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11-08-2012 at 8:07 PM
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Telling the family advice

I'm 12DPO today and got a BFP yesterday and today... I want to tell our families on thanksgiving, but am worried about it possibly being too early. I will be 2 days short of 6 weeks that day. We have a family tradition where we go around the thanksgiving table eating and say one thing we are thankful for. The only rule is it has to be something fun and not cheesy. I think it would be so fun to say "hmm I don't know... Oh wait I have a good one... I'm thankful for being pregnant!"

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11-08-2012 at 8:10 PM
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You and I are just about the same as far as how far along we'll be at Thanksgiving.  We are talking about telling the family then, but I'm leaning towards waiting until Christmas.  I will be almost 9 by then and will have seen the Dr. once.  Plus so many cute things to do around Christmas :)

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11-08-2012 at 8:11 PM
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I think that's super cute!!! My husband and I have debating when to tell we finally agreed this weekend I'm 9 weeks 2 days today!!!
 
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11-08-2012 at 8:28 PM
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I'm not far along, a little over 4 weeks, but we are telling my parents this weekend. We're excited and want to share it with them. I'm pretty sure we're telling in-laws on Thanksgiving.

That's a cute idea, to announce it when the family all says what they're thankful for! I think it's perfect!

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11-08-2012 at 9:04 PM
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Hmm...

Just say.... "I'm thankful for this turkey that will help me grow this baby".

Meh.  Our parents found out immediately because I wasn't drinking.  Well, IL's, that is.  I got my BFP the night before the Hurricane hit the East coast.  

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My parents live 3,000 miles away - we felt it wasn't fair to exclude them, so we told them the same day IL's guessed.

Asides from my two closest friends, everyone else IRL will find out with our holiday cards.

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11-08-2012 at 9:24 PM
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how many family members will be there? is it all the cousins and their kids? if it were me i'd personally wait if there's gonna be a lot of people there. i've never had a m/c, but anyone can have one. I waited until 8 weeks until we saw the baby and heartbeat. but, its your choice. I'm only giving my perspective. 
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11-08-2012 at 10:28 PM
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I, personally, would not tell my entire family at five weeks and a few days. No way. But you should do whatever you're comfortable with.

My parents know by default; we needed help with DD when I had a scare early one morning. That's it. ILs will find out on Thanksgiving, when I'll be 10w. The rest of my family will find out after 12w.


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11-08-2012 at 11:11 PM
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It's hard to keep the secret, but we're not telling until Thanksgiving and I'll be almost 10 weeks. That is IF everything goes smoothly at my first appointment, which is the day before. My parents and DHs parents know now. No one else. There is no right or wrong time, it's whenever you are comfortable with it.
 
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11-09-2012 at 4:47 AM
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I would tell them, even if there is a large group. I think everyone would be thankful for the baby. DH and I told everyone the day after I got my BFP.
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11-09-2012 at 7:50 AM
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We were going to wait until Thanksgiving as well (at 12 weeks).  Our parents and siblings already knew.  We told the aunts and cousins -- at 9 weeks.  We are telling our friends over the next few weeks -- more as we see them.  I am waiting until after Thanksgiving to tell my boss. 

I was all for a big facebook announcement but I'm less into it now.  We will see.  Maybe when we know the gender -- around Christmas.
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I'm in the same boat I will be 7 weeks when I see my parents the weekend before Thanksgiving and we are going to tell them and my brother (and his wife) but that is it. Extended family (aunts uncles cousins) won't know untill Christmas which will be around 12 weeks.

Then when we are at about 7.5 weeks (Thanksgiving) we are telling DH's family at least his parents but it might be his 3 cousins as well he only has 1 aunt and uncle and the 3 cousins so that isn't so much of a deal. But its still kinda up in the air for now. Just waiting till Monday so I can go to the docotor and confirm and then set up my 1st appt!
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11-09-2012 at 10:45 AM
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Thanks for the advice ladies! Our thanksiving gatherings aren't huge... On my side just immediate family, grandmother, and one cousin and her husband.

On dh's side it's just his parents, brother and sis in law and our two closest best friends who always come to the meal.

Because it's not a huge group on either side, I'll probably break down and tell them. BUT, if I have even a hint of self control that day, I might try to wait until Christmas. That would be such a special way to tell them as well... I just don't know if my impatient self can wait that long. : )
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