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12-04-2012 at 12:54 PM
caladpi02
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Advice re Wedding

My due date is 3/13. I have a friend getting married about 2 hours out of town on 5/25. How realistic is it to think I am going to attend this wedding? I am planning on breastfeeding. This is a kid free wedding and I am not going to ask her if I can bring an infant. I have not asked my MIL or mother about watching her for a few hours/overnight, but considering their feelings about me continuing to work, I am assuming it is not an option. Getting an additional hotel is going to be at least 300-400 dollars, so that is not an option either.

I feel like I have kind of answered my own question, but I wanted to see what the comments were from some mommas that actually have minis that are 10 weeks or younger.


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12-04-2012 at 1:06 PM
inateapot
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Eh, if it was in town, I'd say for sure you'd be able to go if you had someone to watch the little one. But the two hour drive really makes it tough. 

Personally, with DD1 around 10 weeks, I'd have given anything for a good couple of sleep cycles  - definitely wasn't interested in going to anyone's wedding in the evening!  :)  

My advice would be to send a nicer gift than usual to make up for not attending & not to sweat it! 



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12-04-2012 at 1:07 PM
Idani
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Even if you deliver late, that is still a month and a half after delivery. I wouldn't miss a wedding at that point of a friend. Two hours isn't that far, regardless of a grandparents feelings about you returning to work, I find it hard to believe they wouldn't want to watch their grandchild. Perhaps there are other things in the relationship though that would make you think they wouldn't watch your LO.  Two hours away, I would try to find a sitter, then if I didn't want to be away overnight from LO go to the wedding, part of reception and go home.  That's me though.  With my first my husband and I went to an overnight wedding two weeks after having him and we are going overnight mid-December and will leave both LO's with the grandparents.

 
12-04-2012 at 5:11 PM
kdg31684
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I would not be ready to leave LO overnight yet.  And with it being 2 hrs away, thats 4 hours of just driving, plus the actual wedding and reception.  If it were me, and not going to ask if LO could come, I wouldn't go.

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12-04-2012 at 9:49 PM
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Eh, I wouldn't go because with the driving and actual wedding, you are probably looking at like 8 hours apart... And, since you are bf, it would mostly be a PITA to have to pump. If it were nearby, no prob. Since its away and no kids, I wouldn't go if I were you.
 
12-05-2012 at 4:30 AM
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Overnight away is not a big deal in my opinion, you can go and come back as soon as possible and ask grandparents to keep watch on baby for that time of span.
 
12-05-2012 at 7:21 AM
amy052006
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Having BF twice, I think that is really early to be gone overnight -- your supply isn't really regulated yet.  You'd have to be super diligent about pumping every three hours or so, and cross your fingers your LO could handle bottles for that long of a period of time and then stil transition easily back to the breast.  FWIW, this time around my LO was able to do that when I needed to pump and dump for 24 hours after surgery with no issue, but it can screw up breast feeding for lots of people.  You just don't know.

I'd probably go, plan to skip the ceremony and not stay until the end of the reception, just because of the drive -- at least then you still get to go, and maybe can do the bulk of your pumping in the car anyway.  


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