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11-26-2012 at 7:30 AM
mejane123
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Who technically hosted?

I had my shower a few weeks ago, and I'm kind of confused about who hosted it and therefore how to word thank you notes.

The shower was planned and set up by four of my girlfriends. It was held at one of their houses, but for the time being, she's living with her mom, who was also there and gave a gift [so either way she'll be getting a thank you card] So technically, her mom gave them the use of her house to throw the shower, not my friend. I was thinking about doing a hostess gift, but it seems like that might be excessive for five people. Do I just give one to my friend whose house it was? Or her mom, or all of them?

Thoughts?
 
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11-26-2012 at 7:39 AM
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I would give a hostess gift to all 4 friends who hosted; it doesn't have to be something as big as you might give if just one person had hosted.

In the mom's thank-you note I would mention that it was so nice of her to have the shower in her home. I wouldn't feel obligated to give her a hostess gift since your friends threw it together and made that arrangement with her.

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11-26-2012 at 7:54 AM
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AimeeL85:
I would give a hostess gift to all 4 friends who hosted; it doesn't have to be something as big as you might give if just one person had hosted.In the mom's thankyou note I would mention that it was so nice of her to have the shower in her home. I wouldn't feel obligated to give her a hostess gift since your friends threw it together and made that arrangement with her.


That's kind of what I was thinking, too. Thanks!
 
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11-26-2012 at 9:34 AM
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AimeeL85:

I would give a hostess gift to all 4 friends who hosted; it doesn't have to be something as big as you might give if just one person had hosted.

In the mom's thank-you note I would mention that it was so nice of her to have the shower in her home. I wouldn't feel obligated to give her a hostess gift since your friends threw it together and made that arrangement with her.

This sounds reasonable to me.  If you are particularly close with your friend's mom you could give her a small fruit basket or a box of candy as an additional thank you gesture but I don't think you'd be slighting her if you don't.
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11-26-2012 at 9:59 AM
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AimeeL85:

I would give a hostess gift to all 4 friends who hosted; it doesn't have to be something as big as you might give if just one person had hosted.

In the mom's thank-you note I would mention that it was so nice of her to have the shower in her home. I wouldn't feel obligated to give her a hostess gift since your friends threw it together and made that arrangement with her.

I completely agree with this.

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11-26-2012 at 10:14 PM
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AimeeL85:

I would give a hostess gift to all 4 friends who hosted; it doesn't have to be something as big as you might give if just one person had hosted.

In the mom's thank-you note I would mention that it was so nice of her to have the shower in her home. I wouldn't feel obligated to give her a hostess gift since your friends threw it together and made that arrangement with her.

This sounds like a perfect solution!
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