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12-03-2012 at 2:42 PM
helloimbre...
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sharing the news?

hello!!  we are almost 5 weeks and my husband and I are so overjoyed by our news that we are having the hardest time keeping it to ourselves. I'm also so scared of miscarriage for some reason even though I never have and this is our first pregnancy.  we have a huge support system, and i just want everyone to know. but for some reason ive convinced myself it may jinx it. crazy, i know. any thoughts/experience?
 
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12-03-2012 at 2:51 PM
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This is my second and we had been ttc this one for over a year. We have told everyone and I am 5 weeks. I don't think there is anything wrong with letting pple share the excitement. Its all a personal choice. There is always a chance something may go wrong but it will be just as hard no matter if u tell pple early or not, that is just my opinion. Congrats!!
 
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12-03-2012 at 3:15 PM
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I had had 1 m/c in the past but we told our parents at 6 weeks and decided this weekend to just let everyone know. I think it got to the point where I was just stressing about "when to tell" and "if I should yet" that it got too overwhelming. I feel so much better now that I don't have to hide and everyone can enjoy our news with us. Its all about when you are comfortable sharing. Congrats to you!!
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12-03-2012 at 4:11 PM
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Hi! Congrats! I am pushing 6 weeks. Smile

This is our 2nd.  The first time we told our parents and siblings right away- like literally the day after we tested. We did stress that it was early and didn't tell EVERYONE- just them.  8 weeks for us was right around Thanksgiving and my Grandmothers Birthday so we decided to tell everyone then

This time we have decided not to tell anyone right away including, and mainly because of, our son. I just want to be cautious and would rather not have to explain to him if something happens.  We will be 8 weeks this time the Thursday before Christmas and I will have already had my first appointment so we are thinking we will tell everyone for Christmas!! 

Tell our son first of course then maybe do a picture of him in a Big Brother shirt with my EDD on a sign and give them to everyone to open at the same time! Big Smile
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12-03-2012 at 4:16 PM
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Do whatever you're comfortable with. If you want to share it with a chosen few, everyone you know, or no at all, it is up to you.

Initially, I only told people I could lean on later if something happened. But after I got out the first trimester, I told everyone. 

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12-03-2012 at 4:33 PM
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My sister didnt tell anyone including me or my parents until 14 weeks. We told right away!
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12-03-2012 at 4:58 PM
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You wont jinx your pregnancy if you tell people about it early on... but it's not crazy to be scared of miscarriage.   Although you've never had one and it's your first pregnancy... miscarriage doesn't discriminate.  

 So you have to decide... if you DO miscarry, would you be okay with un-telling a large number of people while dealing with the emotional trauma of losing the pregnancy. Don't go into it thinking "well, this is my first pregnancy so my risks are SOOOO low so it's okay to tell everyone".  You have to decide for YOU what you're okay with given the absolute worst case scenario.  Some people want to shout it from the rooftops, stats be damned.  Some people wait until they're well into their 2nd trimester (me).  It's such a personal decision.

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12-03-2012 at 7:45 PM
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It is all your own choice.  I know people who did both, some continued to have a healthy pregnancy and some had to then spread the word of a m/c and my heart broke for those.

Do what you are most comfortable with.  Good luck! 
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12-04-2012 at 10:55 AM
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I am almost 10 weeks, and we haven't told yet. And it's HARD not to tell! My sister has a 15 month old and is due to have her second in February. So its babies all the time in my family. I am glad we waited a little, but gonna be very relieved to tell the fam this weekend.
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