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11-21-2012 at 1:06 PM
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Ever heard of this...?

A friend of mine went into labor last week (3 weeks early). Her DH had been out for his brothers birthday that night and had a few drinks. My friend called him and as she and her mom were on the way to hospital to have him meet her there - well when he got there the doctor refused to let him into the delivery room because he had alcohol on his breath. He wasnt like drunk stumbling around or slurring his words but the Dr. said he was not allowed in and was told to wait in the hall - the Dr. then came in and questioned my friend about if she feel safe at home etc. He ended up missing the birth of his daughter and now  they have to have a meeting with CPS. Has anyone ever heard of anything like this before? My fiancee still drinks (usually on football sunday) but now I am thinking about asking him not have anything for the next month until LO is here because of what happened to my friend. 
 
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11-21-2012 at 1:12 PM
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I've never heard of CPS being called, but yes, I've heard of drunk people not being allowed into L&D. They are a liability. DH didn't drink the last few weeks of my pregnancy because he needed to be able to drive me to the hospital if necessary.
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11-21-2012 at 1:13 PM
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Wow! Super sucky!!! Ive never heard of CPS being called. Being let into the L&D room may be a different story. I know my husband had celebration shots after our daughter was born and didnt have any problems getting to see either one of us. Im gonna make sure there are breath mints and gum on hand at all times. 
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11-21-2012 at 1:15 PM
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He had to have clearly been intoxicated.  Also yes, I can see not allowing someone in that state in the delivery room.  Not sure about the CPS thing though, but if there isn't anything to worry about, then there shouldn't be a worry at all.

Also, if I were your friend, I'd be a little peeved if I found out you aired my business, without my permission, on a public forum.  Just saying.

 
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11-21-2012 at 1:19 PM
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MrsT1108:

He had to have clearly been intoxicated.  Also yes, I can see not allowing someone in that state in the delivery room.  Not sure about the CPS thing though, but if there isn't anything to worry about, then there shouldn't be a worry at all.

Also, if I were your friend, I'd be a little peeved if I found out you aired my business, without my permission, on a public forum.  Just saying.

Umm... no one knows who I am or who my friend is. Its not like I gave out her name and phone number. Its the internet, its anonymous. But thanks for your concern.  
 
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11-21-2012 at 1:29 PM
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CartersComing1212:
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He had to have clearly been intoxicated.  Also yes, I can see not allowing someone in that state in the delivery room.  Not sure about the CPS thing though, but if there isn't anything to worry about, then there shouldn't be a worry at all.

Also, if I were your friend, I'd be a little peeved if I found out you aired my business, without my permission, on a public forum.  Just saying.

Umm... no one knows who I am or who my friend is. Its not like I gave out her name and phone number. Its the internet, its anonymous. But thanks for your concern.  

Use of names or not, it's still an ignorant thing to do.  There's clearly lack of brains on your part.
 
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11-21-2012 at 1:31 PM
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I can see why they wouldn't allow him in L&D but don't understand about CPS.
 
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I would have thought it common sense, that a person under the influence is not going to be allowed in the delivery room, they're a danger to themselves and others. I'm not banning my DH from drinking now that I'm getting close, but he knows enough not to get buzzed or drunk and end up missing the birth of his son, or not be able to drive his laboring wife to the hospital.
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11-21-2012 at 1:34 PM
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Meli B:
I can see why they wouldn't allow him in L&D but don't understand about CPS.

This, although I can easily see how there could be more to this story - if her husband got really aggressive when they refused to let him in (which is entirely possible), they might suspect abuse.

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11-21-2012 at 1:37 PM
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MrsT1108:
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MrsT1108:

He had to have clearly been intoxicated.  Also yes, I can see not allowing someone in that state in the delivery room.  Not sure about the CPS thing though, but if there isn't anything to worry about, then there shouldn't be a worry at all.

Also, if I were your friend, I'd be a little peeved if I found out you aired my business, without my permission, on a public forum.  Just saying.

Umm... no one knows who I am or who my friend is. Its not like I gave out her name and phone number. Its the internet, its anonymous. But thanks for your concern.  

Use of names or not, it's still an ignorant thing to do.  There's clearly lack of brains on your part.

 

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11-21-2012 at 1:56 PM
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LauraT25:

Meli B:
I can see why they wouldn't allow him in L&D but don't understand about CPS.

This, although I can easily see how there could be more to this story - if her husband got really aggressive when they refused to let him in (which is entirely possible), they might suspect abuse.

This is what I was thinking.  I'm sure he wasn't happy at the thought of missing his child's birth and probably said a thing or two....
 
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11-21-2012 at 2:06 PM
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Mom2aBoy:
LauraT25:

Meli B:
I can see why they wouldn't allow him in L&D but don't understand about CPS.

This, although I can easily see how there could be more to this story - if her husband got really aggressive when they refused to let him in (which is entirely possible), they might suspect abuse.

This is what I was thinking.  I'm sure he wasn't happy at the thought of missing his child's birth and probably said a thing or two....

I guess this is possible. Never really though of it. My friend swears he had like two drinks and was not drunk, but who knows how he acted when not in her sight. I know a lot of men continue to drink while their SOs are pregnant, and I am just not sure if there is a time when most stop all together just in case LO comes early. I would hate to ruin football sunday for the next month but after this story, I am scared to risk him drinking even a few beers. :(
 
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11-21-2012 at 2:21 PM
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As someone who works in a hospital (though not L&D, so they may have more specific rules), but someone has to be quite visibly intoxicated in order to not be able to enter an area - and I work in pediatrics!

Also, usually there is a social work consult before calling CPS, so in my experience, it sounds like something more fishy may be going on. Hopefully not for your friend's sake, but the crime doesn't seem to fit the punishment with the details provided. 
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11-21-2012 at 5:09 PM
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LauraT25:

Meli B:
I can see why they wouldn't allow him in L&D but don't understand about CPS.

This, although I can easily see how there could be more to this story - if her husband got really aggressive when they refused to let him in (which is entirely possible), they might suspect abuse.

This was my thought also.  There is probably a lot more to the story that your friend is either not telling you or might not even know (if she was busy LABORING she might have missed a lot of what was going on outside her room-she was focused elsewhere).  Plus very few people really "smell" like alcohol after 2 "normal" sized drinks (2 40 ounce beers are different lol) and probably would not be a concern.  Even if I had 2 alcoholic drinks most people wouldn't know and I'm a SUPER light weight.  HE might swear he only had 2 drinks, but if it was enough to make staff uncomfortable I can almost guarantee he had more than that.  

The CPS call does seem a bit much, but again like PP said, if he got physical they might suspect abuse, which it sounds like they did since they specifically questioned your friend.  Most nurses will ask the basic "do you feel safe at home" (because we have to) and if you say yes and there is no reason to suspect differently that's the end of that discussion.  He obviously gave staff something to worry about that he's not admitting to or she's not wanting to admit to.  I can only imagine how embarrassing it would be to have my husband show up DRUNK to my delivery.  
 
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11-21-2012 at 7:02 PM
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As a LEO I can understand any amount of alcohol on the breath would warrant not allowing someone in the room.

Everyone has interpretations of "drunk" and any amount of alcohol on someone's breath can be "drunk". I dealt with drunks every.single.day and a person blowing a .01 can smell exactly like a person blowing a .21

So. My husband has a beer every once in a while but he's stopped even having ONE in case I go into labor and he doesn't want any alcohol in his system.
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11-21-2012 at 7:03 PM
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As far as CPS, they may be forced to call if a parent shows up intoxicated. I'm sure if its how you described it, they'll be fine. It's kind of like if a child comes in with a broken bone, even if its accidental, they have CPS do an investigation
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11-21-2012 at 9:10 PM
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I'll be totally honest here, it sounds like he was drunker than his wife or himself would like to admit. This story doesn't make sense, and if it doesn't make sense, that is because something is missing. Assuming he was drunk, and he got upset when they didn't allow him in L&D for the birth of his child, his actions while inebriated could have resulted in CPS being called. At this point it sounds to me like the husband is furious that he missed the birth, and the mother is doing damage control with her friends so they don't think he is a drunk and clearly it is working since you are buying this story. 
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11-21-2012 at 10:13 PM
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Every time I watch someone getting stopped for a DUI it's "I had two drinks officer"... doesn't matter if they're standing up and talking coherently or they're falling over drunk.

I agree with other posters- don't think your friend is telling you the whole story. Not only would it be bizarre but that's a bit of time/effort/money that the state is taking to do the report, something more serious is likely to have gone on. I would agree with PPs and say that he likely went off when he wasn't allowed into the delivery room. Your friend was likely either not aware or highly embarassed by his behavior and didn't admit to anyone outside of the situation what was going on.
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11-22-2012 at 11:26 PM
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Never heard of it, but it makes sense. 
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