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12-03-2012 at 3:27 PM
MMMiller
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I'm enjoying keeping this a secret...

I did my intros yesterday and mentioned this time we aren't telling anyone that we're trying this time.  I'm still in the very beginning of my first cycle but even today I felt like I was walking around with a big secret under my hat.  When we were trying for my first our family knew, friends knew, people at work knew.  This is liberating! Anyone else keeping it a secret? Now if I can just keep my mouth shut when the waiting starts!

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12-03-2012 at 3:37 PM
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Yeah I don't feel the need to announce that to anyone.  Just opens yourself up for a world of rude annoying idiots asking questions.  No thanks.  GL keeping the secret!


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12-03-2012 at 3:39 PM
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almost everyone knows that we are going to start at the beginning of the year, but we have told them that is not totally for sure yet... 

well, we started yesterday... haha... im now in my 2ww... AF is supposed to come 12-19... if she doesn't come by christmas morning, I am going to test! 


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12-03-2012 at 3:40 PM
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Yep total secret my way. No need to let people in our your private affairs...  I do kinda feel like you said though walking around with a hugh secrect and a hugh smile, and noone knows why.  GL
 
12-03-2012 at 3:42 PM
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We are TTC #3, we haven't told anyone that we are.  People know we were on the fence about #3.  I think it will be a big shock to people when it happens!  I enjoy keeping it a secret, I don't want everyone asking if I'm pregnant yet if it takes a while...

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12-03-2012 at 3:44 PM
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not totally a secret. if someone asks, I will tell them that we are trying (unless they are a complete stranger) but most people are respectful enough not to. I am a pretty open person! luckily people that do know we are trying don't ask about it.

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12-03-2012 at 3:46 PM
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We aren't telling people either. We are trying for # 3, as far as everyone we know is concerned we are done having children. It should be interesting when we get our BFP, I'm sure everyone will assume that this pregnancy was a surprise. 

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12-03-2012 at 3:47 PM
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We're keeping it a secret over here too.  It will be our first and we've been TTC for 7 months.  Every once and a while I want to tell, but then I remember how much more excited our families will be when they're surprised.  Although, I am getting annoyed by all the "when do you think you'll start a family?" conversations...GL to you!

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12-03-2012 at 3:49 PM
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We're trying for our first. Thank goodness we didn't tell anyone because it didn't happen immediately. We're on momth 5- still early on but it would have been annoying if we had told everyone immediately. I'm sure they would be harrassing me.

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12-03-2012 at 3:51 PM
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Most family knows we were going to try soon after my surgery. They just don't know how soon :


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12-03-2012 at 3:51 PM
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I didn't feel it was necessary to tell my friends and family that my husband would be ejaculating inside me every time we have sex in hopes of becoming pregnant, personally.



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DX with Non-IR PCOS in October 2012.
Missing RIGHT tube due to a prior surgery to remove cyst-zilla (40 lbs!) at age 12.
HSG showed tube was blocked - cleared by dye. DON'T DO CLOMID WITHOUT AN HSG!
Cycle #8 with 50mg Clomid & TI = BFN
Cycle #9 with 50mg Clomid & TI = No response.
Cycle #10 with Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel shot = BFN
Cycle #11 is a break cycle. Cycle #12 is a break cycle. (The break so nice, she did it twice!) 
12-03-2012 at 3:53 PM
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CLECyclist:
I didn't feel it was necessary to tell my friends and family that my husband would be ejaculating inside me every time we have sex in hopes of becoming pregnant, personally.

 

lol lol lol lol lol 



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12-03-2012 at 3:56 PM
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We aren't telling. We've had enough pressure from family, especially my mom in particular. I'd love to say something but I think I'm more excited about keeping it a secret until it happens.

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12-03-2012 at 3:58 PM
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My husband and I aren't telling ANYBODY. (It is our first) I have a few friends that have been trying for 2 plus years and they are constantly getting asked questions and I just don't think I could deal with my sister asking me every month if I am pregnant and if I am not, having to tell her no. She is already bugging me enough about when we are going to start trying! It will make it a lot more fun telling people you are pregnant when they aren't expecting it at all! Good luck! 
 
12-03-2012 at 4:03 PM
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We didn't tell anyone right away.  After my first loss I told my sister and bil. After the second I told my sil and her husband and my best friend.  

Thats it and that's all we are going to tell.  



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BFP #2 10.15.12 EDD 6.28.13 c/p 10.19.12 @4wks.
BFP #3 1.19.13 EDD 10.1.13
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12-03-2012 at 4:05 PM
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Well, we have just decided to give it a try this month, so everything is very new for us. This will be our first. We are both pretty young, so it will probably come as a little bit of a surprise to most people we know. We will definitely not be telling anyone, at least for now. I guess we will see what happens. If things end up taking a lot longer than we are expecting, we could break down and end up telling some family and very close friends. I also know that as a young, newly married couple there would be people who would have negative opinions about us having kids. We are both just finishing school and starting careers. But, in my opinion this is our choice and we are not going to let other people give us negative comments about the choice we are very excited about. I personally like having this as a secret that just we know. 

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12-03-2012 at 4:05 PM
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We have not told anyone, I don't want the questions! Sometimes I wish I had someone to talk to (in real life, internet friends are fantastic!) but it is so much easier not getting asked "Are you pregnant yet"

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12-03-2012 at 4:07 PM
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We are also on our first cycle of trying and have only told our best "couple" friends who are also ttc. We don't feel the need to involve anyone else yet, though there was some speculation when I didn't drink as much as usual at a deployment party for a friend over the weekend.
 
12-03-2012 at 4:08 PM
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also not telling here. My grandmother is having a memorial thing next July 4th. I casually said to my sister "what if I'm pregnant" (had not started but the wheels were in motion) her response was, "eww not yet, you just got married"

not the response I would want if we were to tell family we were trying


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12-03-2012 at 4:10 PM
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My family thinks we are starting in January, so November and December are a secret and I am loving it.  It is very liberating!


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12-03-2012 at 4:13 PM
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We are keeping it a secret for the most part. My sisters know I had my IUD removed and my best friend knows were trying. 

I only told my older sister and best friend when we were trying for DD. It kept the pressure off! My MIL still thinks DD was an accident no matter what I say. She insists that if we were gonna try for a baby we would've told him. Same this time around. She says that we "aren't ready" for another baby because they will be "too close together". She thinks she's the ruler of my uterus so it's best to keep it a secret. 

12-03-2012 at 4:17 PM
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We didn't tell people when we first started TTC.  I thought it would be fun to surprise people with a pregnancy announcement.  Once we started IF testing, we began to tell people.  I think it would have been harder going through IF "alone."  We are lucky that the people in our life that know about our IF diagnosis are polite enough not to ask us about TTC. 




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January 2013: Consultation with RE#2
January 2013: CF screening shows that I am a carrier of CF. Thankfully, DH's screening shows that he is not a carrier of CF. Sperm antibody tests are negative for both of us. According to our RE we are Unexplained IF
March 2013: Post coital tests show possible hostile CM. So, maybe not so unexplained?
April 2013: Unmedicated IUI after yet another bad bad PCT. = BFN
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12-03-2012 at 4:21 PM
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I am so glad I kept it a secret. I do not even want to think about how much people would be nagging me if I had mentioned this six months ago. It would have just added to the stress, I think. Plus, I feel like I'll get enough unasked for advice once I do get KU - I don't need it now. 


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12-03-2012 at 4:48 PM
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well we all know what your secret smile is for! we just started trying this month, for the very first time! im also having a super hard time not telling anyone we are trying either. a small part of me just wants to vomit the words, we didnt use protection last night! in the middle of conversations. i cant imagine holding in as big a secret as yours!

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12-03-2012 at 5:08 PM
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CLECyclist:
I didn't feel it was necessary to tell my friends and family that my husband would be ejaculating inside me every time we have sex in hopes of becoming pregnant, personally.
Instead you just let people think he is ejaculating on you or in a condom? Or I guess they could think he is ejaculating in you but you are on BC. Or maybe you just tell them you two are celibate to keep all of the disturbing visuals out of your friends heads.

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12-03-2012 at 5:34 PM
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mrsseguin:
We are TTC #3, we haven't told anyone that we are.  People know we were on the fence about #3.  I think it will be a big shock to people when it happens!  I enjoy keeping it a secret, I don't want everyone asking if I'm pregnant yet if it takes a while...

 This is us too. We are TTC #3. People know we would "maybe" like to have a third, but we aren't sure yet. I don't want the pressure or questions from others. Only person who knows is my sister. She is also trying (for her first) and I am the only one who knows. :)


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12-03-2012 at 5:41 PM
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We didnt really tell anyone but we just got married in October so his whole family is asking if I am KU yet. My SIL is driving me crazy everytime she see me she says things like I think you look different I bet you are preggo (her words not mine) so I have started saying things like nope just drank a lot of wine. She is gonna drive me nuts! My mom suggested I tell her we are practicing celibacy haha...
12-03-2012 at 5:50 PM
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I haven't told anyone.  Sometimes I want to but I haven't.  I was hoping it would just happen but it hasn't yet.  I don't want so many questions.  Good luck to you.   

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12-03-2012 at 6:23 PM
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I can't help but tell ppl. The only sucky part is when I start refusing wine or mention I'm tired suddenly everyone thinks I'm pregnant. 

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12-03-2012 at 6:29 PM
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I'm getting enough pressure from all corners as it is. DH and I are the oldest and most financially secure of our siblings, tho we each have a younger sib who is married. So we are the ones getting all the pressure.

I can just imagine if people knew we were TTC. I would not handle it well.

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