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12-04-2012 at 5:16 AM
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To cut or Not to cut

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Just why or why not. On your impending boy or DS thats already here :)

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12-04-2012 at 5:24 AM
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We circumcised DS, not for religious reasons but for practical ones. Teaching a toddler/child basic self care is hard enough without having to teach him to clean under the flap. It can be really prone to infections if not cleaned properly.

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12-04-2012 at 5:38 AM
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We did not because there is no medical reason to do it.  And I'm not a fan of performing a permanent cosmetic procedure on someone who isn't old enough to make that decision for themselves unless there is a compelling medical reason to do so.  (Yes the AAP has changed their stance and they do say there are some medical benefits that outweigh the risk of the procedure but they also state that the evidence is not enough to make them recommend circumcision for all boys.)  Also, it can effect sexual pleasure.  (Not that I particularly want to think about that aspect with my toddler.)

I just didn't find the argument about STDs and keeping clean to be reason enough to go through with the procedure.  DH is not cut and it's very common to skip the procedure in his family.  No one has ever had an issue with STDs or cleanliness.  It's really not hard to keep it clean and if my kid is having unprotected sex, he's going to have bigger problems than foreskin.

I talked about it with my OB, my midwife and my pediatrician and all three said they were please we decided not to do it and that they wished more of their patients felt the same.  That said, I do understand why other people might choose to do it.  But it's just not for us.


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12-04-2012 at 6:12 AM
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I left the decision up to my husband. Because I don't have a penis, I really don't know how I feel about it one way or the other. He decided to have our son circumsized. For my own edification, I read a lot of commentary from men on both sides of the fence.

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12-04-2012 at 6:12 AM
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Dh and I discussed this together and decided Ds would be circumcised.

My Dh is not, and it has always bothered him in many ways, and didn't want Ds to feel the same.

Everything went great and we are both happy with the outcome.

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12-04-2012 at 6:18 AM
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My DH feels strongly that we do circumcise our LO and so I am defaulting to his expertise on this one.  My only experience with this beforehand was when my parents waited until my brother was old enough to make the decision and when he got the procedure done it was much more difficult on him with a longer recovery time.  Everything turned out just fine in the end though.

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12-04-2012 at 6:23 AM
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I'm having a girl, but DH and I had already decided that we would not.  DH is not circumcised and sees no reason to have it done to a son. 


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12-04-2012 at 6:27 AM
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Kimbus22:

We did not because there is no medical reason to do it.  And I'm not a fan of performing a permanent cosmetic procedure on someone who isn't old enough to make that decision for themselves unless there is a compelling medical reason to do so.  (Yes the AAP has changed their stance and they do say there are some medical benefits that outweigh the risk of the procedure but they also state that the evidence is not enough to make them recommend circumcision for all boys.) 

These are my thoughts exactly.  We did not with our first son and won't with our second either.

 
12-04-2012 at 6:32 AM
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I left to my DH if we have a boy -- he said yes.  He already had two sons and this was his decision with both of them.  All of my friends with boys have done so as well. 

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12-04-2012 at 6:41 AM
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We did not because there was no medical reason to. You don't have to teach a toddler to pull back the skin to clean it because the skin doesn't pull back yet. You can damage it if you try.

We had no religious reason to do it either, so we didn't. I know it's a dumb reason, but DH is uncut, so that was also a part of our decision.

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12-04-2012 at 7:09 AM
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MT-Head:
I left the decision up to my husband. Because I don't have a penis, I really don't know how I feel about it one way or the other. He decided to have our son circumsized. For my own edification, I read a lot of commentary from men on both sides of the fence.

This is how we handled the issue, last time, too.


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12-04-2012 at 7:14 AM
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AFBTB:
We circumcised DS, not for religious reasons but for practical ones. Teaching a toddler/child basic self care is hard enough without having to teach him to clean under the flap. It can be really prone to infections if not cleaned properly.
This.

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12-04-2012 at 7:15 AM
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We will have it done and honesty just because my H is, and for social reasons. It is very common around here. I assist with the procedure and I would still say the majority of parents still choose to have it done.

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12-04-2012 at 7:37 AM
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If we have a boy we will not be cutting.  DH wants it done, but I don't, and I think I can get him to agree.

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12-04-2012 at 7:37 AM
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Kimbus22:

We did not because there is no medical reason to do it.  And I'm not a fan of performing a permanent cosmetic procedure on someone who isn't old enough to make that decision for themselves unless there is a compelling medical reason to do so.  (Yes the AAP has changed their stance and they do say there are some medical benefits that outweigh the risk of the procedure but they also state that the evidence is not enough to make them recommend circumcision for all boys.)  Also, it can effect sexual pleasure.  (Not that I particularly want to think about that aspect with my toddler.)

I just didn't find the argument about STDs and keeping clean to be reason enough to go through with the procedure.  DH is not cut and it's very common to skip the procedure in his family.  No one has ever had an issue with STDs or cleanliness.  It's really not hard to keep it clean and if my kid is having unprotected sex, he's going to have bigger problems than foreskin.

I talked about it with my OB, my midwife and my pediatrician and all three said they were please we decided not to do it and that they wished more of their patients felt the same.  That said, I do understand why other people might choose to do it.  But it's just not for us.

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12-04-2012 at 7:37 AM
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We did so he will match his daddy. I didn't want him wondering why he was different from his dad. Plus I let dh make the decision BC he has a penis and I don't.

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12-04-2012 at 7:41 AM
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We haven't decided yet. I gave FI the reasoning behind both options, but am leaving it up to him to decide for sure one way or the other. He is circumcised, so I'm guessing we will just go with it.

 
12-04-2012 at 7:52 AM
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We probably won't. My fiance is not but we have not discussed it just yet.

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12-04-2012 at 7:53 AM
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We were sort of on the fence with DS, leaning toward getting him circ'ed. We met with a pedi beforehand and she didn't have a strong opinion either way, but said if we were leaning toward getting it done, there were some medical reasons to back it up and to go ahead and do it. So we did.

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12-04-2012 at 8:16 AM
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I don't really know why, but for us it was unspoken that we will get him circ'd. We never even discussed it, we were just at a dr. appt and F asked how much it is (our insurance doesn't cover it). I put up no argument because as PPs have said, he is the one with the penis.

 
12-04-2012 at 8:26 AM
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I'm having a girl, but I had a discussion about it with my sister who did not circumcise my nephew.

In my opinion, there are indeed medical benefits to circumcision. While proper hygiene plays a role, I found it heavily irritating to change my nephews diapers, I'm sure a little boy is less likely to be so diligent.

There are some studies that show uncircumcised men have a greater risk of contracting STDs. And they can be prone to infection more easily. This information may very by study.

I've known several men who have been circumsiced as adults. They've claimed it to be excruciating, as I can imagine. As an infant, not all the nerve endings have formed.

If I have a boy in the future, I would circumsice.

 
12-04-2012 at 8:28 AM
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DH and I have decided that our little man will be circumcised. DH is not, and it's given him a few issues over the years (TMI incoming) including heat rash under the foreskin, the foreskin being too tight while excited sexually to the point it hurt, and a few other small uncomfortable circumstances. Another instance that helped strengthen our resolve has to do with a make friend of mine. He just recently had a circumcision done after suffering from a massive infection that caused him almost 6mos of treatment (not due to uncleanliness, just standard infection that went from bad to worse) because his foreskin acted as a natural incubator for the infection because it's nearly impossible to keep the penis completely dry under the foreskin, much less keep it cool (scientific fact that most infections/viruses thrive in warm, humid conditions). My friend nearly lost his manly parts, thus he went through a circumcision once the battle with the infection was over and he's in his 30s.... His doctor told him the procedure would be much more risky and unpleasant for him at his age than it would have been at birth.

Just a little food for thought, but these are the reasons we decided to go ahead for our son.


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12-04-2012 at 8:29 AM
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I had a friend who decided as an adult to get circumsized and it caused him a lot of grief. It took him weeks of painful recovery. It also meant more than a month without sex. I feel like either you are circumsized as a child or you are never circumsized. It is rare for the adult to opt to go through the process so it isn't as easy as differing to your child.

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12-04-2012 at 8:39 AM
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We circ'd DS and if this LO is a boy, we will circ him as well. For us it's a cleanliness and sexual health issue.

Our Pedi used the Plastibell. It's like a little cap that goes on the end of the penis. After a few days it just falls off. I was really anxious that DS would be hurting afterwards and he was just fine. When they brought him back to us after it was done he was sound asleep in his carrier.


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12-04-2012 at 8:42 AM
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If it were only up to me, I wouldn't. H wants to have it done (if baby is a boy), despite all of the research I've shown him.

Honestly though, I really don't think it matters in the grand scheme of things. I'm not super hardcore about it, I just think it's a bit unnecessary. But I'm not going to start a huge argument with H over it. 


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12-04-2012 at 9:03 AM
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Both DH and I agreed that we would have DS circumcised. While I did look into circumcision, I left the final say to DH.

 
12-04-2012 at 9:08 AM
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I was open to researching both sides but when I brought it up to my H, he was very adamant that we circumcise our son.  I am 100% comfortable with our decision to do so based on the research I have done.


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12-04-2012 at 9:28 AM
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We will snip. Because we want to.



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Both of my brothers had to be circumcised later in life for medical reasons and it was extremely painful for both of them. My husband is circumcised so I have planned that if our LO is a boy we will have him circumcised. I'll leave it up to my husband though.

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12-04-2012 at 9:44 AM
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I left the decision up to my husband and he didn't waste 1 second to say 'Yes'.  I just feel like I didn't have a 'leg to stand on' for that decision!  I am an only child and I just don't know about little boys, but oh how I am learning!!!!

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