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11-19-2012 at 11:42 PM
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longish vent..sorry

It doesent help that i have all these extra emotions, but i cant seem to not cry myself to sleep everynight. It starts in the morning, the husband leaves for work around 5am and im alone untill 6pm. when he gets home the most i get is a hug n a kiss before its strait to xbox >:[, then hes just like bedtime, well i have insomnia and dont get tired untill midnight or later so when he goes to bed at 7-9 i go cuddle thinking something may happen ;). well it doesent so i lay there untill he falls asleep then i go and sit alone all night like i do all day everyday. I get so freaking lonely and it sucks. Then the whole sex thing, we used to do it all the time untill i hit the second trimester, im talking about every day, now its like once a month. I m usually the one to initiate it but all he says is ok just a quickie :( For a pregnant lady who wants love and affection to get a quicky once a month really putts me down. I feel like he doesent find me attractive anymore though he swears he does. So today i figured id dress nice and sexy and maybe he would want to.... Well i put on the only sexy thing i had that would still fit (hubbys old fav) and look in the mirror and break down cause All i see is stoumach, not that i dont love it i do i couldnt be happier, but i feel less atractive now then i did when i was a chubby kid with braces, I just dont know what to do anymore. And to top it all off we moved to alaska for is job, and i left all my family and friends back home, he is all i have :( Sorry so long i just had to get it out to someone who actually listns :(( today im just a sad sad mommy


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11-20-2012 at 12:00 AM
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Awww I'm sorry this is happening to you. Can you sit him down talk about your feelings?

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11-20-2012 at 12:00 AM
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way.  Have you talked to him?  I think women tend to be more subtle about things and expect guys to pick up on them but they don't.  They need things to be more direct.

I understand about moving away - although we're not as far as Alaska, I followed DH to Arkansas and now to Ohio which is 9 hours from my home.  I've made wonderful e-friends over the years and I jokingly call them my 'portable friends'.  They've really saved my sanity on MANY occasions and have become some of my closest friends. 

It's understandable to feel unattractive.  I never really had body image issues before, but when I was pg with DD1 it hit me with how huge and self conscious I felt, before my belly got super duper obviously big.  It was more of a shock because I wasn't expecting it, but it did get easier to deal with as my pregnancy went on.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!   


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11-20-2012 at 12:45 AM
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Awww! I'm so sorry :[

You should definitely talk to him. You shouldn't have to be lonely!

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11-20-2012 at 1:40 AM
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Awe I'm sorry you feel that way. I definitely feel for you! And maybe your hubby finds your belly more attractive than you think? Idk I still feel unattractive more and more with the bigger I get but SO insists it's the sexiest thing he's ever seen...hard to believe when all I see is belly.But cheer up maybe he finds you SOOO beautiful and attractive it intimidates him! ;)
11-20-2012 at 5:23 AM
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I'm sorry you feel so lonely. The hubby thing I think the other ladies have covered. As far as what to do while he is gone start looking on th elocal boards and see if you can find a local bumpie to hang with. And for all your old friends email them or Skype with them. We moved to South Africa for a while because of my husbands job. People only sled me about the weather. It was so annoying.

Also look into places you can volunteer to pass the time. This way you will make some friends nears you as we'll plus you won't spend a lot of time alone. I hope this helps.  


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11-20-2012 at 6:30 AM
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Men are far from mind readers. They need to be old how you are feeling, and how it can be fixed. Just talk to him, it will get better :)

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11-20-2012 at 7:52 AM
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I agree with the PPs, you need to talk to him.  To do that though, you're probably going to have to hide the xbox first.  Seriously. I can't help but judge a grown man that spends that much time with a video game.  You need to get this out before LO gets here, otherwise things will only get worse. Also, I'm not sure how remote of an area you are in, but he cannot be your entire life.  Try and get out and meet people if at all possible.  

 

 


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11-20-2012 at 8:04 AM
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Eko14:
Men are far from mind readers. They need to be old how you are feeling, and how it can be fixed. Just talk to him, it will get better :


This. I'm sorry you're feeling the way you do but the only way to resolve it is to tell him how you're feeling. It's so important to be open and honest about your feelings rather than holding them in. Things only get more stressful when the baby shows up.

Good luck!

 
11-20-2012 at 10:20 AM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. it can be really hard to find yourself attractive when your pregnant. sit down and have a serious talk with him. having to move to Alaska and a baby cant be easy for him either. tell him that you really need to know that he still finds you attractive now more than ever. and remember us fellow bumpies are here for you!

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