My husband and I have pretty much stopped mainly because he is totally freaking out about feeling the baby during the deed. With that said, there are times I offer other services so to speak but minimal sex.

As far as shaving, I've struggled through up until this week which is the first time I can no longer reach. I think I am going to have to have him help me or else go get waxed---it's driving me crazy. 

Edit to add that I don't miss sex at all---just not something I'm craving at the moment. 

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

 ETA: I would have sex every night if he was up for it!  I haven't lost my drive but respect that he is worried. 

ExcitedAunt2b:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

Agree with this 100%

I continued shaving until this week. I was intending to up until the birth, but my doctor actually told me to stop because she was worried if I nicked myself at all there'd be chance of infection should we have to do an emergency c-section. Ask your doctor. It may not be a concern for him/her, but if anything you can always keep things trim and tidy with an electric shaver on the lowest setting. And, if you don't want to stop having sex, don't. Unless you've a medical condition, I wouldn't worry about it.

MelTwe:

My personal grooming habits become more lax when I can't see what I'm doing.  You could switch to waxing or have your husband do it.  I've heard of people doing both.  I personally can do it by feel and hope for the best, but I don't do it as often as usual.  In the mean time I have an electric razor with a trim guard, so things are nice and neat without risk of injury.   I'm sure my husband has his preferences but doesn't say anything because as long as he still gets sex it doesn't much matter what's going on down there.

This. DH likes it shaved, but he's really most interested in just getting to do the deed. Plus (TMI), with the increase is discharge, it's not like his face has been down there in a while. 

Happylove27:

ExcitedAunt2b:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

 

Agree with this 100%

Me too!! 

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

Happylove27:

ExcitedAunt2b:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

 

Agree with this 100%

I don't mean that is what is holding the relationship together.  I have been with my husband for 16 years, married for 8 (we started dating young) and there have been times when we have had an active sex life and times when it has been non-existent.  However, I have been reading more about marriage lately due to some challenges we were having, especially from the man's perspective on intimacy.  Suffice to say that for most men, this is an important part of how they connect to their wives, in the same way that for wives, we often connect through talking and other forms of intimacy....not that we don't want or need sex too...it is just different for women than men.  

We had sex twice I think in the first 26 1/2 weeks of my pregnancy and for us that was really not a good idea.  We drifted apart in other ways as well, even though it was not intentional.  Since that time we have made up for it, and our relationship reflects that.  He is talking a lot more, I feel much closer to him, we feel and act much more like a team, etc.

So, while I won't say that abstinence in marriage is an across the board no-no,  I will say it can often be problematic.  Of course there are other sexual ways to connect, and those are fine.  I am mainly referring to no sexual intimacy at all...which is where we were and that was not good for us. 

rjade9:

We havn't been able to have sex since 21 weeks when I was placed on pelvic rest.  Since being in the hospital at 24 weeks I have tried to shave twice and its just such a hassle! I have given up on it now lol.  But fwiw when I was pregnant with ds1 and we still could have sex I shaved up until I gave birth!

This is a perfect valid reason not to be having sex....just to clarify, this is not the kind of situation to which I was referring in my post.  I am so sorry you have been in the hospital and having such a rough time!  I hope your baby is very well behaved forever....he or she owes you at least that :) 

Happylove27:

ExcitedAunt2b:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

 

Agree with this 100%

Me too.

MelTwe:

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

 

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

Correct.  I did not mean to offend.  The vast majority of resources, etc. on marriage will tell you that sex is an important part of marriage.  If you are in the minority for whom that is not as important, then so be it....as long as that is the honest truth for both you AND your husband....and not something he is just saying because he feels like he has to since you are pregnant.   I thought my husband was fine with our lack of sex for the first 26 weeks....but I was wrong....he was trying to be considerate of me, but it was actually very, very difficult for him and caused us to drift apart in ways that I could not see right off, but now are glaringly obvious.   

Again, did not mean to offend. 

 I may go a few days but even with a little stubble most of the time he doesn't mind. In fact, he told me he likes it better with a little down there.  I can't stand having a bush though, but I'm getting to the point where I'm going to have to put a mirror or something in the bottom of the shower. 

 As for sex, let the urge guide you.

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

Word. 

ally2011:

MelTwe:

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

 

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

 

Correct.  I did not mean to offend.  The vast majority of resources, etc. on marriage will tell you that sex is an important part of marriage.  If you are in the minority for whom that is not as important, then so be it....as long as that is the honest truth for both you AND your husband....and not something he is just saying because he feels like he has to since you are pregnant.   I thought my husband was fine with our lack of sex for the first 26 weeks....but I was wrong....he was trying to be considerate of me, but it was actually very, very difficult for him and caused us to drift apart in ways that I could not see right off, but now are glaringly obvious.   

Again, did not mean to offend. 

I was attempting to shave by feel until about 25 weeks when I lost sight of my lady parts and accidentally shaved part of my fingernail off. That lead me to the conclusion that I would not be shaving any part of my body that was (1) engorged with blood in the event I cut myself, (2) couldn't see, and (3) wasn't being used since I've been on pelvic rest since week 14 . But then I was put on these progesterone suppositories that really made things gross. I got one of those razors with the electric trimmer one the other end and it works great! It has a guard on it so you can't cut yourself.

And believe me, if I could have sex I totally would even though I'm as big as a whale. Being on pelvic rest for the last 20ish weeks has been awful! I'm counting down until I'm off restrictions at 36 weeks :)

I use an electric shaver when I really just have to shave. It's not as good a shave, but you don't really have to see to do it since you can go in any direction and do it dry. I have blond hair, so it's not as big of a deal.

My DH doesn't care, he just wants me to be comfortable. We aren't having sex right now because I'm uncomfortable in a lot of ways, and my baby is also kicking non-stop and I find that doesn't inspire sexy-times. But he wouldn't care if I shaved or not.

ExcitedAunt2b:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

 I don't get this part of your post...my DH and I haven't had sex in almost 5 months because he's freaked out about hurting the baby or feeling her move.  Our relationship is fine and it's even better than before with the baby coming.  If sex is what's holding a relationship together then something is wrong. 

 ETA: I would have sex every night if he was up for it!  I haven't lost my drive but respect that he is worried. 

Too bad there's not a like button!!

I shaved right up until I was on my way to the hospital.  It wasn't the easiest thing in the world but it's doable.  Just be careful and go slow.

There's no way I was giving up sex before the kid was born when I had to give it up after :)

ally2011:

MelTwe:

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

 

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

 

Correct.  I did not mean to offend.  The vast majority of resources, etc. on marriage will tell you that sex is an important part of marriage.  If you are in the minority for whom that is not as important, then so be it....as long as that is the honest truth for both you AND your husband....and not something he is just saying because he feels like he has to since you are pregnant.   I thought my husband was fine with our lack of sex for the first 26 weeks....but I was wrong....he was trying to be considerate of me, but it was actually very, very difficult for him and caused us to drift apart in ways that I could not see right off, but now are glaringly obvious.   

Again, did not mean to offend. 

A better way to have worded that would've been, "From personal experience, I would rethink your not having sex simply because of your being in the third trimester decision." or something along those lines. It DID come across as though you were saying those of us who don't still have sex regularly are doing something negative for their marriages. 

Sure, all marriages have needs that should be met, but not every man is the same. Some men don't "need" sex or sexual acts to feel secure in their marriages, and others do. Just depends on the guy. Just my two cents! 

Keep shaving if you can, wax if you can't. Try electric clippers, too if it's that important to you.  

RissKay:

ally2011:

MelTwe:

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

 

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

 

Correct.  I did not mean to offend.  The vast majority of resources, etc. on marriage will tell you that sex is an important part of marriage.  If you are in the minority for whom that is not as important, then so be it....as long as that is the honest truth for both you AND your husband....and not something he is just saying because he feels like he has to since you are pregnant.   I thought my husband was fine with our lack of sex for the first 26 weeks....but I was wrong....he was trying to be considerate of me, but it was actually very, very difficult for him and caused us to drift apart in ways that I could not see right off, but now are glaringly obvious.   

Again, did not mean to offend. 

A better way to have worded that would've been, "From personal experience, I would rethink your not having sex simply because of your being in the third trimester decision." or something along those lines. It DID come across as though you were saying those of us who don't still have sex regularly are doing something negative for their marriages. 

Sure, all marriages have needs that should be met, but not every man is the same. Some men don't "need" sex or sexual acts to feel secure in their marriages, and others do. Just depends on the guy. Just my two cents! 

Keep shaving if you can, wax if you can't. Try electric clippers, too if it's that important to you.  

 I agree with you on the wording part, but she did explain and clarify her statement so that seems like a moo point and pointless to nitpick.

 And with bolded commment, you did the same thing she did.   It could be interpreted that those couples that "need" sex to feel secure in there marriage are in someway inferior to those that do that don't.    I think that the point it that you should do what works for you as a couple and make sure you discuss it to make sure each partner is having their needs met.

MelTwe:

RissKay:

ally2011:

MelTwe:

MrsT1108:

ally2011:

My friend shaves completely and did until she delivered.  If you can't or get tired of it, you could always get waxed.

And I would not abstain from sex with your husband for 3 months....not good for marriage.  If it is necessary due to medical condition, that is different and there are other things you can do, but I would not stop just because you are in third tri...I have never heard of that. 

WTF does that have to do with anything?  My marriage is just fine thanks, and MH and I haven't dtd since we were TTC.

 

I don't think she meant to be offensive with this comment.  I think it depends on the couple.   I know this wouldn't fly in my marriage, for either side, and would cause problems.  In either case, as long as both partners communicate and are on the same page that's what matters.

 

Correct.  I did not mean to offend.  The vast majority of resources, etc. on marriage will tell you that sex is an important part of marriage.  If you are in the minority for whom that is not as important, then so be it....as long as that is the honest truth for both you AND your husband....and not something he is just saying because he feels like he has to since you are pregnant.   I thought my husband was fine with our lack of sex for the first 26 weeks....but I was wrong....he was trying to be considerate of me, but it was actually very, very difficult for him and caused us to drift apart in ways that I could not see right off, but now are glaringly obvious.   

Again, did not mean to offend. 

A better way to have worded that would've been, "From personal experience, I would rethink your not having sex simply because of your being in the third trimester decision." or something along those lines. It DID come across as though you were saying those of us who don't still have sex regularly are doing something negative for their marriages. 

Sure, all marriages have needs that should be met, but not every man is the same. Some men don't "need" sex or sexual acts to feel secure in their marriages, and others do. Just depends on the guy. Just my two cents! 

Keep shaving if you can, wax if you can't. Try electric clippers, too if it's that important to you.  

 I agree with you on the wording part, but she did explain and clarify her statement so that seems like a moo point and pointless to nitpick.

 And with bolded commment, you did the same thing she did.   It could be interpreted that those couples that "need" sex to feel secure in there marriage are in someway inferior to those that do that don't.    I think that the point it that you should do what works for you as a couple and make sure you discuss it to make sure each partner is having their needs met.