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12-01-2012 at 5:03 PM
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how do you feel about enclosure cards?

How do people feel about enclosure cards?  Are they tacky?  In fact, I am registered at 2 stores, so im wondering if 2 using enclosure cards might be a little much. 

Or are enclosure cards not even needed these days? Do people just check some stores online or ask around to find out where i'm registered if they want to bring a registry gift. 

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12-01-2012 at 5:20 PM
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Personally, I'm not a fan, everyone I know just asks where someone is registered. There really isn't a right or wrong on this one, it's just how your how feels on the subject.
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All invites I've ever received and the ones sent by the hostesses for my two showers all had the registry info printed on them.   Check with whoever is sending your invitations because including the info twice is tacky.  Otherwise, I don't see a difference in having it on the invite or on an enclosure card.
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I think they are annoying, especially if there are two.  I think it's okay to have your host put it on the invite, otherwise, it's easy enough info to track down.
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I don't like those enclosure cards that the stores give out.  To me, it looks pretty trashy to have a store advertisement included in a pretty party invitation.
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I'm not a huge fan of them. To me, it's just another thing to keep track of and eventually lose. 
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It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.

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12-02-2012 at 12:10 AM
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If you have them then add them with the invite.  If the info is already on the invite then obviously you wouldn't need to enclose the cards.  I added the cards since my invites did not give that info.

Personally I absolutely hate it when the registry info is not on the card or the enclosures are not included.  I ALWAYS purchase from the registry IF I have the info.  I will not waste my time tracking down where someone is registered.  I have 3 kids and don't have that kind of time and there are a LOT of places around me where they could register.  Unfortuantely, if the info is not included I don't get from the registry and just buy what I think the MTB will need.  I know some people think they are tacky but maybe those people have more time then I do to track down the registry info.

BTW...the enclosures I used and I've seen do not have any kind of advertisement on it except the website.
 
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Hate them. Just list the info on the invitation.  
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jobiann:
It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.

Umm, registry information has NO place near, in or on wedding invitations. 

As with any type of shower it's okay to include registry information printed on the invitation. Enclosures are horrible in my opinion. If the host has already had the invitations printed then have her spread the word when guests RSVP or ask where the MTB is registered. 
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jobiann:
It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.
?? Gifts should NEVER be mentioned in a wedding invite. 
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It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.
?? Gifts should NEVER be mentioned in a wedding invite.&nbsp;

I read it that PP was on the same page as you, that because the event is not a wedding, the registry info can be included on the invite. Am I having a comprehension fail?
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tahloulah:
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It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.
?? Gifts should NEVER be mentioned in a wedding invite. 
I read it that PP was on the same page as you, that because the event is not a wedding, the registry info can be included on the invite. Am I having a comprehension fail?

 

Haha!  I read it the same way as tahloulah: "because it's not a wedding (where you would NEVER put registry info on or near) you can put the info on the invitation."  But, perhaps I'm wrong, too!

To answer the OP: I hate those registry cards.  Just trash them.  Opening an invitation where the cards fall out first is just so dang off-putting.

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tahloulah:
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It's not a wedding, just have the host note it on the card or have them spread it word of mouth.
?? Gifts should NEVER be mentioned in a wedding invite. 
I read it that PP was on the same page as you, that because the event is not a wedding, the registry info can be included on the invite. Am I having a comprehension fail?
See- I read it as since it's NOT a wedding, don't include the cards.  "Just put the info on the invite" instead is how it read to me.

I may be reading it wrong, though.  But that's how it reads to me. 

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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.
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12-02-2012 at 1:05 PM
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.

Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?
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12-02-2012 at 9:04 PM
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.
Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?

There are a lot of people that I go to showers for that I don't know all that well...including family members.  I almost always RSVP via email although sometimes I call and end up just leaving a message that I'm attending the shower.  I'm not about to play phone tag just to find out where someone is registerd and I don't (and won't) take time to look the info up on-line.  If it is not staring me in the face then...oh well I guess they don't get a gift off the registry.  I don't have a problem with the cards at all...but then I don't open my mail in a way that they would "fall out" I guess.  If the info is not ON the invite I just write down the info myself on the back.  Most the invites I get have the little cards...maybe it's a regional thing?  Two regions.  lol
 
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12-03-2012 at 7:09 AM
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.
Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?

There are a lot of people that I go to showers for that I don't know all that well...including family members.  I almost always RSVP via email although sometimes I call and end up just leaving a message that I'm attending the shower.  I'm not about to play phone tag just to find out where someone is registerd and I don't (and won't) take time to look the info up on-line.  If it is not staring me in the face then...oh well I guess they don't get a gift off the registry.  I don't have a problem with the cards at all...but then I don't open my mail in a way that they would "fall out" I guess.  If the info is not ON the invite I just write down the info myself on the back.  Most the invites I get have the little cards...maybe it's a regional thing?  Two regions.  lol

When you don't include registry information obviously that is the risk you take, that people won't ask. Oh well.

Also, you can just say in the email, "also, where is the MTB registered?" Done. Really NBD.

OP I'm in the don't include it at all camp. Just a personal preference and I don't mind asking where someone is registered.  However, I would say just add it on the card if you want.  Those pieces of paper are annoying. 
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12-03-2012 at 8:37 AM
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Liz4444:
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.
Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?

There are a lot of people that I go to showers for that I don't know all that well...including family members.  I almost always RSVP via email although sometimes I call and end up just leaving a message that I'm attending the shower.  I'm not about to play phone tag just to find out where someone is registerd and I don't (and won't) take time to look the info up on-line.  If it is not staring me in the face then...oh well I guess they don't get a gift off the registry.  I don't have a problem with the cards at all...but then I don't open my mail in a way that they would "fall out" I guess.  If the info is not ON the invite I just write down the info myself on the back.  Most the invites I get have the little cards...maybe it's a regional thing?  Two regions.  lol

I honestly think it is rude to not include the registry information on the invite. The point of a shower is not only welcome the MTB to Motherhood but to also shower her with gifts for the new baby. Not all of the guests invited will know the MTB and frankly don't have the time to go around searching for the information and hounding the hostess for the information. If you are going to invite people to a shower, the least the hostess(es) can do is list the registry information so guests don't have to ask around and/or search for it. The only thing the guest should do is RSVP.

 As for the cards, I really don't care either way. As a personal preference, I like to have the information on the invite.

 
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Liz4444:
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.
Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?

There are a lot of people that I go to showers for that I don't know all that well...including family members.  I almost always RSVP via email although sometimes I call and end up just leaving a message that I'm attending the shower.  I'm not about to play phone tag just to find out where someone is registerd and I don't (and won't) take time to look the info up on-line.  If it is not staring me in the face then...oh well I guess they don't get a gift off the registry.  I don't have a problem with the cards at all...but then I don't open my mail in a way that they would "fall out" I guess.  If the info is not ON the invite I just write down the info myself on the back.  Most the invites I get have the little cards...maybe it's a regional thing?  Two regions.  lol

I honestly think it is rude to not include the registry information on the invite. The point of a shower is not only welcome the MTB to Motherhood but to also shower her with gifts for the new baby. Not all of the guests invited will know the MTB and frankly don't have the time to go around searching for the information and hounding the hostess for the information. If you are going to invite people to a shower, the least the hostess(es) can do is list the registry information so guests don't have to ask around and/or search for it. The only thing the guest should do is RSVP.

 As for the cards, I really don't care either way. As a personal preference, I like to have the information on the invite.

The reason for NOT putting registry information in the cards is because a registry is supposed to be a guide. Not a list of demands.  People can buy whatever they want with their money.  If they don't buy something off the registry that's fine.  If they do want to buy off the registry they'll ask.  

So no, actually it's not rude.  Just RSVP and buy a gift.  If there is no registry listed then you can do whatever you want. 
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I hate the little cards. I think a small note on the invite is perfectly acceptable. I save my invitations and then refer back to them when I go out to shop for their gift. If I get the little cards, I just write it on my invite and throw them away because I always wait till the last minute to shop and I don't want to save a bunch of little pieces of paper. Also, I always shop from the registry if one is provided, but usually don't go looking or asking for one if it isn't staring me in the face, especially if I don't know the hostess well. That's just me , though.

Don't you know your friend or family member well enough to ask them where they are registered?


Yes, I know them well enough to ask. I may forget when I see them, I may not see them between the time I get the invite and te shower. Mostly, I just don't plan ahead I usually buy the present the day before or day of.
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Since the whole point of a shower is to give gifts, I don't see a problem with including registry information on the invitation itself.
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I don't like those enclosure cards that the stores give out.  To me, it looks pretty trashy to have a store advertisement included in a pretty party invitation.

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But I also don't like the info on the invitation. Call me old-fashioned, but I liked the way they did things in the olden days - guests called the hostess or the honoree's mother to ask where the guest of honor was listed. I do realize I'm in the minority, and so for a baby shower, a small mention of one registry at the bottom of an invitation will not incur my wrath. (But please do not do this for a wedding lest steam emit from my nose...)

 
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I don't like those enclosure cards that the stores give out.  To me, it looks pretty trashy to have a store advertisement included in a pretty party invitation.

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But I also don't like the info on the invitation. Call me old-fashioned, but I liked the way they did things in the olden days - guests called the hostess or the honoree's mother to ask where the guest of honor was listed. I do realize I'm in the minority, and so for a baby shower, a small mention of one registry at the bottom of an invitation will not incur my wrath. (But please do not do this for a wedding lest steam emit from my nose...)

 

Thank you.  You said it much better than I did.  
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The reason for NOT putting registry information in the cards is because a registry is supposed to be a guide. Not a list of demands.  People can buy whatever they want with their money.  If they don't buy something off the registry that's fine.  If they do want to buy off the registry they'll ask.  

So no, actually it's not rude.  Just RSVP and buy a gift.  If there is no registry listed then you can do whatever you want. 

Sorry, this is just going to be one of those "agree to disagree" scenarios. If I don't know the MTB, which happens quite often, I want to get MTB something she wants/needs, which is the point of the whole registry. To me, the registry is a guide. And if I don't have it, then it makes my job difficult as a guest to try to figure out what in the heck to get MTB. I find it rude to your guests that you would make them work to find out this information (ex. ask the hostess and/or search stores until I find a registry).

But I will say, that yes, I have bought items not listed on the registry, but that was for close friends. If I'm not close with the MTB, I just want to find something on a registry, buy it, and be done.

 
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I guess I don't see what the difference is of the hostess writing it on the invitation or putting a seperate small card inside the invitation unless I'm understanding many pp'ers wrong. If the registery is included, super.  If not then chances are I'm close enough to the person that I can ask them if they have any specific things they need.  If I'm not that close, I'll wing it. No biggie.
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The reason for NOT putting registry information in the cards is because a registry is supposed to be a guide. Not a list of demands.  People can buy whatever they want with their money.  If they don't buy something off the registry that's fine.  If they do want to buy off the registry they'll ask.  

So no, actually it's not rude.  Just RSVP and buy a gift.  If there is no registry listed then you can do whatever you want. 

Sorry, this is just going to be one of those "agree to disagree" scenarios. If I don't know the MTB, which happens quite often, I want to get MTB something she wants/needs, which is the point of the whole registry. To me, the registry is a guide. And if I don't have it, then it makes my job difficult as a guest to try to figure out what in the heck to get MTB. I find it rude to your guests that you would make them work to find out this information (ex. ask the hostess and/or search stores until I find a registry).

But I will say, that yes, I have bought items not listed on the registry, but that was for close friends. If I'm not close with the MTB, I just want to find something on a registry, buy it, and be done.

Why would you go to a shower for someone you don't know? That's what I'm not understanding.  That seems strange. So Yeah, if you don't actually know that person that well I would say don't buy them a gift at all.  Don't go.  You don't KNOW Them!  
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I guess I don't see what the difference is of the hostess writing it on the invitation or putting a seperate small card inside the invitation unless I'm understanding many pp'ers wrong. If the registery is included, super.  If not then chances are I'm close enough to the person that I can ask them if they have any specific things they need.  If I'm not that close, I'll wing it. No biggie.

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