy heartbreaking situation. It sounds like the only thing you can do is maintain that honest communication and separate yourself when you need to.

Take care!

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*unexplained infertility*
Hubby: SA normal (aside from slightly lower motility)
Progesterone: normal
Ovulation: normal
TV Ultrasound: normal
HSG: normal
Day 3 FSH: normal

But 2.5 years and still no baby.....

On our third and final cycle of clomid (days 3-7 - 50mg). On a waiting list for IUI. Wishing and hoping for a miracle in the meantime. 
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11-15-2012 at 1:56 PM
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Preach it!!  Seems like EVERY ONE of my single friends (not in committed relationships, I should say) has gotten pregnant in the past year.  And today I heard about ANOTHER one!  I'm just sick about it.  But I just smile and congratulate them and wish them the best...hopefully my day is coming soon. 
 
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11-20-2012 at 2:10 PM
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Totally understand your situation. From family to friends who have announced they are pregnant.  DH and I have gone through this for 6 years now. 

 Have you tried the free known donor registry? http://knowndonorregistry.com/  If you do try it or have tried it, let me know how it worked for you. 

 
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