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11-29-2012 at 8:47 AM
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over protective much... slightly long

Yesterday I was in L&D with consistent contractions about 3 to 5 minutes apart, but I was barely dilated and so they sent me home. They told me I was indeed in labor, but this phase can last hours or days. To try to get things moving at home and get rest. I drove myself, because I could. No need for DH or anyone to leave work or be bothered if I can get there. Well I told DH, MIL, two of my sisters, bff, and my one sister blabbed to my mom, about the whole situation. I did not want my mom to know. I plan on calling her when I have the baby, but she is seriously annoying and now won't stop calling me. Last night I was sleeping and she called 3 times in a row because i didn't answer. I must have been at the hospital keeping the new baby a secret from her was her reasoning. So now MIL and DH think I need a freaking baby sitter 24/7 so I don't try to drive myself anywhere! For real?! He won't go to work today. He NEVER misses work. He's an Engineering manager, he can't just miss work. Yes I am still having regular contractions, but I don't feel bad. I just plan on walking a lot and playing on my yoga ball today. Nothing dangerous for goodness sakes. Then I get woken up to my MIL standing in our bedroom. DH and I were still sleeping at 7:45 am and she let herself in to check on me. She insisted on having DS spend the night at their house last night so I could feel better and not worry about him. His school is less than a block from our house so after she dropped him off she stopped over. She could have called on her way. I sleep naked too. The covers had the essential bits covered and I sleep with an eye mask so I didn't have a heart attack at opening my eyes and seeing someone staring at me. My bff said if DH was that worried that she would come visit with me for the day, but he insists he has to be here.

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11-29-2012 at 8:54 AM
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Holy cow- I don't know what I would do if I woke up to MIL standing in my room... Sorry you're being treated like a 3 year old, obviously you can't take care of yourself or recognize when it's time to make the go-time phone calls.... That is the reason I didn't tell anyone that I was being induced with DD, because I knew my mom would be there in the waiting room trying to sneak back the entire time even though I specifically told her no one was allowed. At this point, hopefully you've made good progress and can be through the 'supervision' soon... 

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11-29-2012 at 8:58 AM
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I would be creeped out if MIL was standing in my bedroom, she should have totally called or knocked on the bedroom door!  And what was the point of taking DS overnight to let you rest if she was going to pop in at 7:45 and wake you up anyway?  As for DH, just let him do his thing, its his way of not only protecting you but also being involved with the pregnancy. 

Most of my relatives are low key, but my MIL calls every night to "check in" (even when I'm not pregnant, she calls me or DH every night or every other night) and I find it odd that I haven't talked to her since Sunday and that is because I called her and tomorrow is my due date.  I don't mind, I hate giving the same old report but its like reverse, she should be calling to check in now at the very end, not the last 9 months to tell me I better drink OJ and what names she wants us to use!  =\  GL, hope you have your healthy bundle in your arms soon.

 
11-29-2012 at 9:27 AM
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My Grandmother was like this last pregnancy. I had went into early labor at 34 weeks, they were able to stop it. So they took me out of work for the remainder. Where I lived, I lived with my mother, H, Mother's husband and 7 year old little brother. Upstairs in the apartment above us was my oldest brother, his wife and 2 daughters. My H worked in town,mother worked abut 15 minutes away, SIL about 10. Being home alone was okay because I was in the middle of a town, in which I knew all the EMT and Fire Department staff.

Well my Grandmother did not want me to be "alone". She lives over 3 hours away, but came up staying for weeks at a time. Just so I would not be alone.She stayed for 2 weeks at first, than went home, and came back a day later!! Then stayed another week and 4 days. When she went home I was so relieved. Her thing to me was that I had time now, so she would be back in a week. I think DS1 realized how much she was stressing me out. He came 2 days after she left. I understood that she was just worried, as I think your famioly is. It's jsut so nerve racking sometime to have someone there at all times waiting for anything to be a sign that you need to go at that very moment.


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11-29-2012 at 9:46 AM
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I would freak out, turn off my phone and lock all the doors! I've only woken up once with someone hovering over me [in college my roommate left our door open and I was napping DH was my BF at the time and he came in and I woke to him standing there] I about died.
11-29-2012 at 9:54 AM
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Wow, holy creepshow MIL.

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11-29-2012 at 10:03 AM
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My hubs is like this too almost lol my mom will be here next week and willbe staying with me on the weekends because DH works out of town, she thinks Im going to go early. Im a FTM so I don't mind people being around and asking if everything is ok :) I think its cute that hubs is a little protective.

However if it was his mom that was hovering and freakin out 24/7 ... and walking in on me naked sleeping..... she would get boob punched.. in both boobs


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11-29-2012 at 10:06 AM
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Yea, I would be going nuts!!! You need a day of relaxing and doing your thing without people all up in your face... GL!

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11-29-2012 at 11:28 AM
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jvdavisbaby:

My hubs is like this too almost lol my mom will be here next week and willbe staying with me on the weekends because DH works out of town, she thinks Im going to go early. Im a FTM so I don't mind people being around and asking if everything is ok :) I think its cute that hubs is a little protective.

However if it was his mom that was hovering and freakin out 24/7 ... and walking in on me naked sleeping..... she would get boob punched.. in both boobs

 

 

No making me laugh this preggo! I just about peed my pants about the boob punch in both boobs. Thank God my in-laws aren't like that. Everyone is supportive, but mind their business.

 

Sorry you got a scare! Try to relax. They're just trying to show you they love you, in a messed up way. Good luck!


 
11-29-2012 at 2:32 PM
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jvdavisbaby:

My hubs is like this too almost lol my mom will be here next week and willbe staying with me on the weekends because DH works out of town, she thinks Im going to go early. Im a FTM so I don't mind people being around and asking if everything is ok :) I think its cute that hubs is a little protective.

However if it was his mom that was hovering and freakin out 24/7 ... and walking in on me naked sleeping..... she would get boob punched.. in both boobs

 Yeah, I would lose my s--- at my MIL if she did anything like that. 

But your DH is doing the right thing. In my birthing class one of the dad's asked when he should stop going to work (since labor can take days)...basically she said when active labor starts, someone needs to be babysitting you. For some women, nature will take over when it gets close and they'll just go into the bathroom or closet or whatever and pop the baby out. 

 I was thinking I would do like you and just hang out, but then I could see myself getting in the tub as labor progressed and losing track of contractions or not calling when I should...so I'd let DH be involved if he wants to (if labor is progressing slowly, maybe ask your friend to take a shift?)

But definitely boob punch MIL. 


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11-29-2012 at 2:44 PM
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Wow...this is when I'm so thankful I don't have to deal with my in-laws. (They are in Oregon and we are in Texas) I would have freaked out completely if my mother did something like that, much less my MIL!!! 

My hubby and mother bounce from being super protective to not at all concerned. I've had a few little scares and for about 3 days after they are both nuts, and drive me nuts with the hovering...then we go back to normal. However, as we head into December I'm moderately concerned that hubby keeps taking jobs outside cell phone range and that it would take my Mom about 6 hours to get here...and I have a 200 mile commute to the hospital. Ahh...the joys of rural Texas.

 


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11-29-2012 at 2:56 PM
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WOW.  Yeah, I think I would as politely as possible inform people that I needed space (it's hard enough when you're waiting for things to progress!) and that we would be sure to notify everyone when the time was right.  Then I would lock my doors and shut off my phone and not worry about anyone else.  Jeeze...

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11-29-2012 at 3:25 PM
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It sounds like you let her have way too much power. Her insisted on having your DS stay with her doesn't mean you have to give in. You keep giving in to smaller demands and she'll overstep her bounds and enter your room without knocking, (completely uncalled for!) You keep saying so-and-so "insists," but it's your life, and you're the one in labor. You have every right to be annoyed!
11-30-2012 at 12:14 AM
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peacelovemama:
Wow, holy creepshow MIL.


LOL right?! Geesh. Boundaries. They exist.

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11-30-2012 at 7:22 AM
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OH my LORD. Your DH was HOME and she let herself in?! It would be one thing if she thought you were dying in a puddle in the house all alone, but this is way out of line. If I were your H I would have had words with her.

If your H doesn't go to work, at least he can try to intercept and deflect the crazies for you.


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