Luckbeababy: CiderWench: Luckbeababy: BrazilianPeach: ColeRose:
To me that is just silly. You are here now contributing. Hopefully you are lucky enough to get a BFP sooner than later, isn't that what we all hope for? why should you not be able to share? Not everyone has the time to post as much as they would like, but you should still be able to celebrate your BFP on a board that you joined and have participated on and I am sure you have shared your fair share of congratulations. If Pregnat people can post here from time to time then I don't see why a member of this board who is here because they are actively TTC should not be able to post a BFP. The Politics of posting a BFP here is something I will never understand.
It really isn't that hard to understand.
No joke! It's really common sense but common sense sometimes.... well isn't all that common.
Let me try this way. You go to first tri and you say "OMG I'm so pregnant!!!". You are establishing a relationship with them.
You are an active member of this board and you say "OMG I'm so pregnant!!!". You are transitioning out of this board and sharing news with people who were part of this journey.
You've never been here and say "OMG I'm so pregnant!!!". We don't know you and never will. Therefore the best use of that post is a gif party. And since you can, on the same website, go to a different page to start this new journey you just come across as a show off tool.
Okay, whatever you say. If you are anything less than an active member on this board and announce "OMG I am so pregnant" you are a show off and a tool, because the people here were not a part of your journey. Got it! So I participate, give advice if I have an answer that I think might be helpful, say congrats on BFP posts, participate in the occasional polls and UO's, give my opinion from time to time, do I qualify as being part of your journey and you a part of mine?
Are you purposely trying to be a dense twat? Because it sure as hell seems like it.
Care to elaborate what it is I said that makes me a dense twat? FWIW I do think calling someone a twat is pretty disrespectful so I will refrain from calling you the same.
I'm going to be devil's advocate and stick up for what Luckbeababy is saying. The CONCEPT of whether to announce your BFP is VERY obvious and clear, including to Luckbeababy (I'm assuming). Don't announce if you have hardly ever posted here. Do announce if you are a regular, active poster who people recognize. There is just a big gray area. I wouldn't necessarily say "if you are asking, then don't post" or "you either lurk enough to know your place on the board or you don't."
Last time on my TTC journey I was on this board for about 3 months reading and contributing fairly actively but not nearly as actively as some others. When I got my BFP at the time I didn't know whether to post it because I felt like I was in the gray area. I posted it, got a lot of congrats including from some people who had clearly "remembered" me, and one person who said, "I don't know who you are, but congrats." It was definitely the gray area. I think I was right to post it but I almost didn't do it.
This time around if I get a BFP at the end of this cycle (my third) I will probably not announce it. I'm only sort of active and I've written some dumb posts so probably some people have bad memories of me if they do remember me. ;-) Interestingly, I wasn't a fan of something that Luckybeababy posted on one of my posts but now I'm definitely trying to say I see what she's saying here.