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11-15-2012 at 11:14 PM
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Anyone tried for a girl?

Wondering if anyone on here has tried to specifically conceive a girl and how it worked? We have two sons and are hoping for a girl (though of course, all that is really important is that the baby is healthy). I've read about so many different things - having sex exactly 3 days before ovulation, the Chinese gender calendar method, eating an acidic diet, low salt intake. I've also read quite a bit on the Shettles method, which includes the sex up to 3 days before ovulation, shallow penetration/ejaculation, and for the female to not have an orgasm. 

 

So anyways, has anyone tried these things and gotten pregnant with girls? :) Thanks! 


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11-15-2012 at 11:27 PM
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Nope, never tried, but I have heard/read somewhere that the X (girl) sperms are slower but endure longer, while the Y(boy) sperm and quicker but die off faster for the most part. The sex 3 days before would make sense to try for a girl if this is true and then closer to ovulation if wanting a boy. I'm sure there's more factors in this like vaginal environment that may or may not be more condusive to either kind of sperm survival. I'm not sure what the shallow ejaculation would do though or the female not to have an orgasm in trying to have a girl...besides the female should always get hers, lol.

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11-15-2012 at 11:29 PM
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Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.

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11-15-2012 at 11:39 PM
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I've read about the Shittles method I believe its called - which is the having sex so many days before ovulation for a girl. Or for a boy when you are ovulating. Based on this we should be having a boy again this time, but we are having a girl. So in our case it didn't work (we were not trying, I just know the dates and that it didn't work) Good luck and I hope you get the girl you want!!!

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11-15-2012 at 11:55 PM
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nk1220:
Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.

There actually is a lot of research going in to this question. While I HATE it when people come around asking how they can get a girl baby, there IS some research going in to it. The OP listed several of the most common things you can find; things doctors will even tell you.

Did you know that the USA is one of (if not the only) countries that you actually can pay to get a girl? Yeah. They'll have lab techs go through and take out the male sperm before implanting it. Weird. And also around $25,000 a pop. The US is also one of the only countries that prefers to have girls over boys these days. Sad that so much emphasis is put on a sex of a child.  


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11-15-2012 at 11:56 PM
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I'm pretty sure you're suppose to eat watermelon. Unless that only works for Sims?

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11-16-2012 at 12:14 AM
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Thanks to the girls who have answered nicely. Like someone said, there actually is a lot of research that has been done, I was just inquiring whether anyone feels that it's worked for them? If you don't like the question, you know you don't have to answer my post. Hehehe. 

 

Here's some stuff I pulled off the internet.

 

According to the theory, male (Y) sperm are faster but more fragile than female (X) sperm. Further, acidic environments harm Y sperm, according to the theory, making conception of a girl more likely[2][page needed]. The Shettles method aims to exploit these two factors.

The Shettles method differs from the Ericsson method, in which the semen is deposited outside the woman and time is given for the fast/slow swimmers to separate before artificial insemination takes place.

[edit]Timing of Intercourse

In order to have a boy insemination should occur as close as possible to the moment of ovulation so that the faster, Y-sperm arrive first and achieve conception, according to the theory. When seeking a girl insemination the couple should seek to have sex 2½ to 3 days before ovulation.

[edit]Sexual Position

Shallow penetration coupled with the sperm deposited close to the entrance favors female conception because the area is more acidic, which inhibits the weaker Y sperm, according to the theory. To allow the Y sperm to reach the egg first (which supposedly moves at a faster rate), deeper penetration should be sought, to deposit the sperm at the least acidic area near the uterus opening.

[edit]Orgasms

Female Orgasm favors male sperm because they make the vaginal environment more alkaline.


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11-16-2012 at 12:31 AM
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mscheevus:
I'm pretty sure you're suppose to eat watermelon. Unless that only works for Sims?

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11-16-2012 at 1:19 AM
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I tried the methods you mentioned above for my boy.  I don't know if it's 100% fool proof on "picking" what you want, I'm sure it's not, we might have just gotten, really, really....really lucky.  BUT, that being said, why not "set it up" where you give yourself the best % of "success"?  I tracked my VM for about a year and got very intune with my body on when I was ovulating/going to get my period.  It all comes down to science, not hoping or praying, but actually doing the work, putting in the research and making things happen.

The scientific fact that the boy sperm swim faster then the girls, can not be disproven.  Sure, maybe a low % of girl sperm will swim faster then a boy once in a while, but again, set yourself up for best possible scenario.

 
11-16-2012 at 4:50 AM
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If I were going to try this, I'd get myself an acupuncturist TCM doctor, one that is Chinese. But I also wouldn't put a lot of faith in it. As of now there isn't a lot science to back it up. 

GL! I hope you get your girl! I am having a boy, and I am already feeling out numbered. lol 


 
11-16-2012 at 5:58 AM
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I never doubted that there is research on this topic. There is research on everything that people think of! I think that there is no sure way of guaranteeing a girl over a boy...if there were ways other than selective breeding via sperm and egg fertility experiments then I'm sure that this information would be published in scientific and medical journals with very little gaps in research and with the support of medical and fertility specialist.This is not the case...yet anyways.

This is a public forum. Therefore I can post what I would like. No puppies and rainbows here. Sorry. And I think it's selfish to think that you should want a girl over a boy. How about being happy you can conceive and produce beautiful healthy children?! Jmo.

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11-16-2012 at 6:36 AM
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TBH (and I never, EVER admit this to anyone IRL) I read a little bit about the Shettles method before TTC this time. Based on our results, it "worked" for us, but I am fully aware that it probably didn't actually do jackshit and I am just coincidentally having a boy.

If you want to get into temping/charting and all that, go ahead. It doesn't hurt to try. Just don't be disappointed if you end up with a third boy.


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11-16-2012 at 6:46 AM
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We didn't try for a girl, but based on our results I believe some of the research may be true. With my first girl, we had sex 3 or 4 days before ovulation and then not again (just by chance) and she was a SHE. With my son and this DD, we had sex the 5 days leading up to and the 2 days after ovulation so there's really no telling if the research could have held true!

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11-16-2012 at 7:40 AM
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Yes, I know exactly how its done.  My husband shot to the right and it worked... boom out popped a girl!

Awesome right.  : )


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11-16-2012 at 7:58 AM
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I aimed right too and we're having a girl.

 

Coincidence? I think not! 


 
11-16-2012 at 8:03 AM
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We did the shettles method this time to possibly make a girl baby, lol.  I have no idea if it worked because we are team green.  I'll let you know in March : )  You never know but I highly doubt that stuff really helps.

I charted with both boys and we had sex right on my ovulation date, I have no idea if it is a coincidence or not.   




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11-16-2012 at 8:32 AM
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I also was very precise in my charting for dd1 and the way timing worked out followed settles. 

Secondly, I was looking for pre-seed (lubricant safe for concieving) and instead found pre-conceive locally. The medical/disclaimer insert said that in their testing, there was a statistically significant  higher number of female babies.

Pregnancy number 2 just happened to be a girl as well, no purposeful rhyme or reason .

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11-16-2012 at 8:53 AM
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nk1220:
Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.

There are real differences between male and female sperm and how they get to the egg, so yes, timing can make a difference, although it's not an exact science. Perhaps you should read up on it.

 


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11-16-2012 at 8:54 AM
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RissKay:

nk1220:
Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.

There actually is a lot of research going in to this question. While I HATE it when people come around asking how they can get a girl baby, there IS some research going in to it. The OP listed several of the most common things you can find; things doctors will even tell you.

Did you know that the USA is one of (if not the only) countries that you actually can pay to get a girl? Yeah. They'll have lab techs go through and take out the male sperm before implanting it. Weird. And also around $25,000 a pop. The US is also one of the only countries that prefers to have girls over boys these days. Sad that so much emphasis is put on a sex of a child.  

You're right -- it is sad that the rest of the world prefers boys... what does that say about the rest of the world?


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11-16-2012 at 8:56 AM
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I know for us, DD was conceived after we had been having sex every day for maybe 4 days before ovulation. DS was conceived after only having sex the day I ovulated.

I can't say for sure which "sex session" conceived DD, but the pattern is there -- assuming the female sperm were still alive and up there waiting for the egg when it popped out.

 

 


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11-16-2012 at 8:58 AM
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nk1220:
I never doubted that there is research on this topic. There is research on everything that people think of! I think that there is no sure way of guaranteeing a girl over a boy...if there were ways other than selective breeding via sperm and egg fertility experiments then I'm sure that this information would be published in scientific and medical journals with very little gaps in research and with the support of medical and fertility specialist.This is not the case...yet anyways. This is a public forum. Therefore I can post what I would like. No puppies and rainbows here. Sorry. And I think it's selfish to think that you should want a girl over a boy. How about being happy you can conceive and produce beautiful healthy children?! Jmo.

Obviously she isn't asking about sure ways...she's just asking about ways to increase her chances. Duh...


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11-16-2012 at 8:59 AM
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mom2b22013:
I've read about the Shittles method I believe its called - which is the having sex so many days before ovulation for a girl. Or for a boy when you are ovulating. Based on this we should be having a boy again this time, but we are having a girl. So in our case it didn't work (we were not trying, I just know the dates and that it didn't work) Good luck and I hope you get the girl you want!!!

 

LOL at "Shittles"

 


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11-16-2012 at 9:05 AM
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hmontty:

nk1220:
Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.

There are real differences between male and female sperm and how they get to the egg, so yes, timing can make a difference, although it's not an exact science. Perhaps you should read up on it.

 

Perhaps you should remove the stick from your butt.  That might explain the cronic b!tchiness and the high and mighty from your tone.  ...


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11-16-2012 at 9:40 AM
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Ok...

So yes I really wanted a girl with my first.  I googled somethings on what can help conceive a girl and figured we would try some.  We had sex at the beginning of ovulation and did not have sex closer to the day I was ovulating.  Also, we went by the chinese gender chart when to conceive a girl.  BAM-girl!  With #2 we did the same thing...BAM-girl.  It may be a coincidence but since it worked both times for me I think there is some truth to it...Just my opinion.


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11-16-2012 at 9:53 AM
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OMG......  you have a 50/50 chance.  WTF.......  Please do not try to get pregnant if you will not be just as thrilled with another son.  

  

 
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My husband only shoots pink sperm. It's a fact.

If you eat a lot of blueberries it will get you a boy since his sperm will be blue.

Strawberries for a girl.


Try it sometime.

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11-16-2012 at 10:03 AM
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hmontty:

nk1220:
Ok if this isn't mud then you need to read up about how fertilization happens and when sex is determined...please realize that you have nothing to do with it. I find it interesting you even think you can influence this. You could always just keep having kids until you pop out a girl. That's a sure bet eventually.


There are real differences between male and female sperm and how they get to the egg, so yes, timing can make a difference, although it's not an exact science. Perhaps you should read up on it.


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This. And you could always watch finding nemo and play "just keep swimming" on repeat. That might work too. Furthermore, how the hell do you know that the sperm your husband ejaculates 4 days before you ovulate is packed full of girl sperm? Oh wait....you dont. It's a 50/50 shot. So I guess you can be half right. Lol. Seriously.

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11-16-2012 at 10:22 AM
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I've heard there is a lot of truth to the Shettles method, but I have never tried it. With both DD's, we just happened to have sex right around the time I was ovulating (the first of maybe 4 ovulation days). Coincidentally, both are girls. We weren't "trying" for a gender either time, but we're thrilled to have our sweet baby girls! GL but don't get too vested in the dream of a girl just in case LO3 is a boy.

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nk1220:
I never doubted that there is research on this topic. There is research on everything that people think of! I think that there is no sure way of guaranteeing a girl over a boy...if there were ways other than selective breeding via sperm and egg fertility experiments then I'm sure that this information would be published in scientific and medical journals with very little gaps in research and with the support of medical and fertility specialist.This is not the case...yet anyways. This is a public forum. Therefore I can post what I would like. No puppies and rainbows here. Sorry. And I think it's selfish to think that you should want a girl over a boy. How about being happy you can conceive and produce beautiful healthy children?! Jmo.

 

YesYes

The whole boy vs girl thing is stupid.

11-16-2012 at 12:20 PM
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I've read about so many different things - having sex exactly 3 days before ovulation, the Chinese gender calendar method, eating an acidic diet, low salt intake. I've also read quite a bit on the Shettles method, which includes the sex up to 3 days before ovulation, shallow penetration/ejaculation, and for the female to not have an orgasm

 

We are having a girl and I definitely wasn't trying either way.  FWIW NONE of the things in bold were true in our circumstance.  Quite the opposite actually.  The last seems cruel.  I still think its a 50/50 shot.


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