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Oh I'd judge her too. My daughter will be 4 in March and is not left alone even in front of the tv. That's just sad. Kids need their parents not a tv.

And to answer your question honestly, I judge a lot of people, probably way more than I should.

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11-29-2012 at 5:55 PM

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Totally judging her. I cannot stand when people do not put their kids to bed at an appropriate time. Also I hate when parents blame the television for some of the things they put on there. As a parent WE are in control of what our children watch, it isnt the medias job to censor all television for our children because we dont want to take the time to do something about it ourselves. It is all part of teaching your child to follow rules and conform to society. Bedtimes are part of that as well. Call me old fashioned but children should learn early to have a strict routine. It makes them better and more organized adults. I can speak coming from a non structured household, and then moving in with my dad to have my world rocked with routines and rules. But I learned the importance of it all thankfully. Tsk tsk to her.

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11-29-2012 at 6:08 PM

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I'd judge that, too. My kids will not have TVs in their rooms. Like, ever.

I also judge people who turn their kids FFing before age two or before they have outgrown the car seat's limits. The AAP made the new rec for a reason, it stuns me when people are like, "Oh, yeah, I heard that, but why?" Or "Yeah, I heard that, but it was just changed recently, so whatever." Recent or not, it's based on research and concerns your child's safety. Anyone who doubts the reasoning for the new rec should google internal decapitation. /off soapbox.

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11-29-2012 at 6:16 PM

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daylights1:

Oh I'd judge her too. My daughter will be 4 in March and is not left alone even in front of the tv. That's just sad. Kids need their parents not a tv.

And to answer your question honestly, I judge a lot of people, probably way more than I should.

wow, so glad you're supermom! lol. if it wasn't for TV, i wouldn't be able to get any laundry or cooking or cleaning done. i also have an almost 4 year old..

unless a person is blatently mistreating/abusing their child, or has them strapped to the roof rack of their car instead of a carseat, i don't really get my panties in a twist over what other people do with their kids. it's just not how i roll.

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11-29-2012 at 6:22 PM

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While I don't want to jump on the "my kid will NEVER watch tv" train, I do think its pretty ridiculous she let a 4 yo watch tv unsupervised and let them fall asleep watching tv. That's going to create some terrible sleeping habits for life. But, there are worse things she could be doing. However this isn't something I would share on Fb knowing I'd be judged.

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11-29-2012 at 6:28 PM

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I don't leave my kiddo alone in front of the Tv, but my two year old never goes to bed before ten. I'm okay with this as we will be gradually moving his bedtime up before he starts school.

As far as the carseat goes, I turned ours around when my son was a year and a half. We don't have rear air in our Crv, and we live in Arizona. it's much more dangerous for my son to sit in 115 degree weather without air than to turn him forward facing at 1 and a half.

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11-29-2012 at 6:34 PM

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Why would you even have a t.v. in LO's room?

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11-29-2012 at 6:51 PM

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lesuth:

As far as the carseat goes, I turned ours around when my son was a year and a half. We don't have rear air in our Crv, and we live in Arizona. it's much more dangerous for my son to sit in 115 degree weather without air than to turn him forward facing at 1 and a half.

Sorry, I call bullshitt. You can start your small SUV five minutes before getting in and it will be sufficiently cool. Just like I start mine five minutes before getting in during the winter to warm it up. Not that hard and absolutely not an excuse to turn early, IMO. In case you can't tell, I'm a very big advocate of this and you will be hard pressed to find an excuse to make me think it's worth the risk of a child's safety.

It's crazy that so many people get defensive about this and start spewing excuses. If you did the research, you'd agree with me. I'm not making this shitt up. The AAP bases their recommendations on extensive research. The National Highway Safety Patrol and CDC back the recommendation.

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11-29-2012 at 7:04 PM

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Wow, I still stand by my decision. When I am home I absolutely could start my car five minutes before I get in, but I am not going to do that at the store, etc.... Judge me if you want, call me a bad parent, whatever. Why would I be looking for excuses to turn my kid around? It's not like it's hard to keep him rear facing otherwise.

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11-29-2012 at 7:16 PM

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SkyBee:
Why would you even have a t.v. in LO's room?

THIS

what.the.eff!!

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11-29-2012 at 7:23 PM

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I really try not to judge BC I know I'm not perfect but its really hard not too. I usually judge a good friend of mine BC her and her husband will leave their little boy alone with either grandparents every weekend to go party. Usually all weekend long.

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11-29-2012 at 7:24 PM

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RussianMommy:
SkyBee:
Why would you even have a t.v. in LO's room?  
THIS
what.the.eff!!

ITA. We were a onetv house growing up and we are now, and i don't see that changing. Kids don't need tvs in their room.

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11-29-2012 at 7:33 PM

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Lol. No I wouldn't judge that. If not for Mickey Mouse and Dora I'd never get anything done. My DD is 2 and rarely goes to bed before 10. I think it's hilarious that people judge me for that. Good lord. There are many more things worthy of judging, IMO.

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11-29-2012 at 7:33 PM

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Yeah that parenting is NMS

I judge my SIL 1.) She tells her kids they dont have to listen to any one but her 2.) She tells her girls they will meet their prince and he will marry them and make their life a fairytale (no lie) 3.) She has four kids and cant pay her mortgage because shes a habitual overspender

I judge my aunt in law. - She breastfed till her son was 7. S.E.V.E.N.

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11-29-2012 at 7:35 PM

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skio:
lesuth:
As far as the carseat goes, I turned ours around when my son was a year and a half. We don't have rear air in our Crv, and we live in Arizona. it's much more dangerous for my son to sit in 115 degree weather without air than to turn him forward facing at 1 and a half.
Sorry, I call bullshitt. You can start your small SUV five minutes before getting in and it will be sufficiently cool. Just like I start mine five minutes before getting in during the winter to warm it up. Not that hard and absolutely not an excuse to turn early, IMO. In case you can't tell, I'm a very big advocate of this and you will be hard pressed to find an excuse to make me think it's worth the risk of a child's safety. It's crazy that so many people get defensive about this and start spewing excuses. If you did the research, you'd agree with me. I'm not making this shitt up. The AAP bases their recommendations on extensive research. The National Highway Safety Patrol and CDC back the recommendation. Oh, bliss, look how you got me goin. lol.

There are cities in CA that will fine you for starting your car and leaving the keys in it. Not always available for every one.

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11-29-2012 at 8:24 PM

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LadyDelilah:
skio:

Sorry, I call bullshitt. You can start your small SUV five minutes before getting in and it will be sufficiently cool. Just like I start mine five minutes before getting in during the winter to warm it up. Not that hard and absolutely not an excuse to turn early, IMO. In case you can't tell, I'm a very big advocate of this and you will be hard pressed to find an excuse to make me think it's worth the risk of a child's safety.

It's crazy that so many people get defensive about this and start spewing excuses. If you did the research, you'd agree with me. I'm not making this shitt up. The AAP bases their recommendations on extensive research. The National Highway Safety Patrol and CDC back the recommendation.

There are cities in CA that will fine you for starting your car and leaving the keys in it. Not always available for every one.

lol. A risk I'd be willing to take. Again, I'm not making shitt up about the safety issues here. A hot or cold car is not a good excuse. Period.

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11-29-2012 at 8:27 PM

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Oh I'd judge her too. My daughter will be 4 in March and is not left alone even in front of the tv. That's just sad. Kids need their parents not a tv.

And to answer your question honestly, I judge a lot of people, probably way more than I should.

wow, so glad you're supermom! lol. if it wasn't for TV, i wouldn't be able to get any laundry or cooking or cleaning done. i also have an almost 4 year old..

unless a person is blatently mistreating/abusing their child, or has them strapped to the roof rack of their car instead of a carseat, i don't really get my panties in a twist over what other people do with their kids. it's just not how i roll.

I'm not super mom by any means. I just don't need to leave my child in front of the tv to get things done. She is allowed TV time but I'm always in the room. She watches tv a few nights a week and never more than an hour. I give her other activities to do while I get things done. Playdoh, watercolors, blocks, quite reading time. TV is not a babysitter and she gains little to nothing from it. Plus, she has chores that she does while I clean like cleaning up after herself, gathering her laundry, setting the table, clearing the table etc. Preschoolers are not helpless.

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11-29-2012 at 8:32 PM

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I judge circumcisers and non-breastfeeders. There. I said it.

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11-29-2012 at 8:35 PM

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lesuth:
Wow, I still stand by my decision. When I am home I absolutely could start my car five minutes before I get in, but I am not going to do that at the store, etc.... Judge me if you want, call me a bad parent, whatever. Why would I be looking for excuses to turn my kid around? It's not like it's hard to keep him rear facing otherwise.

Now I feel bad. I don't think you're a bad parent. Everyone does what they think is best for their kid, and its not like you turned him at 8 months, which I've heard done. It just really riles me up that there is so much misinformation out there about this. I wish pediatricians would be more proactive about informing parents, or that there was more readily available information about the risks of FFing and why the extended RFing rec was made. In some European countries, it's the law to RF until age four. Why does te US suck so bad at safety? I'm just trying to get across that if you've seen the articles and facts I've seen, you wouldn't turn your kid, hot car or not. I'm sorry I took out my frustrations on you and I'm sure you're a wonderful mom.

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11-29-2012 at 8:37 PM

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I judge circumcisers and nonbreastfeeders. There. I said it.

Oh, snap.

How do you feel about epidurals and bedsharing? lol.

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11-29-2012 at 8:41 PM

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tmsgrl:
I judge circumcisers and nonbreastfeeders. There. I said it.
Oh, snap. How do you feel about epidurals and bedsharing? lol.

I like both of them. Bedsharing not as much.

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11-29-2012 at 8:49 PM

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daylights1:

Oh I'd judge her too. My daughter will be 4 in March and is not left alone even in front of the tv. That's just sad. Kids need their parents not a tv.

And to answer your question honestly, I judge a lot of people, probably way more than I should.

wow, so glad you're supermom! lol. if it wasn't for TV, i wouldn't be able to get any laundry or cooking or cleaning done. i also have an almost 4 year old..

unless a person is blatently mistreating/abusing their child, or has them strapped to the roof rack of their car instead of a carseat, i don't really get my panties in a twist over what other people do with their kids. it's just not how i roll.

oh thank you!! i was feeling like crap that i let my 3 yr old watch tv. seriously, i have things i need to get done too that can't only be accomplished during nap time. i love that i can set him up with caillou or something and finish up the dishes or take a shower. kids need to be independent and have their own alone time. no i dont set him up for hours on end or neglect him, but a little bit of tv time isn't going to hurt him!

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11-29-2012 at 8:51 PM

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LadyDelilah:
Yeah that parenting is NMS

I judge my SIL 1.) She tells her kids they dont have to listen to any one but her 2.) She tells her girls they will meet their prince and he will marry them and make their life a fairytale (no lie) 3.) She has four kids and cant pay her mortgage because shes a habitual overspender

I judge my aunt in law. - She breastfed till her son was 7. S.E.V.E.N.

Seven?? Gah.

*squeezes into maternity sized judgey pants*

What was her reasoning?

So excited to meet our baby girl in March!

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11-29-2012 at 8:55 PM

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kellimare:
LadyDelilah:

Yeah that parenting is NMS

I judge my SIL 1.) She tells her kids they dont have to listen to any one but her 2.) She tells her girls they will meet their prince and he will marry them and make their life a fairytale (no lie) 3.) She has four kids and cant pay her mortgage because shes a habitual overspender

I judge my aunt in law. - She breastfed till her son was 7. S.E.V.E.N.

Seven?? Gah.

*squeezes into maternity sized judgey pants*

What was her reasoning?

I just kept eating my Pie at thanksgiving and didnt ask. I think she said something about the connection being mutual... weirdo.

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11-29-2012 at 8:56 PM

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tmsgrl:
I judge circumcisers and non-breastfeeders. There. I said it.

So you judge jewish women who never have the ability to lactate? You kind of suck.

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11-29-2012 at 8:58 PM

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LadyDelilah:
kellimare:
LadyDelilah:

Yeah that parenting is NMS

I judge my SIL 1.) She tells her kids they dont have to listen to any one but her 2.) She tells her girls they will meet their prince and he will marry them and make their life a fairytale (no lie) 3.) She has four kids and cant pay her mortgage because shes a habitual overspender

I judge my aunt in law. - She breastfed till her son was 7. S.E.V.E.N.

Seven?? Gah.

*squeezes into maternity sized judgey pants*

What was her reasoning?

I just kept eating my Pie at thanksgiving and didnt ask. I think she said something about the connection being mutual... weirdo.

Ewwwww

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