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12-04-2012 at 9:05 PM
christinas...
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Sick and tired

I am so sick and tired of my LO's constant crying!!!  Nothing seems to console her and as soon as she falls asleep, she wakes herself back up.  When she does cry there are no tears just screaming.  She turns bright red and at times cries so hard she stops breathing for a few seconds.  I swear it is gas and I try all of the things I read about like bicycle legs, etc.  My husband says there is nothing wrong with her she is just being a brat.  I can't take it anymore.  I am trying the best I can to do the best I can.   My pedi is of no help as well, he just tell me she is probably hungry and to feed her more if she wants it.  The trouble is she is always hungry and never turns down a bottle even if she doesn't want it.  I am so beyond dispair anymore.  I can't leave the house because of the constant crying.  My mother is her daycare and today when we tried to go there, she told me if it doesn't get under control, she won't be able to watch her while I am at work.  I don't know what to do anymore.  I am on the verge of a breakdown and the meds aren't working.  Sorry---just need to vent.


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12-04-2012 at 9:35 PM
jenmccon
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Your baby is 5 weeks old and waaay too young to be labeled as a "brat", as your DH said! I'm sorry but that's just a awful! If you are formula feeding, maybe she's having a bad reaction to the formula she is on. I would say ask your pedi about switching to a gentler formula, but he or she sounds like an idiot. You really should think about switching pedi's. To chalk it up to "oh she just needs to eat more", is ridiculous. Your baby sounds like she is in pain. Baby may have a dairy allergy, which would definitely cause the gas pains. Also if your are breastfeeding, try cutting out the dairy. Hang in there mama! Please consider finding a better pedi! For your daughter's sake! Something is causing her to cry inconsolably. And trust me when I say, it isn't her just being a brat!! Switching formula can make a world of difference! She will be soo much happier without the constant pains! And so will you! Smile Stay focused on helping your beautiful daughter feel better and don't listen to your DH. Seriously!  GL

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12-04-2012 at 9:37 PM
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Ok I am no expert by any means but there are a few things you have said that I can't ignore. First thing, get a new pedi. Obviously if your LO is crying that much, there is a bigger problem than just hunger. Gas, reflux, etc but a pedi should be doing way more than that.
Second of all, please tell your husband that is it not possible for a newborn baby to be a brat. It breaks my heart to hear those words. She's not manipulating you, she literally not capable of that. She needs comfort and patience. You say she wakes herself up as soon as you put her to sleep. Have you tried swaddling, white noise, heating pad, baby wearing?
I am really sorry that your mom is getting so frustrated as well. Is there anyone else you can turn to for support? A friend who is a mom as well or a mommy group in the area?
I am sure things will get better, it's just going to take time. Sometimes when DS is really fussy and I'm losing patience, I just will tell him that I love him and it helps to say it out loud. I am sorry your dealing with this, I hope you can find the help and support you need.


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12-04-2012 at 10:12 PM
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Jaime gave great advice above. The five S's from Happiest Baby on the Block helped a lot too.

We have a fussy baby. Probiotics really helped us. We give him baby probiotics in a tiny bit of milk. His gas has decreased, his diapers look more normal, and he is less fussy overall.

Also, take a look at how much time she is awake. His fussy turns to super meltdown if he is overtired. 


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12-05-2012 at 6:35 AM
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Not trying to hijack the thread, but could you tell me what brand of probiotic and if you asked your pediatrician before giving them to your baby?
 
12-05-2012 at 7:02 AM
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jenmccon:
Your baby is 5 weeks old and waaay too young to be labeled as a "brat", as your DH said! I'm sorry but that's just a awful! If you are formula feeding, maybe she's having a bad reaction to the formula she is on. I would say ask your pedi about switching to a gentler formula, but he or she sounds like an idiot. You really should think about switching pedi's. To chalk it up to "oh she just needs to eat more", is ridiculous. Your baby sounds like she is in pain. Baby may have a dairy allergy, which would definitely cause the gas pains. Also if your are breastfeeding, try cutting out the dairy. Hang in there mama! Please consider finding a better pedi! For your daughter's sake! Something is causing her to cry inconsolably. And trust me when I say, it isn't her just being a brat!! Switching formula can make a world of difference! She will be soo much happier without the constant pains! And so will you! Smile Stay focused on helping your beautiful daughter feel better and don't listen to your DH. Seriously!  GL

 

I agree with this completely. Its so hard to know what could be the problem, but formula, reflux could be the problem. As mentioned by many postings get a new pedi, some Drs. chalk it up to the baby getting used to the formula they are on. Reflux, gas, constipation are very painful for anyone,imgaine what she feels every day. My first LO was colic and it is very very hard to get though. The crying and unhappiness are not easy especially when you are hormonal too. If you need to take a break and walk away a few times a day its perfectly fine as long as baby is in a safe place, crib, bassinet, or if you have a trustful neighbor that is willing to help you. Your baby needs you. You have to remember too this doesn't last forever. Good Luck to you!


 
12-05-2012 at 9:41 PM
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So many things wrong with this post...

Get a new pediatrician, stat. And while you're at it, smack your husband in the head. How do you label a 5wo baby as a "brat"?!

If you are FFing, your LO may be having a reaction to the formula. Your baby could have reflux. Your baby could be colicky. If you are BFing, your baby could have an allergy of some sort. Your baby could have any one of a number of things going on, whether not sucking/latching correctly, to stomach indigestion to an allergy.

You need to get another doctor's opinion, like, yesterday.

 


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12-06-2012 at 8:50 AM
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Wait I thought you were concerned about your LO NOT responding to stimuli based on the other post?! I'm confused. It's absurd to call a 6 w.o. A brat and not attempt to find a source for her discomfort.

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12-07-2012 at 10:41 PM
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My heart just breaks for you and your LO!  I am so sorry you're going through this!!

I would definitely take a hard look at the meds she's on... I'm assuming reflux medicine?  You may need to increase the dosage (Zantac in particular I know is weight sensitive, my LO used it until he was 1) 

Does she have any other symptoms, I'm wondering about MSPI (milk soy protein intolerance). Sometimes reflux can be a symptom of MSPI.  My DS3 has this and he was so unhappy and uncomfortable until we figured it out.  I am BFing, and had to change my diet removing all dairy and soy from my diet.  But since your FFing, you may need to switch to a formula that your LO can digest, especially if she's having trouble with the full protein chains found in "regular" formulas.  You could try switching to a hydrolysate formula like Nutramigen or Alimentum.  They are milk based but broken down into partial protein chains.  This may just be enough to help your LO digest the formula enough and settle her stomach. 

That being said there are some more sensitive babies who need an elemental formula, which is completely 100% broken down into free amino acids (the building blocks of proteins) so there are no proteins for your LO to digest, it's already done for her!  (What makes Neocate special video: http://youtu.be/Hoj4DtjE4zM)

Talk to the doctor again and really push for your LO, you are her advocate and her voice, if you don't feel she's getting the attention she needs than switch to a different doctor.  

Here is some more info that I found helpful:


Hang in there!!!


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Augustboy02 - Sensational Sensory Kid
Decemberboy04 -former reflux baby
Augustboy10 - MFPI baby 
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