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12-04-2012 at 7:52 AM
SamanthaLy...
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Work issues?!

I have been working at my current job for about 8 months now and about 6 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. (I'm 9wks 1d) I work at a very high stress job, and I don't get any respect from anyone. I'm constantly belittled, always saying how I should have just gotten fired in the beginning. My boss and another person I sit next too in my office are always yelling at me and talking to me like I'm an idiot. I have done admin work since I started working at the age of 15 so I know what I'm doing, and I've got a really good knowledge of everything. To make a really long story short, everyone is treating me so badly, and with my emotions all out of whack I'm finding it harder and harder to go on with my days. I also found out about a week after I found out I was pregnant that another girl that works here is also pregnant. So now I'm being compared to her. "Why is it that she feels fine and she's sticking it out and you can't" "She's handling everything fine why can't you" everything is making me so sad and so upset. Every little thing is irritating me, I don't know if it is because of the stress of the job, or it's my pregnancy hormones running wild. I'm only ever really upset while at work.

I'm at my wits end. I don't know what I should do.  I don't know how to handle everything, with the "competition" of the other girl being pregnant. I feel like I'm constantly being judged. It was like this even before I got pregnant. The first month I was here is when it all started. I can't even stress enough how much I've cried because of everyone treating me so badly. But now that I'm pregnant. I'm trying to take care of my body the best I can. But with the stress and the high amount of anxiety here I'm scared. Not only for myself, but for my baby. 

 
12-04-2012 at 7:57 AM
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*hugs* I'm sorry you're so stressed. I've been where you are before and it's no fun. I wonder if there's an HR rep. you can talk to. Just say what's going on and now you're concerned for the health of yourself and your child. I know economy is tough, but maybe trying to find another place to work for would be more beneficial. It sounds like they don't care whether you leave or stay and I've been treated badly before in a job and it was just cause they wanted me to eventually leave since they had nothing on me to fire me. GL!

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12-04-2012 at 7:58 AM
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Do you have an HR department? I would definitely take this to them and complain because this could be looked at as a hostile work environment. No one should put your down or belittle you while you are at work. No one. There is constructive criticism and then there is just being verbally abusive. 

Stress isn't healthy, but it won't hurt you so badly that anything will happen to your baby. Its just not healthy in general and you shouldn't have to dread going to work, know what I mean?

Definitely see if there is someone above your boss to complain about this behavior.  


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12-04-2012 at 8:17 AM
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There is an HR department, and I have gone to her before, but going to her doesn't do anything. She doesn't take me seriously either. I've tried going to her about my issues but she claimed them to be "not really a problem" I've even gone to the CEO of the company and all they've said to me is "I've known them for 15+ years, that's just how they are, you have to get a thicker skin" My issues with everyone are not real issues, I can't talk to anyone about anything. I mean even when I wanted to leave because my Grandmother passed away, HR was covering her mouth looking like she was smiling/laughing while I was crying to her...
 
12-04-2012 at 8:23 AM
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I know times are tough but I think you need to find another place to work. This is not a good environment for anyone to work in. No one should be treated like this! Take care and good luck!

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12-04-2012 at 9:28 AM
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Sweetie, don't blame the hormones, that kind of environment would make me go mad even if I wasn't pregnant. If you have so much experience I'm sure you'll find some other job in which they will treat you normally.

Everyone needs respect in their work place and being pregnant should give you even more and not taking it away by comparing you to another pregnant woman (mostly when every pregnancy is different, even the same woman can have different symptoms when they get pregnant again). So this shows their great ignorance.

I would try to find another job, the environment will damage you and baby too. And that HR person sucks too, because it's her only job to maintain a good environment! 


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12-04-2012 at 9:35 AM
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SamanthaLynn1318:
There is an HR department, and I have gone to her before, but going to her doesn't do anything. She doesn't take me seriously either. I've tried going to her about my issues but she claimed them to be "not really a problem" I've even gone to the CEO of the company and all they've said to me is "I've known them for 15+ years, that's just how they are, you have to get a thicker skin" My issues with everyone are not real issues, I can't talk to anyone about anything. I mean even when I wanted to leave because my Grandmother passed away, HR was covering her mouth looking like she was smiling/laughing while I was crying to her...

This is terrible. You're working in a hostile environment. Is it possible for you to collect enough unemployment to get by if you were laid off? 


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