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12-04-2012 at 11:41 AM
AnnaWhite8...
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Is my husband normal?

So, I am kind of embarrassed because my husband has not been in the mood since we found out we were expecting after a MC. We are both over the moon that we have made it to 8 weeks and the baby is healthy, but my feelings are really hurt that he is blowing me off. I know, the hormones probably have a lot to do with me being upset about it, but geeze! After all of this I feel unsexy at best and now like I'm not even worth being with now that I'm finally pregnant and it's going well.  Anyone else having simulair feelings? 
 
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12-04-2012 at 11:48 AM
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I'm sure your DH is just being extra cautious. My DH and I didnt "wrestle" (as we call it) until cleared by the dr. and we still took it easy.

If you can get your DH to the doctor with you and have your dr explain that it's okay to "wrestle" that may help him get over his anxieties.

I don't think it's your hubby deliberately doing this, he just wants to be cautious. Plus, the thought of potentially harming your LO may put him off as well.

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12-04-2012 at 11:55 AM
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During my whole pregnancy, we DTD 6-8 times.  My hubby wasn't that interested.  But once the baby came and we were cleared, it was back to normal.  (Well maybe not normal, we are really tired... so maybe 1-2 a week).  Don't worry!  Do you even WANT to have sex?  I didn't! lol
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12-04-2012 at 12:39 PM
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MH was the same with my first pregnancy and so far this one too.
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12-04-2012 at 1:06 PM
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We didn't have a lot of sex during my 1st PG which lasted 12 weeks, mostly because I was pretty sick.  Now that we are PG again after 2 losses, my DH says he won't do it for "awhile"...probably into the second tri.  We are both so worried about another loss, we would just rather not, even though we both know it's safe unless your Dr. says otherwise! 
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12-04-2012 at 1:10 PM
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Very normal.  I had a m/c in July.  We found out we were pregnant again at the beginning of October.  We have had sex exactly ONE time since our BFP.  DH will make comments about lack of sex, but clearly isn't interested in actually attempting.  This has been totally fine with me since I'm not in the mood at all, but when I questioned him about it, he said he'd rather wait until maybe second tri.
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12-04-2012 at 1:17 PM
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I think it is very normal. A lot of men are nervous about hurting you or the baby or just plain feeling awkward about having sex while you're pregnant. I would make it a point to talk to him about it. It is really important to keep the lines of communication open during pregnancy.
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12-04-2012 at 1:22 PM
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We haven't had sex since my BFP. We play around a bit but that's it. I was on pelvic rest for a while and now that I'm not, DH is worried about causing spotting (causing me to freak out and be impossible to live with). Maybe we'll try once I'm in 2nd tri. Not that I'm really interested anyway, haha...
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12-04-2012 at 1:23 PM
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We haven't been having much sex lately either.  I'm not too worried about it.  I'm hoping when my energy comes back we will have more intimate time together.
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12-04-2012 at 2:21 PM
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We haven't had sex at all since my BFP. I've kind of wanted to but I'm worried about him irritating my cervix. He hasn't attempted to at all, I think he's being cautious which I appreciate.
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12-04-2012 at 3:48 PM
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He's probably afraid of doing something that might endanger the pregnancy.  Talk to the doctor about it, with him present and maybe he'll feel a little less worried.  GL.  
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