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11-08-2012 at 7:10 PM
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Dreading night time :/

Im a ftm and my lo is 1 week old and last night he woke up at 12 after having slept for about 2 hours and was up until 2:15. At that point I couldnt get him to sleep so i gave him to DH. Idk when DH got him to sleep but he woke up again at 3:45 and when we finally got him back to sleep he woke back up at 4 sometime and didnt go back to sleep until 6. I dont think I can do this much longer. I dont make DH help with night time that much because he gets up at 6:30 everyday. I am dreading tonight because I am already feeling to exhausted to go through with it again.I just want to cry my eyes out every night because its just getting so hard. No one told me this was so hard. I love my son so much. I just want to enjoy him being here and all I feel is this anxiety :/ 
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11-08-2012 at 7:21 PM
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It really will get easier! My son is now 7 weeks and we get longer stretches at night. The first two weeks I think he was up every hour & nursing every hour through the night. Just try and get as much sleep as you can whenever he is sleeping. My dh would also let me go upstairs and take a nap in the evening and that helped tremendously as well! You can get through it & everyone feels overwhelmed at first. I had crazy anxiety the first few weeks and it's gone away for the most part. You have a ton of hormones in your body right now but it'll all get back to normal. GL! 
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11-08-2012 at 7:22 PM
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{{hugs}} II'm a FTM too and  remember feeling that way when DH went back to work when LO was 2 weeks.  I hated to wake him up MOTN since he gets up at 6 but some nights I just needed a little help/rest.  Don't be afraid to ask for help.  You have to take care of yourself too.  Hang in there, it will get better!
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11-08-2012 at 7:46 PM
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It is hard! To be honest, I never want to do that first month of babyhood again.  It does get easier though, just hang in there and accept you won't be getting sleep for awhile-I'm still trying to cope.  If your DH can take off work to help, now would be the time, call on your mom, mil, friends, etc to help you out in anyway. My mil drives me crazy and I almost cried when she left after 4 days.
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11-08-2012 at 7:48 PM
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I am in the EXACT same boat as you. One week old and i dread night time :( Same sleep patterns too...
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11-08-2012 at 7:49 PM
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The first couple of weeks is so hard :(  Things will get much better but that doesn't help with the way you feel right now unfortunately.  There is no magic answer, just try to sleep when he does (day and night).  Hang in there, your LO will get his days and nights straightened out soon.
 
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11-08-2012 at 7:54 PM
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I felt the exact same way! Plus, even when LO did fall asleep, I was so nervous about him breathing that I did not sleep well. He is now 10 weeks old. He is not a perfect sleeper but things are much better than a few weeks ago!
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11-08-2012 at 8:12 PM
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awwww (((hugs))) I have been there and trust me, it'll get easier, I swear!!  My LO is 4 1/2 months old but her first few weeks I felt the exact same as you! My husband was only able to take 1 week off after she was born (I was in the hospital for a week, too) so when he went back to work I dreaded the night time because I had no help.  I know he would've helped me if I asked but he was working so I felt taking care of LO was my job.  I hated it.  It's hard to admit it but I really disliked being a mommy at first.  I felt like I made a huge mistake in getting pregnant and wasn't having "fun" at all.  Don't get me wrong, I loved my LO right from the start but I was starting to regret ever wanting to get pregnant.  But, as my hormones leveled out and I was better able to soothe LO it got better and better and better.  Her first 6-8 weeks were the hardest and then it seemed like overnight things changed.  I really started to bond with her, she started sleeping 3-4 hours sometimes 5 and I really started enjoying being a mommy. 

I know sleep deprivation is hard and it messes with your mind and emotions.  I couldn't wait til the weekends when LO would get up w/ her at night and I was able to get at least 4 hours of solid sleep.    It gets better, it gets fun and you''ll actually get to the point where you won't mind getting up with her at night.  Lots of hugs!
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11-08-2012 at 8:12 PM
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I'm a FTM too and let me tell you I would cry and cry and argue with my husband since I was so exhausted and cranky. I thought I'd never get through it and thought how in the world do ppl have more than one kid! My baby is now 10 weeks and it is sooo much easier. We have a routine and I get much more sleep. Right around 9 weeks it got a whole lot better and I'm already entertaining the idea of having another! The first couple of months are just hell. But it will get better. Try to get as much help as possible. Don't be afraid to ask for it. As a new mom you need it!
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11-08-2012 at 9:30 PM
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awwww (((hugs))) I have been there and trust me, it'll get easier, I swear!!  My LO is 4 1/2 months old but her first few weeks I felt the exact same as you! My husband was only able to take 1 week off after she was born (I was in the hospital for a week, too) so when he went back to work I dreaded the night time because I had no help.  I know he would've helped me if I asked but he was working so I felt taking care of LO was my job.  I hated it.  It's hard to admit it but I really disliked being a mommy at first.  I felt like I made a huge mistake in getting pregnant and wasn't having "fun" at all.  Don't get me wrong, I loved my LO right from the start but I was starting to regret ever wanting to get pregnant.  But, as my hormones leveled out and I was better able to soothe LO it got better and better and better.  Her first 6-8 weeks were the hardest and then it seemed like overnight things changed.  I really started to bond with her, she started sleeping 3-4 hours sometimes 5 and I really started enjoying being a mommy. 

I know sleep deprivation is hard and it messes with your mind and emotions.  I couldn't wait til the weekends when LO would get up w/ her at night and I was able to get at least 4 hours of solid sleep.    It gets better, it gets fun and you''ll actually get to the point where you won't mind getting up with her at night.  Lots of hugs!

 

having these same thoughts! and feeling guilty about it. LO is 12 days old, im still extremely hormonal and dh went back to work and is doing nights this week (12 hour shifts) so i see him for maybe 2 hours a day. I've cried everyday, many, many times.  Thank you for sharing, you've made a ftm feel a little better. :)
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11-08-2012 at 11:53 PM
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Once you all get into a little routine it will get better. Honestly with my DD, I started a bedtime routine from the night she came home. Bath, bottle, crib. She woke up, ate, back in the crib. If she cried, I held her for a few.. Then back in the crib. Within a few nights she caught on and has slept 12 hours a night ever since. Just keep your head up and don't get discouraged. Be consistent, and start that "routine." It may work for you. Good luck!
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11-09-2012 at 6:55 AM
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The first month sucks! Where does your baby sleep? Try elevated sleeping if you haven't already. Also get the book Happiest Baby on the Block. Swaddle him too. Hang in there it gets better
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11-09-2012 at 8:02 AM
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My ds is only 4 days old and I am right there with you! I remember it being hard with ds1 but for some reason it seems worse this time! Ds seems to be sleeping all day and going nice long stretches without eating and then it hits 10pm and he is attached to me till 4am! I feed him and try putting him in his cradle and within minutes he 's rooting for more! With dh being off from work I have been able to stay in bed throughout this but next week he goes back and I'll need to go downstairs so I don't wake him and I'm dreading it! It doesn't help that I'm still so sore and crampy from giving birth! I do know from experience that it gets better so hang in there! Hopefully our lo's catch on soon!
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11-09-2012 at 9:19 AM
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As most pp'ers said... it gets better! DS would wake up every 2 hours almost on the dot to eat every night for about the first 7 weeks. And the first 2-3 weeks, he would be up for 2-4 hours during the night. Like you, I once had to get DH up to help because he would not go back to sleep.

Do you have anyone that can come over during the day and let you sleep?

 

Hang in there!

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11-09-2012 at 9:49 AM
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It will get better! Hang in there. People say it all the time and I didn't always listen, but try to nap when your baby naps during the day. Every little bit of sleep you can catch up on during the day helps ease the stress and frustration during the night. Being overtired can do crazy things to our emotions! Also, if you haven't tried them, try the miracle swaddle blanket. My lo hated swaddling at first, but now we retried it weeks later and he sleeps much longer stretches at night. That and a sound machine with white noise! Works wonders!
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11-09-2012 at 1:25 PM
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The best advice I got from a friend on getting through those early days was to learn how to nurse laying down, that way you can sleep while baby eats.  I didn't do that until about 6 weeks with DS1 but I did it right away with DS2 and it saved my sanity many times over!!
 
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11-09-2012 at 5:28 PM
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Im totally in your shoes that is me..glad im not the only one feeling that way i cry sometimes and just feel i cant handle it, but hoping as weeks go by she will get better meantime sending a hug your way and know you are not alone! 
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11-09-2012 at 8:21 PM
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I'm so sorry you feel this way. I have been there, too.  For the first 2-3 weeks, I got so little sleep, I thought I was going to lose my mind.  It really does get better though. Somewhere between 2 & 3 weeks, my LO started going 3-4 hours between feedings at night and sleeping pretty much the whole time in between. Hang in there.  And try waking him every 3 hours during the day if you aren't already so he gets that day time is awake time.  Good luck.
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11-09-2012 at 10:17 PM
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Newborns have their days and nights mixed up.  In utero they were lulled to sleep while you walked around all day, and then they kicked you in the bladder and were awake and moving all night long. 

 

Go out about 9am and get some daylight on baby's retina.  During the day wake every 2-3 hours to feed, closer to 2 hours is best.  no swaddling, keep things bright and noisy.  At night, keep things dark, quiet, swaddled, shushing and rocking.  when baby will let you, let them go 3-4 hours at night between feedings.

 

also know there is a growth spurt at about 1 week, where they make up for the initial time waiting for your milk to come in where they nurse non-stop if you are nursing.

definitely make a SAFE cosleeping bed and lay down and nurse.  get dh on board with geting up, changing diapers and bringing baby to you.  that will help you to get more rest.

sleep during the day when baby sleeps too.

it will get easier.

 
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11-10-2012 at 2:17 AM
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I was a zombie with DD. she also didn't sleep until 15 months. I SAH and DH gets up for work at 5:30 am so I was on my own. I cried many a night. It will get better! Of this is your first take "sleep when they sleep" as gospel! Good luck!
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