A first timer said something about her and her DH had to host their own shower and they were POOR and really couldn't afford it but they needed stuff for the baby. She was concerned that no one RSVP'ed and she wasn't sure if she had enough food (lots of appetizer type stuff). She was basically told that "the amount of food" was the least of her problem and that she should have used the money she used to put on the shower to buy what was needed for the baby. While I was typing my response she deleted her post. Course I was basically saying the same thing as the first reply poster...but she probably types faster than me and her's was actually able to post. lol