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12-06-2012 at 9:28 AM
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Research/Info overload

So I went on a tour of the hospital last night with DH, my doula and birthing class and it really just sort of freaked me out. My class instructor led the tour and said this is where this happens, and that happens, etc and I felt overwhelmed at all the stuff I still need to do/research like vitamin K, eye stuff, what vaccines I want when, who washes the baby, etc and I'm like man I just did all sorts of research just for the registry! What carseat, stroller, crib, mattress are best? Etc. 

Are any of you feeling the same way and how do you manage it? I figure just one thing at a time and I still have a few wks but man does it go by fast! 

 


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12-06-2012 at 10:11 AM
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It's a steep learning curve.  There is a lot of info.  Just pick one thing at a time and do some research.  It doesn't stop once baby is here, either.  Once you get the hang of one stage, the baby changes and it's "crap, what do I do now?" all over again.  I was so overwhelmed when LO started solids, for example.  Just try not to freak out.  It's much less overwhelming the second time around Big Smile  I was constantly reminding myself that I wasn't the first person to try to figure all of this stuff out and that my kid would be just fine. 

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12-06-2012 at 10:14 AM
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I think I did my research opposite of what you did, lol! I have know what I wanted for all the hospital stuff since right after finding out I was prego again.  I just finished doing all the stroller/car seat/crib/ etc stuff.

I am against the immediate overload of vaccines that babies are given, and was when I had DD#1 six years ago.  Unfortunately, the hospital I was at back then, went over my specific instructions NOT to give the vaccines, and did them anyway.  Basically, nothing I wanted happened the way I wanted it to with my first birth.  DD was given formula when I wanted to EBF, she was given a paci and sugar water when I said no, she was bathed when I said I wanted to do it first... it was like I didn't even have her! The hospital took away all those wonderful fun experiences from me!!!

This time around, I not only have DH at my side Big Smile for support, but I also have a little more backbone.  This baby will not be leaving my room at all, and I will get to do everything I want to.  (And no vaccines right away!!!)

Good luck on your research!


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12-06-2012 at 11:11 AM
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I've had to pick and choose my research 'battles.' Ignoring the obvious ones you have to do (like pick a safe car seat, etc.) what's important to you? I'm ok with the vaccine regimine, so I haven't read too much about it. But giving myself and my LO every opportunity to be successful with breastfeeding is important, so I've read a lot about that.

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12-06-2012 at 12:27 PM
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buttaflly227:

So I went on a tour of the hospital last night with DH, my doula and birthing class and it really just sort of freaked me out. My class instructor led the tour and said this is where this happens, and that happens, etc and I felt overwhelmed at all the stuff I still need to do/research like vitamin K, eye stuff, what vaccines I want when, who washes the baby, etc and I'm like man I just did all sorts of research just for the registry! What carseat, stroller, crib, mattress are best? Etc. 

Are any of you feeling the same way and how do you manage it? I figure just one thing at a time and I still have a few wks but man does it go by fast! 

 

Breathe. We just did our tour on Tuesday, and went over all the same things. You don't have to research the Vitamin K or the eye stuff. That is routine, and they will do it anyway because it needs to be done. Your baby is going to pass through your vagina, where there is lots of bacteria, and they need to put the eye ointment in to make sure they don't get any infections. There is nothing dangerous about it, and it is going to get done. I wouldn't refuse it. The Vitamin K is to make sure your baby's blood begins to clot on it's own. It's been living off your supply of vitamins and clotting antibodies since you became pregnant. Now baby is out in the "real world" and needs that boost of vitamin to get things rolling. They do this for all babies, it's no big deal and it's not dangerous. Our hospital gives a Hepititis B vaccine while baby is still in the hospital, and the second dose (and any subsequent vaccines) will be given by your pediatrician. If you are vaccinating, there's really no research to do, in my opinion, other than talking to your pediatrician, asking them what their vaccination schedule is, and then deciding if there's any you don't want (I personally don't see the reason for not vaccinating against anything that you can vaccinate against - I'd rather my kid not suffer some icky, horrible illness than let them wing it, but I know other people are different, and I respect their right to chose what they feel as best, even if I think it's ridiculous). As for who will wash your baby, that will be the nurses. They will do the initial clean up, get that little one non-icky, and then the first real "bath," they will walk you through alongside you. There's nothing really to do with any of this stuff that you're worried about, it'll all be taken care of for you.

12-06-2012 at 1:40 PM
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JBos82:

Breathe. We just did our tour on Tuesday, and went over all the same things. You don't have to research the Vitamin K or the eye stuff. That is routine, and they will do it anyway because it needs to be done. Your baby is going to pass through your vagina, where there is lots of bacteria, and they need to put the eye ointment in to make sure they don't get any infections. There is nothing dangerous about it, and it is going to get done. I wouldn't refuse it. The Vitamin K is to make sure your baby's blood begins to clot on it's own. It's been living off your supply of vitamins and clotting antibodies since you became pregnant. Now baby is out in the "real world" and needs that boost of vitamin to get things rolling. They do this for all babies, it's no big deal and it's not dangerous. Our hospital gives a Hepititis B vaccine while baby is still in the hospital, and the second dose (and any subsequent vaccines) will be given by your pediatrician. If you are vaccinating, there's really no research to do, in my opinion, other than talking to your pediatrician, asking them what their vaccination schedule is, and then deciding if there's any you don't want (I personally don't see the reason for not vaccinating against anything that you can vaccinate against - I'd rather my kid not suffer some icky, horrible illness than let them wing it, but I know other people are different, and I respect their right to chose what they feel as best, even if I think it's ridiculous). As for who will wash your baby, that will be the nurses. They will do the initial clean up, get that little one non-icky, and then the first real "bath," they will walk you through alongside you. There's nothing really to do with any of this stuff that you're worried about, it'll all be taken care of for you.

Um, unless you do research and end up with reasons you don't want these routine procedures.

The very short version of things:

Vit K - to help baby's blood clot to help prevent brain hemorrhaging during the first 8 or so days of their life before they start producing it on their own 

Eye drops - in case you have gonorrhea to prevent the baby from going blind

Hep B - prevents your child from getting Hep B (obviously your baby isn't sexually active, but if they come into contact with someone who is)

First bath - leaving the vernix on/rubbing it in can help protect the skin and keep it moisturized vs just washing it off right away 

Obviously there is way more to the story for each of these, but I would go by what another pp said and think first about what you're truly concerned about and what you are already okay with, then just concentrate on researching the former. And then if you have time, you can always research the things lower on the priority list.


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12-06-2012 at 9:14 PM
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Just make a list of the things you're concerned about and tackle them one at a time!  You still have time!

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12-06-2012 at 10:48 PM
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buttaflly227:

So I went on a tour of the hospital last night with DH, my doula and birthing class and it really just sort of freaked me out. My class instructor led the tour and said this is where this happens, and that happens, etc and I felt overwhelmed at all the stuff I still need to do/research like vitamin K, eye stuff, what vaccines I want when, who washes the baby, etc and I'm like man I just did all sorts of research just for the registry! What carseat, stroller, crib, mattress are best? Etc. 


Are any of you feeling the same way and how do you manage it? I figure just one thing at a time and I still have a few wks but man does it go by fast! 


 



Breathe. We just did our tour on Tuesday, and went over all the same things. You don't have to research the Vitamin K or the eye stuff. That is routine, and they will do it anyway because it needs to be done. Your baby is going to pass through your vagina, where there is lots of bacteria, and they need to put the eye ointment in to make sure they don't get any infections. There is nothing dangerous about it, and it is going to get done. I wouldn't refuse it. The Vitamin K is to make sure your baby's blood begins to clot on it's own. It's been living off your supply of vitamins and clotting antibodies since you became pregnant. Now baby is out in the "real world" and needs that boost of vitamin to get things rolling. They do this for all babies, it's no big deal and it's not dangerous. Our hospital gives a Hepititis B vaccine while baby is still in the hospital, and the second dose (and any subsequent vaccines) will be given by your pediatrician. If you are vaccinating, there's really no research to do, in my opinion, other than talking to your pediatrician, asking them what their vaccination schedule is, and then deciding if there's any you don't want (I personally don't see the reason for not vaccinating against anything that you can vaccinate against - I'd rather my kid not suffer some icky, horrible illness than let them wing it, but I know other people are different, and I respect their right to chose what they feel as best, even if I think it's ridiculous). As for who will wash your baby, that will be the nurses. They will do the initial clean up, get that little one non-icky, and then the first real "bath," they will walk you through alongside you. There's nothing really to do with any of this stuff that you're worried about, it'll all be taken care of for you.



Or, OP, you could just take this approach and research absolutely nothing. Then maybe give out some onesided advice when you really don't know why there other opinions on the topics. Wow.

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12-07-2012 at 9:07 AM
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You don't have to research the Vitamin K or the eye stuff. That is routine, and they will do it anyway because it needs to be done. Your baby is going to pass through your vagina, where there is lots of bacteria, and they need to put the eye ointment in to make sure they don't get any infections. There is nothing dangerous about it, and it is going to get done. I wouldn't refuse it. The Vitamin K is to make sure your baby's blood begins to clot on it's own. It's been living off your supply of vitamins and clotting antibodies since you became pregnant. Now baby is out in the "real world" and needs that boost of vitamin to get things rolling. They do this for all babies, it's no big deal and it's not dangerous. Our hospital gives a Hepititis B vaccine while baby is still in the hospital, and the second dose (and any subsequent vaccines) will be given by your pediatrician. If you are vaccinating, there's really no research to do, in my opinion, other than talking to your pediatrician, asking them what their vaccination schedule is, and then deciding if there's any you don't want (I personally don't see the reason for not vaccinating against anything that you can vaccinate against - I'd rather my kid not suffer some icky, horrible illness than let them wing it, but I know other people are different, and I respect their right to chose what they feel as best, even if I think it's ridiculous). As for who will wash your baby, that will be the nurses. They will do the initial clean up, get that little one non-icky, and then the first real "bath," they will walk you through alongside you. There's nothing really to do with any of this stuff that you're worried about, it'll all be taken care of for you.

 

See I know you mean well but I completely disagree with that stuff 'being routine' and much of the reason for that is because I DO have the option in this hospital (Thank God) because much of it is not necessary from what I've read and been told by my doula and birthing instructor.

The eye ointment is really only if the mama has an infection or STD, otherwise it's unnecessary.The blood clotting was originally for boys when they get circumsized and for whatever reason they decided all kids should have it, which I see as not needed. The hep B vaccine is also not needed unless they are exposed to the disease through blood or body fluids which is hard to catch. 

The bath I think should be done by a parent and so we learn how to do it properly and the baby can continue to bond with the parents. So many people just have their kids in the hospital and are like OK do whatever you want to my kid and then we'll take off but I want to make informed choices which is why I'm on info overload lol. 

So thanks ladies, I think I do just need to make a list of priorities and go from there but I just don't know what all the options are but can only do my best. ;)  


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12-07-2012 at 6:49 PM
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buttaflly227:

You don't have to research the Vitamin K or the eye stuff. That is routine, and they will do it anyway because it needs to be done. Your baby is going to pass through your vagina, where there is lots of bacteria, and they need to put the eye ointment in to make sure they don't get any infections. There is nothing dangerous about it, and it is going to get done. I wouldn't refuse it. The Vitamin K is to make sure your baby's blood begins to clot on it's own. It's been living off your supply of vitamins and clotting antibodies since you became pregnant. Now baby is out in the "real world" and needs that boost of vitamin to get things rolling. They do this for all babies, it's no big deal and it's not dangerous. Our hospital gives a Hepititis B vaccine while baby is still in the hospital, and the second dose (and any subsequent vaccines) will be given by your pediatrician. If you are vaccinating, there's really no research to do, in my opinion, other than talking to your pediatrician, asking them what their vaccination schedule is, and then deciding if there's any you don't want (I personally don't see the reason for not vaccinating against anything that you can vaccinate against - I'd rather my kid not suffer some icky, horrible illness than let them wing it, but I know other people are different, and I respect their right to chose what they feel as best, even if I think it's ridiculous). As for who will wash your baby, that will be the nurses. They will do the initial clean up, get that little one non-icky, and then the first real "bath," they will walk you through alongside you. There's nothing really to do with any of this stuff that you're worried about, it'll all be taken care of for you.

 

See I know you mean well but I completely disagree with that stuff 'being routine' and much of the reason for that is because I DO have the option in this hospital (Thank God) because much of it is not necessary from what I've read and been told by my doula and birthing instructor.

The eye ointment is really only if the mama has an infection or STD, otherwise it's unnecessary.The blood clotting was originally for boys when they get circumsized and for whatever reason they decided all kids should have it, which I see as not needed. The hep B vaccine is also not needed unless they are exposed to the disease through blood or body fluids which is hard to catch. 

The bath I think should be done by a parent and so we learn how to do it properly and the baby can continue to bond with the parents. So many people just have their kids in the hospital and are like OK do whatever you want to my kid and then we'll take off but I want to make informed choices which is why I'm on info overload lol. 

So thanks ladies, I think I do just need to make a list of priorities and go from there but I just don't know what all the options are but can only do my best. ;)  

 

Vitamin K is administered to prevent a condition known as hemorrhagic disease of the newborn, which can be due to a variety of things from hemophilia to a vitamin K deficiency. It also can be deadly. 

 http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/974489-overview

With Hepatitis B, the hospital should allow you to delay the vaccine if you wish. Talk with your pediatrician about it. Many will do it when the infant is around two weeks of age. 

Whatever your choices are, make sure you are vocal about them. Also, it helps to have your husband on the same page as you and to have everything in writing. Some hospitals are more "baby friendly" than others. If you have a choice in the matter, research your hospital's policies before deciding on whether or not it is a good fit for you. The hospital should also give you data on the proportion of women given pitocin and who undergo c-sections (pitocin increases the likelihood of surgical births substantially). 

For the bath, the vernix is really good for the skin and it is best that a bath is put off for a few hours (6-8) to give the infant a chance to feed and bond with his mommy. Also, right after birth the babies have a tough time regulating their temperatures, which might be worsened through bathing, even under the warmer. I know for me, I would feel most comfortable watching the nurse give my baby a bath (6-8 hrs after birth is actually my hospital's policy) so that I have a bit of an example for when my husband and I go to do it on our own. We are first time parents and could use a good demo! 


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