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12-05-2012 at 3:20 PM
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Is this rude?

Is it rude not to open gifts/present at the baby shower?
 
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12-05-2012 at 3:26 PM
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To many people, yes - it is rude to not open gifts.

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12-05-2012 at 3:33 PM
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For many guests, yes, it is rude. Personally, if I get you a gift, I would really like to see you open it. A close friend did not open her gifts for her wedding shower, and I was extremely disappointed. But I would not go as far as to say it is rude...
 
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12-05-2012 at 3:33 PM
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Yes, I would consider this rude.  The point of a baby shower is to shower to mother-to-be with gifts.  Many people look forward to seeing their gift being opened.  
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Yeah, I'd say it's rude. That's the only part of the shower I ever really enjoy.
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12-05-2012 at 3:43 PM
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Yes, what's the point...why don't you just have people mail you gifts and skip the whole "shower" then...

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12-05-2012 at 3:47 PM
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If you have to ask, it probably is.
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12-05-2012 at 3:59 PM
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My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.
 
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12-05-2012 at 4:04 PM
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ashleyr409:
My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.
First, that's a ridiculous reason.

Second, the "greatness" of the gift is in the eye of the beholder.  Someone may get you an expensive gift of a carseat, but then someone else may give you a beautiful hand made blanket.  Or a basket full of bottles that you really need. 

 
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12-05-2012 at 4:07 PM
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ashleyr409:
My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.

Sounds like your friend is kind of dense. Or planning to give you something crappy. 

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12-05-2012 at 4:42 PM
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jterpbride:

ashleyr409:
My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.

Sounds like your friend is kind of dense. Or planning to give you something crappy. 

This. And yes, it's rude.  
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12-05-2012 at 4:55 PM
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jterpbride:

ashleyr409:
My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.

Sounds like your friend is kind of dense. Or planning to give you something crappy. 

Or (to give BFF the benefit of the doubt) maybe she's from another country / culture where baby showers are not the norm...
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12-05-2012 at 5:55 PM
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In a word, yes.
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12-05-2012 at 6:29 PM
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Yes it is.  II would request personally that the MTB open my gift before I left.
 
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12-05-2012 at 7:23 PM
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Yes, rude and disappointing.  I want to see what gifts the mom-to-be gets!
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12-05-2012 at 7:24 PM
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BakerMommy:
If you have to ask, it probably is.

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12-06-2012 at 12:41 AM
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Yep! And people should not be judging others on what is received at the baby shower. Its not theirs. I received a handmade baby blanket from my grandma, I knew then that she had accepted my daughter because I was unmarried and I was the first grandchild having a child. It was special to open it in front of everyone.

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And people should not be judging others on what is received at the baby shower. Its not theirs.
Also - I'd bet you that many people are like me.  I care about watching MY gift get opened.  I'll pay some attention to the other gifts, but all in all - I don't pay THAT much attention and I sure as heck am not looking at the other gifts to determine how "good" they are!
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12-06-2012 at 7:59 AM
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BakerMommy:
If you have to ask, it probably is.

This is ridiculous logic.

OP- I think it depends on the type of shower.  If you are having a more traditional shower, and that's part of the festivities, then yes. 

I've been to a few baby showers in NYC where they rented out rooms in nice restaurants and had couples there.  So it's really more of a socializing event than having everyone sit around and open presents.
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12-06-2012 at 8:18 AM
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jobiann:
Yes, what's the point...why don't you just have people mail you gifts and skip the whole "shower" then...

This.  A shower is a gift-giving event.  If people don't want to open gifts in front of guests, they shouldn't have a "shower." 

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12-06-2012 at 6:16 PM
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Yes. My favorite part of giving a gift is watching the receiver open it. I would be sad if the mom didn't open the gifts at the shower.
 
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12-06-2012 at 7:47 PM
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ashleyr409:
My bff said she didnt think I should open gifts because she thought someone might not have bought great gift and they would be ashamed. I agree with you all. I am opening every gift/present for my showeer. I needed for her to see that it was not just me who thought this was rude.

I'm guessing the person giving the gift your friend though was crappy thought their gift was pretty darn great.

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12-07-2012 at 9:08 AM
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Yes, I would consider this rude.  The point of a baby shower is to shower to mother-to-be with gifts.  Many people look forward to seeing their gift being opened.  

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12-07-2012 at 11:32 AM
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BakerMommy:
If you have to ask, it probably is.

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Oh no it's perfectly expected to! It's part of the fun and it's a chance to say thank you right then and there and show your appreciation for every gift.

Now if you want socially-backward: I had a cousin that opened gifts at her WEDDING! Hahaha Oh, it was just too tacky to talk about!  We enjoyed it. :)
 
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12-09-2012 at 9:47 AM
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12-09-2012 at 11:38 AM
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This.  A shower is a gift-giving event.  If people don't want to open gifts in front of guests, they shouldn't have a "shower." 

 This!

If you don't want to do the gift opening, have a no gifts type party instead.
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12-09-2012 at 1:49 PM
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I think it's expected, but I hate it with a passion. I think older guests expect it though, so you should do it. WIthin my group of friends, it's not super important though and we've skipped it.
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It's apparently expected. But, I hate it as well. I can't stand having attention on me and I was dreading it. I didn't even really want a shower because of that! I took forever opening the presents because I dreaded it and having a camera fixed on me for 20 minutes straight was distracting. I don't even like opening presents on Christmas because I just don't get overly excited about gifts. I appreciate them and love them but you will not find me jumping up and down over something even if it is my dream gift. I've always been like that. :/ Therefore, I don't like baby showers.

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12-17-2012 at 11:26 AM
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It depends.

If it's a jack and jill party most men don't care to see you opening up gifts. But if its a all women shower then they may be more intrested. Also if your having your shower in a hall it's a pain to pack all those gifts.

 
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