Oh, I am so sad to see this. I have been thinking about you since I read your post yesterday, and I had hoped for a better outcome for you. It's such a hard thing to have to go through, and an experience that will completely change your life. I appreciate you trying to see the positive in it, and that was the biggest thing we took away from it, the fact we knew how much we wanted to be parents.
I agree that the Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss board helped me so much in the month following our loss, so do check that out when you feel up to it. It's wonderful to be surrounded by women who understand the sadness mixed with anger mixed with hope that you will have.
As far as the physical side of the loss goes, I do hope you and your doctor come up with a plan that is best for you. I will say that at 12 weeks, I used Misoprostol (Cytotec) to induce my miscarriage, and even though it was a tough experience, I am so glad that is the route I chose. If you have any questions at all, please don't hesitate to PM me.
I'll be thinking of you, and I hope I see you back on one of the pregnancy boards soon. All my best to you, and I hope you find peace in the coming weeks and months.