My husband and I decided not to announce our baby's name nor find out the sex. The sex was a personal decision we made, and not announcing the names because of the meaning behind them and wanting it to be special. I told a friend of mine the names because I wanted an outside opinion of how they sounded together. She has slipped up once and called the baby the girl name we chose in front of my Mom. My Mom didn't hear it, so no big deal. My husband and I told my family the two sets of initials but didn't tell them which sex they went with. My family has been having a good time guessing the names and not knowing if they're boy or girl. My shower was Saturday and instead of a guest book, my friend decided to do an adlibs page. At the very bottom was the initials of the baby. MKG in pink. CLG in blue. My heat dropped. I enjoyed my shower and asked my sisters and Mom who did the pages and they both said my friend. I am mad. I feel like boundaries have been overstepped. I want to call her out but my Mom insists I just drop it. I am sad. I feel like something very important to us was taken away and she overstepped her boundaries. I don't know how to handle this!
"adlibs page" a what?
I'm pretty sure you were playing with fire by even telling people the initials. I understand wanting to keep the name a secret (and the sex) but people can't keep all your rules straight. Your friend probably assumed initals were ok, after all you already told the family the initals, maybe she didn't get that you didn't tell which initials went to which gender....
Regardless, to answer your question, "how would you handle this?"
Honestly, I would probably "joke about it" like next time she's over tell her you almost died when you saw the initials (in a very, "lol..." way)
ETA: that's how I think you should handle this... I wouldn't be in this spot. Not to be snarky. Baby names and sex secrets are annoying. We kept everything a secret with DS and SIL would NOT stop guessing. Like every time I saw her for 20 mins straight she would just say names to me... It was annoying. Finally she guessed it when I wasn't there (to DH) and he told her she was right. She was "SO HAPPY" she guessed... Dude, you said 8,956 names, yes, you finally guessed it!
With DD we just told everyone. I didn't want the stress of not knowing/secrets and stuff...