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12-03-2012 at 9:01 PM
andy71781
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ER Day Plans

I feel like I'm putting the cart before the horse, but I'm starting to think about ER.  My H is a resident - meaning that his schedule is not flexible and if he can't work then somebody else has to.  He's having some heartburn about taking time off for ER and ET.  I too am having heartburn, but i know that I have to be there.  I know that if I put my foot down he will make it work.

My friend (who just started her second trimester after doing IVF) offered to come with me and take care of me.  So with this plan, H would come in before work to "do his business" and then I'd come in and get retrieved.

What do you ladies think about this plan?  Would you have been sad to not have your H there?   
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12-03-2012 at 9:08 PM
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We have been talking about this too.  Only a couple of days to figure it out!  DH is the general manager of a restaurant and getting a replacement is very difficult since he only has a couple of shift managers.  Obviously I really really want him there, but I think more for ET rather than ER.  Somehow the act of putting the embies back in seems more important for me to have him there.  Not sure why lol!  I'm interested to see everyone's responses. 

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DH: 28 (MFI low morph and motility diagnosed 5/8/12).
RE is recommending IVF but we want to start with IUI. DH was unwilling to pursue treatment until 7/21/12.
Cycle #21- Injects + IUI #1= BFFN
Cycle #22- HSG 9/21/12 all clear= BFFN
Cycle #23- Injects + IUI#2= BFFN
Cycle #24- IVF #1- ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
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12-03-2012 at 9:19 PM
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MH is a police officer and has an odd schedule most of the time. My first IVF he took the ER date off anyways because we closed on our home (yes legal problem with me signing docs but it was such a hassle we were going to close that day no matter what) ...but this IVF since he was on afternoons he was able to go with me in the morning then my parents came over to help me around the house. I would have been fine with going to ET by myself but since he was able to, he did go with for that as well.
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Me(31): Possibly Adult Growth Hormone Deficiency caused by a mutation in my pituitary genes called PIT-1--Also, Factor V Leiden
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IF testing started March 2011
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February 2013--Found a new RE but first back to the Endocrinologist for more diagnostic testing
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12-03-2012 at 9:26 PM
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Given your situation, I'd be fine with that plan.  You can call him as soon as you wake up to let him know how many eggs they retrieved. It sounds like you'll be in good hands with your friend. Making sure he is able to attend the ET (very quick appointment) is more important IMO.

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FSH= 5.4, AFC= 11 Dx: Unexplained w/2% morphology
IUI 1-3: Clomid, Gonal F, Ovidrel + Prometrium = BFN
Acupuncture starting January 2012; IUI 4-5: Gonal F, Ovidrel + Prometrium = BFFN
IVF #1 (Antagonist) w/ICSI & AH: ER 8/7/12--7R/4M/4F; ET 2-8-cells + 1-7-cell embies= BFN
IVF #2 (MDLF)w/ICSI & AH: ER 11/26/12--23R/14M/6F ET 11/29 1 early morula + 2 8-cells; Beta 1 (15dp3dt)= 408; Beta 2 (17dp3dt)= 649 Beta scare :/ ; Beta 3 (19dp3dt)= 1485; 1st u/s 12/28/12= 1 sac with 2 HBs 113bpm EDD= 8/19/13; MIssed MC of identical twin boys D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13

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12-03-2012 at 9:41 PM
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I think as long as you have a friend or family member with you, you will be ok w/o him. I had my mom and MH with me, but I would have been completely fine with just my mom. Of course it is not ideal, but they knock you out, and it happens so fast, that you won't even know what's going on. It is important to have someone there with you while you are waiting, and of course, to get you home and situated, so it sounds like you have a good friend willing to be there for you. If YH can be at the ET, I think that is a neat experience to have together. Maybe he can find someone who is flexible and will switch with him under short notice, so he can be there for at least one of them. GL!
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12-03-2012 at 9:43 PM
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I think the plan you have is good given your H's schedule. As long as someone can drive you home and be with you.

For ET my H was there but he wasn't allowed into the room for the actual procedure.
TTC #1 since 2008. IUI #1: Clomid+trigger=BFN. IUIs #2-4: Femara+Follistim+trigger=BFNs.
IVF #1, Nov 2012: Bravelle+Menopur. 17R, 12M (all ICSIed), 6F. 5 day transfer of 2 embies=BFN. 2 embies frozen.
FET #1: started BCPs April 2013.

 
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12-03-2012 at 9:51 PM
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I think the plan sounds good given your DH's situation. Focus on getting him there for the ET.

I would say though, have someone there that you can really rely on...My dr. told me immediately after the ER that he (& the embryologist) wasn't happy with the quality of eggs retrieved and was preparing me not to have any embryos actually fertilize. I was obviously upset about it and was happy that DH was there to process the information for me while I freaked out. So have someone there during ER that you trust and can listen to what the dr. says since you'll be fuzzy.
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12-03-2012 at 10:33 PM
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My mom went with me for ER and ET was on a Saturday so DH was able to go with me. I don't ask him to take off for IF things. If he is off great but I would rather him save taking off for important pregnant appointments if we ever get there.
Married 9-10-11
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TTC since 9/2011
Dx endo 2007 Sx laparoscopy
End bcp 9/2011
Dx annovulatory, DOR, Low AMH
Hysteroscopy due to polyp 2-1-12
IUI#1-3 Cancelled due to low response
IUI#4 BFFN
IVF#1 8/30 Beta#1 256, 8/31 Beta#2 482 BFP!! M/C 5w3d
FET#1 Cancelled due to uterine fluid and thin lining
FET#1.2Cancelled due to abnormal bleeding
Hysteroscopy 12/28/12 All clear
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12-04-2012 at 7:05 AM
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As long as you have a driver, I would go for it and not make him go with you. Just get a pic of the embies on transfer day so he can see them!

Me: 35, DH: 36, ttc: 3+ years, dx: unknown
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid med & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s,
1/12: D&C,
6/12 IUI #1: clomid, 5 mature follicles, excellent sperm,= BFN,
7/12: IUI #2: clomid, 3 mature follicles, excellent sperm= BFN,
8/12: IUi #3: clomid, 5 follicles, = BFP!, C/P
10/12 IVF #1: FSH 5.4, estradiol AFC: 14, long Lupron 150/bravelle75,5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast and 1 8 cell transferred. No frosties. BFN
IVF #2: AFC 21, MD lupron 12/25, 225bravelle/150men, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast BFN
IVF #3: natural start antagon, starting 3/30, ER 4/11, 12R,11M,10F
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12-04-2012 at 7:30 AM
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I am currently in the same boat. My dh needs to be off for our ER tomorrow and I've been running through how to get there. I thought I would be sad or bitchy about it- especially given my hormone levels, but I'm ok with it. He is off today so I can take him for his testicular aspiration which was kinda rough for him to get off. Sometimes timing just stinks. My sis will be sleeping over tonight so we can leave at 5am for ER  and dh will pick me up from grad school that night. Even I am either crazy or stubborn, but I refuse to put off giving a presentation for ER. 

I do want hubby to be there for ET- we leave so happy and hopeful. (And even I warned my professor that I won't be in class that day)  

If he can't be there- the pictures truly do say everything. Goodluck to you! 
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IVF w/ ICSI #3 12/2012
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12-04-2012 at 9:25 AM
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I am a resident too so I understand how difficult it is to get time off and how few days we get.  Your plan sounds fine.  Like previous people said, you will need someone there to listen for you since you may be a little out of it and someone to drive.   With that said, most of my attendings know what I am going through and are really supportive.  My attending at one site went through IVF himself and recommended the RE.  He has said to make appointments whenever I am in clinic with him and he will see patients for me if I can't.  He also called my patients the day before ER to let them know I would be out and reschedule them (since the ER date is tentative).  You would be suprised how many doctors go through IVF because many of them delay having kids. 

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cycle 1: May 2012, clomid 50mg; cycle cancelled, thin lining, no response
cycle 2: June 2012, femara 5mg; cycle cancelled, no response
cycle 3: July 2012, femara 7.5mg; cycle cancelled (largest folli on Cd12 & cd 16: 11, lining 4)

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12-04-2012 at 10:18 AM
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For the ER, he can't be in the room so I'd let him go to work that day and have him come to the transfer where he can be in the room and watch the RE put the embryos in.
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12-04-2012 at 10:47 AM
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I agree with PP, your plan sounds good.  There's not much he can do besides be there (and provide his sample).  It will be nice to have your friend there especially since she's been through it and knows what to expect.  I would def have him come to transfer though, sounds like you are though!

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12-04-2012 at 12:42 PM
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It wouldn't have bothered me if my husband had something he couldn't get away from for either retrieval or transfer. Our clinic, though, requires we both be there on both days to sign consents and stuff. Probably would be easier to do without him on retrieval day, though, than transfer, because transfer's the day we have to make arrangements for number of embryos to transfer, etc. Good luck!

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ME: 37, PCO, immune issues?, teflon uterus (my added diagnosis)
HIM: 38, Perfect. (Showoff.)
Month before starting Clomid, spontaneous pregnancy. m/c at 7 weeks and D&C.
Four months of Clomid, one IUI, with Intralipid each cycle: BFNs all
IVF 1.0 July 2012 -- Lupron, bravelle, menopur, estrogen, progesterone supps, intralipid. 14 ER, 14 fertilized, 1 blast transferred, 2 on ice. BFN
FET 1.1 -- 10/2, transferred our 2 blasts. Lupron, PIO, estrogen, baby aspirin, prednisone. BFN.
IVF 2.0 December 2012 -- Bravelle, Menopur, Ganirelix, Prednisone, Metformin, estrogen, progesterone supps. 22 eggs retrieved on 12/14, 17 mature, 15 fertilized. OHSS anticipated so ET cancelled. 3 embryos frozen.
Broke up with old RE. Moving on to new dude. Maybe the change of scenery will be just the trick for our frosties. On BCPs for possible April FET.

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