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12-03-2012 at 10:59 AM
rinne129
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Change jobs for less travel?

I am writing on behalf of my husband...

He works as a consultant currently and is very often on the road (NYC one week, Atlanta the next) and often in one location for Monday-Thursdays week after week. Despite numerous pleas with his current company to travel less (especially now with baby on the way), the nature of his work does not allow for such flexibility.

He was recently approached with a non-travel opportunity doing similar work.. You would think this would be a no-brainer.. but its a bit more complicated than that...

If he stays with his current company, he has the opportunity to climb the ladder rather quickly and nearly triple his salary in less than 5 years. He will also continue to have luxury work-from-home days every now and then, but he will also travel... probably even more than he does now.

If he leaves for the new opportunity, he will HAVE to report to an office everyday, monday-friday (no more working from home), but he won't travel at all... his salary, although will still be comfortable, will never blow up they way it could with his current position.

Any other dads (or moms) have experience in such a decision? Advice?


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12-03-2012 at 11:10 AM
rpalen29
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i would just talk to him about your concerns. Sometimes money isn't everything- although it's nice to have, the time you spend with your LO with your DH is more important. What if you go into labor suddenly, and your DH is 2,000 miles away? What about your LO saying it's first word, or first day at school? You said that they aren't very flexible... those milestones may be missed from your DH. Sometimes you need to sacrifice things for the people you love. 

i'm not exactly in the same position, but I was recently let go from my job, I was an assistant scientist at a R&D company. I recently got offered another job, I worked there for 2 days, and realized the chemicals I was working with could harm my baby. I quit after 3 days. Although it would of been nice to start work up again and support my growing family; I didn't want possibly harming my LO on my conscious. 


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12-03-2012 at 11:31 AM
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My husband has been in the opposite postion. He has had the opportunity to take a job that would require significant travel but with a very nice increase in salary. He has chosen to not take the new job because he doesn't want to be away. I respect this, althought the perks of the traveling job would be nice. He would be the one that would miss from the everyday with the boys. For him the $$ and perks is not worth it.

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12-03-2012 at 3:16 PM
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My husband travels for work every week, Monday through Thursday and has for years. I work Friday through Sunday so DD isn't in daycare, but that means DH and I don't see each other much. So essentially, I function as a single mom most of the week and have for almost 4 years. It's not fun, for sure (especially when she was an infant), and I'm a pretty independent person. Being alone a lot wears on you after a while. He's had to miss a lot of the little milestones DD has reached, missed Halloween dress up, the Christmas show at preschool, little stuff I think most parents can take for granted because they are home all of the time.

If my husband could take a job and travel less, I would jump at the chance. The time spent together as a family is far more important than the money, believe me.


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12-03-2012 at 3:35 PM
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I'm in a similar situation. I travel two weeks or so a month and once I get further along will have travel restrictions. I'm trying to work this out with my boss now.

Will he be happy in the other position? Money isn't everything if he's burnt out and missing stuff all the time.


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12-03-2012 at 9:56 PM
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My husband was in the same situation recently. For us, it was a no brainier. no amount of money could replace the time spent together. We learned to live with the slightly lower income, knowing that larger families than ours were able to still manage with equal or less pay. It has also eliminated a lot of stress in both of our lives. I can't say that that's the best choice for you, but for us it definitely was.

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