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11-20-2012 at 9:43 AM
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so conflicted...

this may be a relatively long post... but... here goes.  I had my baby exactly 2 months ago today.  I just got a full time job, and I start December 3rd.  Okay...background info...before I had my baby, I bought a mattress from a family.  You could tell they didn't have much, but their house was clean and quaint. their daughter has a very mild form of cerebral palsy...she could walk and make facial expressions pertinent to her mood, but she couldnt talk.  She would just smile all the time..so sweet.  The woman was very talkative and sweet.  She was older, maybe in her early 50's or so--she explained that bills were long and money was short and she would LOVE to have a baby to watch to help out a little bit(she didnt know I was pregnant, and I wasnt showing yet).  I let it slip thru out the conversation that I was expecting, and she practically did everything but get down on all 4's begging me to let her keep him.  At the time, I had a babysitter in mind, so I said no.  Plus, I had just met the woman and her family, but they really did seem really nice and genuine.  That was then...fast forward to a week ago.  My mom and I had Connor (who was 7 weeks at the time) at a craft show in town, and we ran into them again! They just ate Connor up.  They started begging again to watch Connor. I still had my baby sitter in mind, so I said no.  Well...Since the craft show, I have gotten a job full time, so I now need a babysitter! I called the woman I had in mind, and she has since decided she isn't going to keep any babies (her son passed away this yr and she said shes been having lots of breakdowns around the holidays).  So...I now have noone to watch Connor when I start work the 1st of December.  My question is..would you let someone you barely know, but seems genuinely kind hearted, watch your child for 4 days, 8-5?  Another thing is, they live sort of far away, but they said they wouldnt mind meeting me halfway.  They really seem sweet, but the logical side of me says not to let them.  I can always put him in daycare...there are some great daycares around here, but what do you think about putting an 8 week old in daycare?  Plus, the daycare is a LOT closer and more convenient.  What should I do? :(
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11-20-2012 at 9:50 AM
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I would put him in daycare. If you run into the family again, you can give the excuse that daycare is closer and you'd already had it arranged. I would not be comfortable with someone I hardly knew (w/no credentials, state check-ins, or other daycare requirements) watching my kid, no matter how nice they are. 
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11-20-2012 at 10:07 AM
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My main concern here would be the distance... I wouldn't want to meet halfway because I don't like anyone driving my baby around other than me and my husband.
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11-20-2012 at 10:10 AM
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I wouldn't be comfortable not really knowing them, unless you know that she babysits for other kids and can ask for phone numbers or references or you know others who do know her and can vouch for her.  If she doesn't babysit other kids and just wants to watch yours because she needs the money, and you don't know her that well, I would have some reservations about it.  Not only do you not know her, you don't know who is in her house and would be around the baby.   Also from a practical standpoint, the distance will be an issue.  You want your baby to be somewhere fairly close by so that you can get there quickly if there is an emergency and them meeting you halfway would probably become an inconvenience for one of you at some point.  I would just go with a daycare center close by.  Don't let her begging make you feel guilty. You have to do what is best for you and your baby, not her.

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11-20-2012 at 10:32 AM
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thank you all.  The family has called our house since we ran into them and asked to keep him again.  I didnt think about all of the regulations you have to have in place, etc.  Thank you again!!!
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11-20-2012 at 10:42 AM
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I'm even a little put off by how pushy they are being about keeping your baby.  You've said no twice already. 

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11-20-2012 at 10:49 AM
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Personally, I would feel uncomfortable with someone I didn't know that was THAT excited and begging to watch my child. Something just irks me about it.
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11-20-2012 at 11:35 AM
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Seems like your instinct is already telling you the right answer. I agree with PP, there's something off about it. I say go for daycare.

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11-20-2012 at 12:08 PM
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The sound kind of psychotic. I would not let them watch my child. Go for daycare.

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11-20-2012 at 12:13 PM
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No, no never ever would I let someone I didn't know well look after my new baby.
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11-20-2012 at 3:17 PM
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danieliza1127:
I'm even a little put off by how pushy they are being about keeping your baby.  You've said no twice already. 

^This. I would be really worried about someone you didn't know asking you so many times. If it was your sister or something, you can expect them to ask over and over, but when it's a stranger I would be wary. Trust your instincts and find someone else.

 Also, I'm a Nanny (well I used to be, I'm a SAHM now) and I would NEVER have behaved like this.
 
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11-20-2012 at 3:44 PM
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No way. If you don't know them, there are no references and she is not licensed in the state then those are all good reasons to say no. You never know about people and who come in and out of their houses. They may just be great people but I personally would not trust that.

There is nothing wrong with putting your baby in daycare at 8 weeks. They are licensed and usually know what they are doing. Start making calls to DC's, I know around here ther are wait lists that are very long.

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11-20-2012 at 4:45 PM
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I'm even a little put off by how pushy they are being about keeping your baby.nbsp; You've said no twice already.nbsp;


I agree with these sentiments. It's really strange how persistent they are being. I wouldn't leave my kids with them. I'd get daycare.
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11-20-2012 at 7:33 PM
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thank you all so much!
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11-21-2012 at 6:01 AM
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danieliza1127:
I'm even a little put off by how pushy they are being about keeping your baby.  You've said no twice already. 

This. Maybe they genuinely want to help, but the fact that they are so pushy sets off red flags IMO. They might be really nice people that just want to help, but even so, I would feel better with a daycare.  

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