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12-04-2012 at 11:32 AM
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Advice about TTC, but Everyone is Pregnant around me

I'm TTC, for 2 years now. I have been started on metphormins for months now. Also I'm 20 years old. Iv been with the same man for 4 years and married 2 years. I have PCOS, and we have had two failed adoptions. My friends, family, all pregnant or just had a baby. I'm getting very down and depressed. I'm also have mood swings and I'm so mad all the time. I'm not handling it all that well and. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice to give me, or anything that will help at this point.
 
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12-04-2012 at 11:37 AM
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12-04-2012 at 11:42 AM
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It sounds like you two have been through a lot in the last two years.

Have you considered talking to a therapist?  It sounds like you might need someone to really sit down and talk some things out with. 

I'm sorry, but that's all I can think of.

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12-04-2012 at 11:43 AM
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BumblesMommy:
I'm TTC, for 2 years now. I have been started on metformin for months now. Also I'm 20 years old. I've been with the same man for 4 years and married 2 years. I have PCOS, and we have had two failed adoptions. My friends, family, are all pregnant or have just had a baby. I'm getting very down and depressed. I also have mood swings and I'm so mad all the time. I'm not handling it all that well, and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice to give me, or anything that will help at this point.

FIFY.

ETA: You're 20 and tried to adopt twice? Somehow, I'm not surprised you weren't approved.


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12-04-2012 at 11:49 AM
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We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.
 
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We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.
Maybe when they found out the adoptive parents were the same age as them, they decided if you can do it they can. You sound like a petulant teenager. Get some therapy and put TTC on the back burner until you grow up and get your attitude under control.

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GhostMonkey:
BumblesMommy:
We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.
Maybe when they found out the adoptive parents were the same age as them, they decided if you can do it they can. You sound like a petulant teenager. Get some therapy and put TTC on the back burner until you grow up and get your attitude under control.

This is one of the few times I agree with GM.  I also am not sure I believe an adoption agency would approve a 20 year old, I know 30 year old's who had a hard time getting approved who had everything "together", but OK.


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12-04-2012 at 1:29 PM
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BumblesMommy:
We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.

i find this very hard to believe.. but what the heck to i know? 
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Well they did. Two agencies in Missouri where I'm from. One in Columbia mo the other in St Louis. Judging me is not what I asked people to do. As long as your married you can adopt with one agency. The other you had to be married a year.
 
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BumblesMommy:
Well they did. Two agencies in Missouri where I'm from. One in Columbia mo the other in St Louis. Judging me is not what I asked people to do. As long as your married you can adopt with one agency. The other you had to be married a year.

Hun, you need a lot more than just marriage in order to adopt. Confused
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BumblesMommy:
Well they did. Two agencies in Missouri where I'm from. One in Columbia mo the other in St Louis. Judging me is not what I asked people to do. As long as your married you can adopt with one agency. The other you had to be married a year.

If marriage is the only pre-requisite for adoption with those agencies, I really worry about the children that are placed through them. 


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12-04-2012 at 2:42 PM
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BumblesMommy:
We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.

Maybe when they found out the adoptive parents were the same age as them, they decided if you can do it they can.

You sound like a petulant teenager. Get some therapy and put TTC on the back burner until you grow up and get your attitude under control.


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12-04-2012 at 2:52 PM
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12-04-2012 at 3:04 PM
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I'm going to stick to one part of your OP. If you truly are depressed, please find someone outside of the situation to speak to.
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12-04-2012 at 3:11 PM
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bakes4u:
GhostMonkey:
BumblesMommy:
We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.
Maybe when they found out the adoptive parents were the same age as them, they decided if you can do it they can. You sound like a petulant teenager. Get some therapy and put TTC on the back burner until you grow up and get your attitude under control.
Oh GM how I love thee : Kmm I agree with GM quite often she is always spot on :

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gonzol:
bakes4u:
GhostMonkey:
BumblesMommy:
We were approved, had our home study, ect the birth mothers both decided that they wanted to parent. 2P yes it sound young it is, but iv been married 2 years so we were perfectly fine to adopt.
Maybe when they found out the adoptive parents were the same age as them, they decided if you can do it they can. You sound like a petulant teenager. Get some therapy and put TTC on the back burner until you grow up and get your attitude under control.
Oh GM how I love thee : Kmm I agree with GM quite often she is always spot on :

Uh huh. I agree w/ GM. More often than not. 

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12-05-2012 at 6:59 AM
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I don't think any of you have the right to say if this person is ready to be a parent or not.  I am in the EXACT same shoes, minus the adoption stuff, and a age difference.  the point is she came on here for some support and a little advice.  Follow the old rule, if you can't say anything nice, SHUT THE F*UCK up.  

 My best advice to you would be keep trying to conceive on your own, you have only been at it with meds for a short time give them a chance to work so you can get a BFP of your own.  If this doesn't work after a few years look into other methods.  I would say give the adoption thing a little break and try for your own.  This can happen for you.  I also totally get the depression thing with other people being preggo.  It is hard to be happy for them,when you are struggling with your own issues. 

Good luck! 
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I don't think any of you have the right to say if this person is ready to be a parent or not. nbsp;I am in the EXACT same shoes, minus the adoption stuff, and a age difference. nbsp;the point is she came on here for some support and a little advice. nbsp;Follow the old rule, if you can't say anything nice, SHUT THE ** up. nbsp;nbsp;My best advice to you would be keep trying tonbsp;conceivenbsp;on your one, you have only been at it for meds for a short time give them a chance to work so you can get a BFP of your own. nbsp;If this doesn't work after a few years look into other methods. nbsp;I would say give the adoption thing a little break and try for your own. nbsp;This can happen for you. nbsp;I also totally get the depression thing with other people being preggo. nbsp;It is hard to be happy for them,when you are struggling with your own issues.nbsp;Good luck!nbsp;

Actually, we have every right. Ever heard of free speech? She asked for advice. That was our advice. YOU have no right to tell us what we can and cannot post. No one made you the interwebz police, but thank you for your white night opinion!
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I don't think any of you have the right to say if this person is ready to be a parent or not.  I am in the EXACT same shoes, minus the adoption stuff, and a age difference.  the point is she came on here for some support and a little advice.  Follow the old rule, if you can't say anything nice, SHUT THE F*UCK up.  

 My best advice to you would be keep trying to conceive on your one, you have only been at it for meds for a short time give them a chance to work so you can get a BFP of your own.  If this doesn't work after a few years look into other methods.  I would say give the adoption thing a little break and try for your own.  This can happen for you.  I also totally get the depression thing with other people being preggo.  It is hard to be happy for them,when you are struggling with your own issues. 

Good luck! 

So you're in the EXACT same shoes minus the adoption stuff and age difference? Uh-oh okay. So what you really mean is the only thing you have in common with OP is that you're TTGP. Like the rest of us.
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I don't think any of you have the right to say if this person is ready to be a parent or not.  I am in the EXACT same shoes, minus the adoption stuff, and a age difference.  the point is she came on here for some support and a little advice.  Follow the old rule, if you can't say anything nice, SHUT THE F*UCK up.  

 My best advice to you would be keep trying to conceive on your one, you have only been at it for meds for a short time give them a chance to work so you can get a BFP of your own.  If this doesn't work after a few years look into other methods.  I would say give the adoption thing a little break and try for your own.  This can happen for you.  I also totally get the depression thing with other people being preggo.  It is hard to be happy for them,when you are struggling with your own issues. 

Good luck! 

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I'm TTC, for 2 years now. I have been started on metphormins for months now. Also I'm 20 years old. Iv been with the same man for 4 years and married 2 years. I have PCOS, and we have had two failed adoptions. My friends, family, all pregnant or just had a baby. I'm getting very down and depressed. I'm also have mood swings and I'm so mad all the time. I'm not handling it all that well and. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice to give me, or anything that will help at this point.

You are still a newlywed. Enjoy it. I recommend either seeing someone or blogging. I find it very therapeutic. It sucks that we cant control everything.  In regards to your age, I know many 20 year olds that are more mature and ready be parents than 30 year olds I know. I dont think age matters (unless your under 18) Keep trying with adoption agencies. Hopefully it will turn out ok! gl! 
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 SHUT THE F*UCK up.  

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