sueann911: Stabward: MrsSmith414:
Wow, def an interesting situation different thats all! Good luck with everything and welcome to the board!
if you don't mind sharing (im nosy too haha) a little bit about your story! How do you feel about all this happening at the same time? I would be soooo scared! Not sure I could handle this! Your a strong women!
I don't mind at all! I'm actually super excited about it. For starters, it will be nice having 2 other friends having babies around the same time as me! If we all get pregnant on the same cycle we will be having babies within a 2 week span!
Basically they are 2 close friends of ours who have been together for 8 years now and want to start a family. They decided they wanted to have 2 really close in age and preferably at the same time. They both want biological children that are also related to each other so they definitely wanted to use the same donor for both.
Like I said, they are good friends, so they know us and my step-son really well so they know that my husband obviously makes cute kids lol. He's in good health with no major medical issues in his family so it was a really good fit! They are both on their 3rd cycle so hopefully they will get their BFP's this time!
Wow. That makes a lot more sense now. For some reason I was imagining your DH advertising his sperm on craigslist. I couldn't believe that two different women were using his sperm. But now it all makes sense. That's awesome that you guys are helping them start their family. I hope it works out for you all and everything goes smoothly. How are you handling the legal side of it as far as visitation or custody goes? Is your DH going to be a figure in their lives as a father or just anonymous sperm donor? (Feel free to not answer if too personal). I knew a couple that used sperm from a male friend. He and his partner stayed in the child's life as a father figure and both couples essentially raised the child together.
hahaha ohhh that would be a hilarious craigslist add!!!
Legally he will be signing over all parental rights of their children. Our 2 friends will be the parents and primary care givers for the kids.
Which brings me to the other reason we all liked the idea of being a known donor. We can still have an involvement with the kids while letting our friends be parents. We are all friends, so our kids will be playing together and we will be seeing each other quite often. We are going to raise their kids and our kid as cousins so that they know they are related in some way (my husband also has really strong genes and all the kids in his family look exactly like, so it will be pretty obvious all our kids are related! lol). That way they know that they are related but still know that our friends are their parents. When they get older and start asking questions we will be filling them in on the details as their age permits.
My step-son is 12 and he already knows everything that's going on. We sat him down and explained it to him before we ever made a total commitment. He understands how they will be related to him, but that it's going to be different than the baby his dad and I are trying to have because they are going to have 2 different parents. He's pretty excited about it too!