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12-02-2012 at 3:49 PM
Kissty
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DH having a hard time

LO loves his daddy.  You should see the smiles when DH gets home from work.  For the past 2 weeks DH has been keeping LO since I returned to work.  I only work 4 days a week so DH works the 5th day and some weekend time.  He has been having a hard time soothing LO.  I am not home so he HAS to dealand  it is wearing on him.  He tries everything I do and then some but LO isn't having it.  Dh is getting discouraged (and hurt feelings).  He actually suggested I check on here for some advice for him.  LO cries when I leave the room and when he wakes to Daddy.  He doesn't nap well until I get home in the evenings which means he's up late with DH while I have to sleep.  any advice for my poor DH is greatly appreciated.

 
12-02-2012 at 4:02 PM
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We went through a similar issue when I went back to work.  I was on 2nd shift and DH was on first shift.  He got off at 4 pm and had the LO until midnight when I got home.  I showed him everything I did for LO to soothe her and nothing helped.  I finally realized that he needed to find his own methods for soothing her.  Daddies have their own special way of bonding w/ LO's so he needs to find his.  What sort of things has he tried to soothe him? Rocking, swaddling, paci, sidehold (this works GREAT) - a hold across your belly while standing.  Baby is belly to belly with you or DH, one arm under neck/supporting head and the other inbetween legs/supporting legs and swaying back and forth. LO cries for a bit but falls asleep after a few mins sometimes as long as 10 mins.  Also, maybe try having DH have a worn shirt of yours over his shoulder while trying to soothe so LO can smell you.

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12-02-2012 at 4:07 PM
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laurenhankey:
We went through a similar issue when I went back to work.  I was on 2nd shift and DH was on first shift.  He got off at 4 pm and had the LO until midnight when I got home.  I showed him everything I did for LO to soothe her and nothing helped.  I finally realized that he needed to find his own methods for soothing her.  Daddies have their own special way of bonding w/ LO's so he needs to find his.  What sort of things has he tried to soothe him? Rocking, swaddling, paci, sidehold (this works GREAT) - a hold across your belly while standing.  Baby is belly to belly with you or DH, one arm under neck/supporting head and the other inbetween legs/supporting legs and swaying back and forth. LO cries for a bit but falls asleep after a few mins sometimes as long as 10 mins.  Also, maybe try having DH have a worn shirt of yours over his shoulder while trying to soothe so LO can smell you.

I would have to agree with PP.  The things that my husband does to soothe LO don't work for me - and vice versa!  He has had to come up with his own way of doing things, and does a great job.


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12-02-2012 at 4:20 PM
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I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video (by Harvey Karp).


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12-02-2012 at 5:13 PM
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My DH has a completely different way of soothing DD than me and it works for them. Tell him to just keep trying different things and he will find something that works for him and your LO. It might take some time, but it will get there... I'm sure of it.

 
12-02-2012 at 5:31 PM
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secondaryPULSE:
I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video (by Harvey Karp).

This. Works like magic and my DH does the swaddling and shooshing better than me.


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12-02-2012 at 6:18 PM
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secondaryPULSE:
I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video (by Harvey Karp).

This. Works like magic and my DH does the swaddling and shooshing better than I do.


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12-02-2012 at 7:23 PM
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kmdoh77:

secondaryPULSE:
I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video (by Harvey Karp).

This. Works like magic and my DH does the swaddling and shooshing better than me.

AGREE!!! Yes


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12-02-2012 at 10:31 PM
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secondaryPULSE:
I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video by Harvey Karp.



This!

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12-03-2012 at 8:05 AM
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laurenhankey:
kmdoh77:

secondaryPULSE:
I'd recommend checking out the Happiest Baby on the Block video (by Harvey Karp).

This. Works like magic and my DH does the swaddling and shooshing better than me.

AGREE!!! Yes

Same here.  I can't do the hold correctly, but DH has longer arms and this works well for him.  When DS has the occasional meltdown now DH is the one I call. 

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