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12-06-2012 at 8:32 AM
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i'm pregnant

I'm 4 weeks pregnant.  I'm 40.   I have a 5 year old daughter.   This happened the first time I slept with my new boyfriend.  He has no children.   I cannot tell what he wants to do.   I want to keep it.  But I am scared he may feel trapped.   
 
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12-06-2012 at 8:33 AM
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12-06-2012 at 8:40 AM
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Congrats!!!  Everything will work out.
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12-06-2012 at 9:01 AM
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Congrats!!...I've been in a similar situation. Everything worked out.
 
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12-06-2012 at 9:05 AM
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Well, the only thing you can do is tell him the truth about how you feel. If you were concerned about this situation coming to pass did you not use birth control? I'm not just talking about the pill, but condoms? I am aware that BC fails (very very aware). 

Tell him the truth. That this is surprise for you and you don't want him to feel trapped. Go from there. You have options to discuss with him. Adoption? Abortion? Parenting? Take the time to go through it all with him.

Yes, its overwhelming. I'm sorry you are feeling so side-swiped by it.  
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12-06-2012 at 10:35 AM
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We are definitely madly in love.    I want this baby.    I know he wants children but this may be a bit premature.   However, I'm 40, not 25, 30 0r even 35.   I want a sibling for my daughter too.   The thought of an abortion, while I am definitely pro-choice, does not seem like something I would feel right about.    

 

Is it wrong of me to say "it's up to you?   I'll do what you want to do?" 

 
 
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12-06-2012 at 11:35 AM
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I think its wrong why are you leaving it up to him. 1. Its your body, 2.If he wants to bounce at least you know now what a b!tch he is....just saying.
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12-06-2012 at 1:29 PM
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I think it's wrong to say you'll do what he wants when clearly you want to keep the baby. Don't give him the option to ask you if you want an abortion or adoption. You seem to have already made up your mind. If he doesn't want to participate, kick him to the curb.
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12-06-2012 at 3:30 PM
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thank you all.   I'm having this baby.   My best friend and closest cousin are totally supportive.   I'll go to the love.  Also we both lost our fathers in the last 2 years & I feel this baby is a part of each of them.... and a gift to both our mothers....

 
 
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