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12-03-2012 at 8:57 AM
ashleyr409
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Baby shower this weekend

My favorite cousin is throwing me a babby shower this weekend. No one has rsvp or even bought anything on my baby registry. I am so nervous. She went through a lot of trouble to give me this shower and I dont know if anyone will show. She thought a good idea was this Friday(shower is Sat.) send out reminder text/email messages says:

This is a reminder for Baby Evan's Shower tomorrow at ......... Hope to see you there.

Is this a good idea?

 
12-03-2012 at 9:16 AM
wittyschaf...
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As the host, she could contact the guests that haven't responded yet (sounds like all of them which stinks).  I don't know that I'd send a "reminder" out for it though.  Contacting the non-responders and just explaining she's trying to iron out final numbers so she can order the food or what have you is perfectly OK in my book

As for the gifts, most folks will shop last minute so don't sweat it.  

 
12-03-2012 at 11:03 AM
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wittyschaffy:
As the host, she could contact the guests that haven't responded yet sounds like all of them which stinks. nbsp;I don't know that I'd send a "reminder" out for it though. nbsp;Contacting the nonresponders and just explaining she's trying to iron out final numbers so she can order the food or what have you is perfectly OK in my bookAs for the gifts, most folks will shop last minute so don't sweat it. nbsp;


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12-03-2012 at 11:04 AM
ggatlanta
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I saw this on the other board too and responded about the registry (often people don't buy gifts til the last minute), but I didn't notice the RSVP thing. Do the invites actually say RSVP, or is it regrets-only?

If it's regrets-only, the text is a fine idea, but I'd do it today (Monday) or tomorrow, not Friday. If it is actually RSVP, though, I'd take it a step further, because you are well within your rights to check with each guest individually. Not RSVPing is a serious violation in my book!

 

Here's what has worked for me: contact each guest who hasn't RSVPed, saying something like, "Susie Hostess has been so busy with the shower that she's not sure she's kept up with all the RSVPs, and we don't have yours listed - we are so sorry if you replied and we didn't make a note of it! Should we expect to see you this weekend?"

You can do this via phone, email, whatever... You can even enlist close friends or family members to help contact some of the "outlying" guests (think: your mother should call her friends whom she insisted on inviting although you see them only twice a year, your husband should check with his odd co-worker who awkwardly pushed for an invitation over the water cooler, etc). People are really lazy about RSVPing, and often they need a push - which is super annoying when you have to do twice the work for half the guests!

 


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12-03-2012 at 1:26 PM
MelRC117
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ggatlanta:

I saw this on the other board too and responded about the registry (often people don't buy gifts til the last minute), but I didn't notice the RSVP thing. Do the invites actually say RSVP, or is it regrets-only?

If it's regrets-only, the text is a fine idea, but I'd do it today (Monday) or tomorrow, not Friday. If it is actually RSVP, though, I'd take it a step further, because you are well within your rights to check with each guest individually. Not RSVPing is a serious violation in my book!

 

Here's what has worked for me: contact each guest who hasn't RSVPed, saying something like, "Susie Hostess has been so busy with the shower that she's not sure she's kept up with all the RSVPs, and we don't have yours listed - we are so sorry if you replied and we didn't make a note of it! Should we expect to see you this weekend?"

You can do this via phone, email, whatever... You can even enlist close friends or family members to help contact some of the "outlying" guests (think: your mother should call her friends whom she insisted on inviting although you see them only twice a year, your husband should check with his odd co-worker who awkwardly pushed for an invitation over the water cooler, etc). People are really lazy about RSVPing, and often they need a push - which is super annoying when you have to do twice the work for half the guests!

 

The MTB should not be doing anything about this.  It is the HOSTESS's responsibility.  Her HOSTESS can contact the MTB's mom, and other close family and enlist their help if need be.  I'd be annoyed if I got a text "reminding" me of the shower.


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12-03-2012 at 3:07 PM
rhubarb123
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A good idea is for your hostess to CALL people who have not RSVP'd yet.  Hopefully she included an RSVP date - otherwise how would she know how much food, seating, etc. to have.  If she did not include an RSVP date...she could still call and ask...maybe make the excuse that she forgot to include an RSVP date and she just needed to know numbers to make sure she had enough seating, etc.
 
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