I think the idea of having a gigantic party is awesome. Hubby and I plan on doing the same thing, a "NON-TRADITIONAL welcome the baby party" with men and women. After all, it's not just my baby. My hubby is just as excited about this baby as I am.
I think we are overly excited because of all the complications we've had in the past. This is our first child that had to be conveived through IVF and we want to celebrate that with everyone we know because everyone we know is aware of what we have gone through to have a baby.
My BBFs offered to throw us a simple baby shower and I know I'm not supposed to host my own. They argeed to just help me in that they will do all the planning but I will fork out the money to have a big ass party. Sitting for 3 hours in a boring restaurant, opening gifts in front of friends is not my style. And everyone that knows hubby and me know that we are always over the top with parties and such.
We plan on an all day party where our guests are invited with their kids. We will have catering and alcohol along with games for the kids to play and games for the adults to play. It IS a celebration and should be treated as such. This may be the last big ass party we have for a long time after the baby is born.
We aren't expecting gifts but if we do get them, we will open them as we are given them and display them in the house. Of course, I will keep track of gifts to send Thank You cards. Non traditional doesn't mean not polite.
Don't worry about boring the men invited. If you're planning the same thing as we are, I'm sure they will know you're having a PARTY not a baby shower.
And don't feel bad registering. It's not asking for stuff. No one in their right mind ever goes anywhere empty handed anyway. At least a registry will give your guests a "go by" rather than them just bringing any old thing.
Celebrate your bundle of joy any way you want to !!!