You are going to have to get pretty crunchy to avoid all of those. My best recommendation is to visit the Environmental Working Group's Skin Deep database (just google it) and you can search different products.
You are going to get all kinds of opinions of whether certain products are safe or not. You really need to do your own research and determine what you are comfortable with.
A lot of people will tell you that you should not be concerned because the products are only on your skin or you use them and wash off. Well, if any of us paid attention in anatomy class, you would probably remember that the skin is the largest organ in the body.
I have found it very interesting living in Europe that certain products commonly sold in the US are banned by the European Union.