I agree. It was really a huge adjustment for me & my husband. I developed PPD & he had a lot to deal with. He was gone 50+ hours a week. I had to remind myself a lot that he is going through a lot of changes too. I know he would have loved to be around her more. We even talked about getting divorced because we stopped communicating with each other. My husband also had zero experience with babies but now he is much more involved. also he felt I was nitpicking him if tried to give him advice on how to hold her, feed her... as mothers it all comes so natural to us, but for some men it just takes a little longer. My husband is NO superdad but he tries and he will get the hang of it (even if it takes 10 months to get him to give a bath....)
I agree it would help to talk to him about talking to a counselor. I brought my husband to one of my counseling session & it helped a lot. he could even get some advice from friends or co-workers. after my husband opend up he found out so many people we knew went through similar situations when they had children. Now that our DD is 11 months old we are getting along so much better! it will get better.