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11-23-2012 at 6:14 PM
Tamma254
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Thanksgiving dinner drama...

Almost as soon as my sister got here yesterday, she asked "so are you pregnant yet?" I guess I must have given her an evil look, because she quickly backtracked.

Later on, when I went outside for her to smoke, she asked me "when are you getting DH tested." I told her that we've only been trying nine months, and I've gotten pregnant during that time, I just didn't stay pregnant.

Before they left she asked me why it was such a touchy subject. I didn't know what else to say other than the chemical pregnancy is still a sore subject for me.

Anyone else have family drama yesterday?

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11-23-2012 at 6:23 PM
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Yes. Cousin announced they are Ku, accidently. Which is great, but the hubby was not happy...,at all. Oooops. 
11-23-2012 at 6:27 PM
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No family drama for me but I just wanted to say sorry for your expierence.  I can completely relate.  DH and my family are constantly asking when we are going to have a baby and my all time favorite...."what are you two waiting for??".  DH's cousin said that to me two weeks ago at a family party in front of about 20 people and I had to stop myself from just slapping her upside her head! LOL!

 




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11-23-2012 at 6:32 PM
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My only drama was that my sister kept yelling at my dad. First he said sh!t in front of my 1 yr old niece who now says it as well and then he gave her soda immediately after my sister told him not to. She's pissed and I don't blame her.

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11-23-2012 at 6:34 PM
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My MIL got all, "I know best" on me about everything. Your house needs this done, you didnt do that right, why havent you done this, ect. It was aggravating! But overall, it was a good day.

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11-23-2012 at 7:00 PM
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MIL made a big announcement about how she would love to be a Grandma ASAP, while looking at us. Then, SIL quietly asked me later if we were trying. Bleh. Not good Thanksgiving chat.


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11-23-2012 at 7:04 PM
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We just finished renovating our kitchen on Tuesday and we hosted Thanksgiving. To say getting everything ready was tough is an understatement. My mom was a big help but she was also a big know it all.She made a few comments yesterday about how certain things should have been done earlier so that I wasnt in such a rush an hour before the guests arrived. I was livid and gave her an attitude back and then she was pissed at me all day. Oh well. It was still a great day and a great 1st holiday in our new house


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11-23-2012 at 7:08 PM
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H spent forever detailing his surgery to his family. He knows I don't think they need to know every single detail of our lives and how we can't get pregnant, they know every detail of his varicocele surgery and recovery and when he goes back in and when he has to go have another SA etc etc etc. I left the room and played loudly with my niece to drown him out a little bit.

As far as I know he hasn't told them about my issues and testing yet, but I am sure that is coming. And for most of the evening my MIL sat holding a baby doll talking about how realistic it was and how she misses holding niece and nephew when they were that small and it sure would be nice to hold one like that again. (Umm your son just got done talking to you about our IF issues)



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11-23-2012 at 7:32 PM
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Yup.

Cousin n law announced that her and my cousin were having infertility problems. They have a 4 year old son mind you, and she says "we have officially been trying for 3 months and its not happening. Next month we will start testing to see what the problem is".

I just sat there stuffing my face...I just couldn't believe it.

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11-23-2012 at 7:54 PM
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No family drama, but while we were waiting for dinner a bunch of us were sitting on my mom's front porch when a teenage girl walks by (a former student of mine) pushing a stroller with her 1 yr old son in it, and sporting a very large pregnant belly. She asks how I'm doing, I say "fine, thanks" and then she tells me that she is pregnant again with twin girls.......

I was pretty upset (and so was DH) but we got over it quickly enough and ended up really enjoying dinner with my family. 


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11-23-2012 at 7:55 PM
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CaliforniaDream87:
Yup. Cousin n law announced that her and my cousin were having infertility problems. They have a 4 year old son mind you, and she says "we have officially been trying for 3 months and its not happening. Next month we will start testing to see what the problem is". I just sat there stuffing my face...I just couldn't believe it.

Bahahahaha!!!

11-23-2012 at 8:24 PM
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racheldcarrell:
My MIL got all, "I know best" on me about everything. Your house needs this done, you didnt do that right, why havent you done this, ect. It was aggravating! But overall, it was a good day.

 My Grandma was the same about Thanksgiving dinner.  I know she is use to things being her way, but it got annoying! 


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11-23-2012 at 10:07 PM
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YES!

I ran up to my room while my family was over because my sister is starting to show, and right now I should be showing. Then later we all went out black friday shopping and it was cold and my sisters friend gave her a sweater saying she deserves it, shes pregnant. I wanted to say I should be pregnant right now too.... 


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11-23-2012 at 10:17 PM
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No real drama, but my mom did ask me via phone if I was pregnant yet...just had my mirena removed 9/14 and held off trying the first month bc I had an abnormal pap and colpo.  Started TTC after results came back all clear.  So have really only been trying 2 cycles.  The kicker is, my mom works in the medical field.  Annoying!

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11-23-2012 at 11:11 PM
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At DH's aunt's house, two pregnancies were announced. Some time after I was playing with his baby cousin and his grandmom and aunt said I looked like a "natural" and we needed to "pop out some babies". Thank you inlaws!

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11-24-2012 at 12:10 AM
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No drama this year because we stayed home. A couple years ago, in order to emphasize her prenatal health beliefs, my MIL gave me an article about a cat that had deformed kittens.
11-24-2012 at 12:37 AM
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It wasn't dramatic, because stuff like that doesn't bother me, but EVERYONE wanted to know if we were pregnant yet. I didn't tell everyone that I was on my longest annovulatory cycle yet, but I did make it clear that we were not pregnant and they might have to wait a long time yet.
11-24-2012 at 1:15 AM
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Yep.  My cousin, who is due in March, complained about everything. How 'fat' she was (she's actually lost weight, is all belly, and looks adorable), how sick she felt, and, finally, told me that she was one and done because even though she was IF before, feeling crappy totally wasn't worth having a kid.  How she hates being pregnant and refuses to ever do it again, and that I should be lucky I wasn't pregnant and should rethink it asap.  This, of course, less than a week after my c/p. 

Then they announced they would be electively inducing if she didn't deliver on her due date because her husband has a hunting outing that was 'very important' a few days later and he didn't want to miss his daughter's birth (because he's going hunting either way).

Finally, my grandma passed out note cards and had us play shower games, including when the baby would come, what time of day, her name, how big she'd be, etc.  There are prizes for the winner.  I just cannot wait until Christmas. 



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11-24-2012 at 6:34 AM
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Yep.  My cousin, who is due in March, complained about everything. How 'fat' she was (she's actually lost weight, is all belly, and looks adorable), how sick she felt, and, finally, told me that she was one and done because even though she was IF before, feeling crappy totally wasn't worth having a kid.  How she hates being pregnant and refuses to ever do it again, and that I should be lucky I wasn't pregnant and should rethink it asap.  This, of course, less than a week after my c/p. 

Then they announced they would be electively inducing if she didn't deliver on her due date because her husband has a hunting outing that was 'very important' a few days later and he didn't want to miss his daughter's birth (because he's going hunting either way).

Finally, my grandma passed out note cards and had us play shower games, including when the baby would come, what time of day, her name, how big she'd be, etc.  There are prizes for the winner.  I just cannot wait until Christmas. 

Wow, that's really important to him then, huh? That is ridiculous. Does she know that an induction can take days if the body isn't anywhere near ready?



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11-24-2012 at 6:50 AM
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Then they announced they would be electively inducing if she didn't deliver on her due date because her husband has a hunting outing that was 'very important' a few days later and he didn't want to miss his daughter's birth (because he's going hunting either way).

Wow, that's really important to him then, huh? That is ridiculous. Does she know that an induction can take days if the body isn't anywhere near ready?

I was wondering the exact same thing.  The only defense he really has is that he invented some duck decoy thing a few years ago and I think this hunting trip is for business.  But still - you'd think they could push it back a week or two?  I really do worry she'll be alone while delivering.  Tongue Tied



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11-24-2012 at 7:10 AM
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bbg676:

Then they announced they would be electively inducing if she didn't deliver on her due date because her husband has a hunting outing that was 'very important' a few days later and he didn't want to miss his daughter's birth (because he's going hunting either way).

Wow, that's really important to him then, huh? That is ridiculous. Does she know that an induction can take days if the body isn't anywhere near ready?

I was wondering the exact same thing.  The only defense he really has is that he invented some duck decoy thing a few years ago and I think this hunting trip is for business.  But still - you'd think they could push it back a week or two?  I really do worry she'll be alone while delivering.  Tongue Tied

 

I was induced with DD due to size on my due date (she was a shrimp, they were worried about her not getting proper nutrition from the placenta) and they told me to be prepared to be sent home if they needed the bed and my body wasn't progressing with labor and there was no danger to the baby.

Who plans a hunting trip around the time their child is supposed to be born? You'd think he would have put it at LEAST two weeks past the due date (that's the earliest my dr will induce unless medically necessary). I get hunting season is only so long, but it comes around every year, and water fowl is pretty long, at least here in PA.



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11-24-2012 at 11:55 AM
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No Thanksgiving drama here. But we did get he usual "when are you two having a baby already?" I usually just try and laugh it off and give a vague answer, or a shrug. I know everyone (including us) is ready for a baby in the family. I wish this was the year that I could make an announcement that we were pregnant. Hopfully soon!
11-24-2012 at 12:04 PM
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No real drama here. After 4 years of us telling people we didn't know when we'd be ready to have a baby, most of my family has stopped asking. My cousin did start a conversation that struck a nerve with me.

We were talking about friends who are pregnant and she said that a couple she knows has been trying since July and haven't gotten pregnant yet. She said they're almost 40 and she wonders if they're unable to get pregnant now because they waited for so long to start trying. Ugh. We've also been trying since July, so it made me really defensive, but she doesn't know we're ttc and I didn't want to get into it with her.



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