Mleasnider: Liz4444: Mleasnider:
I am having my second child. They will be 2 yrs apart. I had a boy first, and This one is a girl. I had two people offer and they r doing it together, but I am helping pay for things too. They r letting me make a lot of decisions on my own, and shopping with me. But I paid for location of event and some food and tableware. We invited family and close friends. No one has complained, and everyone is excited. I wanted to help pay, because showers r so expensive, and this is my second child. I wouldn't do ur own shower, but if someone offers then there's nothing wrong with saying yes. If someone doesn't like u r having another shower then tell them to kiss ur a babies r expensive and most family members and friends would buy something for new baby anyway.nbsp;nbsp;
Yes, babies are expensive. So, you should save your money and spend it on the baby instead of paying for a party. As for the rest of your post and your following post, well, it's too ridiculous to respond to.
And is it really so hard to spell out you and are?
I am using my ipad and it posted twice, but anyway. You are allowed to have ur opinion and I can have my own. I had friends volunteer to have a second shower for me, if u want to hate and be jealous that you don't have friends and family that want to celebrate the birth of a second child then you can do so. It is very common where I live for people to have showers for each baby. My husband and I own two profitable businesses and do not struggle with money, so money's not an issue for me, that is why have volunteered to help my hostesses pay for a few things here and there. I didn't need a shower to get gifts, it's to celebrate the baby.i was referring to the cost of a baby for the average american (making < 30,000 a year) its hard to save for a baby when cost of living is so high. This is my opinion you have a right to your own, but if people want to have 4 showers, if someone offers to throw it, they have a right to accept.
It amazes me that you've managed to run two profitable businesses when you can't even make sense on an internet forum. But then again, I guess there are business where you don't have to be educated to own, so maybe that's the answer.
The purpose of a shower is to shower a new mother with the things she needs for motherhood.
You don't have a bridal shower to shower the wedding or the husband, do you? People don't bring flower arrangements and centerpieces. You buy mixers and sheets....things that a new wife would need to make her life in her new home easier and more comfortable.
You buy a new mom things to make her life easier: blankets, boppies, pacis, strollers, etc. A baby doesn't physically need/want much. They want to feel loved, be fed and kept clean. Legally, they have to have a car seat, but that's still not a need the baby dictates. They don't really care if they have a boob or a bottle, a paci or a nipple, a lap or a boppy. They don't care if it's a new stroller or a second hand one or if the curtains in the room match the sheets on their crib. They don't give two shakes if you throw their dirty diaper in the laundry, in the trash or in diaper genie. This is all stuff that a MOTHER wants and receives in the shower celebrating her entering the world of MOTHERHOOD.
If you want to celebrate the baby, have a party after the baby is here. If you want to celebrate your pregnancy, have a party while you're still pregnant (even though that's kind of attention whoreish, imo). If you're "so rich that you don't need anyone to buy you stuff and can help pay for the shower", why in the world are you letting someone throw you a shower for a second baby? You don't need a shower for two reasons: 1, it's a second baby and 2, you're apparently way better off that most people.