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12-06-2012 at 9:57 AM
ekoenig4
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Fake drinking...

I need advice on ways you girls have pulled one over on friends and co-workers. I am so not ready to tell them I'm expecting and although I never have more than one drink while I'm out, if I obstain they will know for sure.... Advice?

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12-06-2012 at 10:01 AM
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The night before Thanksgiving we went out- found out I was pg like 5 days before.  So I just ordered a cranberry and sprite.  Course the bartenders were like 'what'...I go there all the time- but I'm sure they wont say anything.  We live in a town of less than 2000-so everyone knows everyone.  Anyways- before that I have ordered virgin drinks- as long as you aren't drinking water, then you should be fine.  I was out on the dance floor dancing like usual and I'm sure I looked drunk.  :) GL to you!  I have my work Christmas party next week and we like to tie one off- guess I'll try the same thing. 

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12-06-2012 at 10:02 AM
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Try to abstain from going out. 

Order your drinks in private.  Order something that looks like it might be a "real" drink.  (Plain Cranberry Juice, Club Soda with a lime, etc...)


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12-06-2012 at 10:02 AM
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12-06-2012 at 10:05 AM
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megemoney:

Try to abstain from going out. 

no luck here, work Christmas party that I organized.....

i like the cranberry juice idea, thanks!

 


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12-06-2012 at 10:12 AM
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ekoenig4:
megemoney:

Try to abstain from going out. 

no luck here, work Christmas party that I organized.....

i like the cranberry juice idea, thanks!

 

I was a Cran and Vodka drinker, or Vodka Tonic... I think that is why those first two ideas came to mind.  Wink  If it's just in a normal glass, no one will be the wiser. 


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12-06-2012 at 10:22 AM
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megemoney:

Try to abstain from going out. 

Order your drinks in private.  Order something that looks like it might be a "real" drink.  (Plain Cranberry Juice, Club Soda with a lime, etc...)

If you can get there early, speak to the bartender and tell them no matter what you order, make it a virgin. (order vodka+cran, make him give u a cran+seltzer...)

at home, I fool gf's by drinking a wine glass of white grape juice mixed with water - looks just like white wine, drink it slow enough that no one offers to fill you up... =P worked perfectly last night when we had friends over for dinner...


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12-06-2012 at 10:23 AM
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Well (blush) I am a TOTAL lush. My friends know that if I'm not pregnant or nursing a baby (I am expecting #4 so that is often, in my defense) I am DRINKING when I go out. I always make DH be the DD etc.

I am .. ummm...sorry this is my 4th and I don't keep as close tabs on these things as I should.. maybe 5 weeks now? We were at a social function last weekend which I was pretty worried about b/c the ladies I knew would be there are good friends who also knew we were trying.

When we got there my DH was unhelpful and started talking with the guys right away. I managed to get over to the bar alone though and asked the server to make me a drink that looked like a rum and coke but was just coke (in the lowball glass with wedge of lime). That was great until one of my girlfriends came over and literally sniffed my drink and said "whatcha drinking?" with a wink/smile. Ugh. She knows I'm typically a wine-o. I still defended my "rum and coke" and then said I just needed some caffeine and was switching to wine next.

Then I brought out my secret weapon (which I had employed at our neighbors house the night before for a dinner party and pulled off seamlessly). I had picked up some apple/pear flavored bottled water at the supermarket and brought it in my purse. I ordered a glass of white wine (I usually drink red but couldn't come up with a good fake) and carried it around for a bit. Then I headed for the restroom. I felt weird carrying my glass into the bathroom but whatever. I went into a stall, dumped the wine and filled my glass back to the same level with my pear water. It was a dead ringer. I did this the rest of the night as needed. I still think my girlfriend who sniffed my drink is/was suspicious but I at least threw her off or confused her with my fake wine. THis method is also helpful for lushes like me because - ummm - I actually get thirsty and and need to drink but my friends know I would NEVER drink water when there is wine around. :)


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12-06-2012 at 10:24 AM
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Get a drink. Don't actually drink it. Take fake sips and poor some down the drain in the bathroom.

Or if you're at a bar, it's easy to get a mocktail.



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12-06-2012 at 10:25 AM
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get there early, tell the bartender you only want virgins. Say you're on antiboitics, whatever...!  GL!!

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12-06-2012 at 10:30 AM
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my favorite mocktail last pregnancy was pomegranate juice and ginger ale.  It is sooooo good!

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12-06-2012 at 10:56 AM
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Tis the hardest Season to be hiding it. haha. 6 Weeks here and lots or parties and trips coming up to see family.

 My sister will be at one party. We are going to switch off Glasses of Wine here and there so it looks like I am drinking. 

Also plan to make Faux cocktails. Club soda with a little cranberry juice. So many people will be at these functions, no one will notice.

 

 


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12-06-2012 at 11:04 AM
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My company Christmas party is tomorrow night and I fully intend to ask the bartender to make me virgin Caesars even if I order a regular one. There are a few LDS/Mormon's that I work with who won't be drinking at all, and I would normally just jump into that group and claim I don't drink at all, but I was drinking beer at a company dinner we had last month so if anyone remembers that I'm hooped. I think I'm better off drinking virgins.


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12-06-2012 at 11:06 AM
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I'm not sure how I've gotten away with my FIL not finding out.  I LOVE win and he loves to buy it for us and then sit around our kitchen table drinking it and playing board games.  This is at least a twice weekly occurrence.   For the first few days it worked to just say I was on antibiotics as I was getting over being sick.  But after a while that stopped working so now I've moved onto saying I already had two glasses before he came over and that I should probably not have anymore because something is happening the next day or something.  But I can't imagine this working too much longer.  I'm thinking the next step is to declare myself and alcoholic and fake go to some AA meetings.  I do still go to Al-Anon sometimes so it's not too much of a stretch...

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12-06-2012 at 11:19 AM
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I also have this issue on my mind for parties coming up and my  husband and I have come up with the following plan of action:

When we're at parties at someones house (this weekend we will be at my aunt and uncle's for our godsons birthday party) we are going to bring beer (as we usually do) and I will pretend sip for a bit, then make my way to the bathroom and dump it down the sink and fill it up with water. I know as long as I have a beer in my hand, no one will question it.

If we run into a situation where we are out and would usually been drinking, I'll just order my own drinks (or have hubby order them for me) and go with some sort of juice and lime. Again I don't think I'll get any sideways glances as long as it LOOKS like I'm drinking.

Good Luck! 


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12-06-2012 at 11:19 AM
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I told them I am taking muscle relaxers for a back problem and can't drink while on them.

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12-06-2012 at 11:25 AM
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I'm a beer drinker and honestly, if I don't have a beer in hand when we're out with friends, they know something is up.  Last time we were at a bar I just bought a beer and poured it down the sink in the bathroom and filled it up with water.  It worked perfectly.  We have an office Christmas party this weekend and I plan on doing the same thing.

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12-06-2012 at 11:36 AM
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Oh here's another suggestion that probably doesn't apply if you're at any sort of adult office party, but some could use it:

To fake shots of alcohol/shooters

- water + a splash of coke/pepsi looks close enough to whiskey that it can pass in a darker environment especially.

- water by itself looks like vodka (sugar the rim and add a lemon slice and people will think it's a "lemon drop")

- sweetened iced tea (especially if it's on the gun in a bar) looks a lot like amaretto liqueur so something like Southern Comfort + Amaretto can be replaced

- water + apple juice can look like tequila in the right light, but the scent is hard to fake, so don't let anyone too close to your shot glass, don't forget the lime, and put on your best tequila face.

We used a lot of these when I was a bartender and we had a "dry bar" establishment (no drinking on the job) so that we could please certain customers that wanted to include the server in a round of shots.


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12-06-2012 at 11:42 AM
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I tried to do the fake drinking thing while H and I went out with about 4 other couples last weekend....it was a bit of a disaster!

We went out for hibatchi, arrived early, walked over to the bar and I ordered a cran/pineapple juice with ice and fruit to look like a cocktail and I swear the bartender had no idea what I meant (language barrier there) he gave me a glass with just the juice...no ice...nothing to make it look anything like a cocktail.

The second drink I asked for was during dinner when everyone else was ordering and i caught the waiter before he went to the bar and wispered "can I get a glass with just pineapple juice and ice?" he said sure...well another waitress came back with my drink (no ice) and announced to everyone "Who had the pineapple juice?!?" I tried to play it off like it was pineapple/malibu but I don't think anyone bought that crap...ugh!



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12-06-2012 at 11:47 AM
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cpm1223:

I tried to do the fake drinking thing while H and I went out with about 4 other couples last weekend....it was a bit of a disaster!

We went out for hibatchi, arrived early, walked over to the bar and I ordered a cran/pineapple juice with ice and fruit to look like a cocktail and I swear the bartender had no idea what I meant (language barrier there) he gave me a glass with just the juice...no ice...nothing to make it look anything like a cocktail.

The second drink I asked for was during dinner when everyone else was ordering and i caught the waiter before he went to the bar and wispered "can I get a glass with just pineapple juice and ice?" he said sure...well another waitress came back with my drink (no ice) and announced to everyone "Who had the pineapple juice?!?" I tried to play it off like it was pineapple/malibu but I don't think anyone bought that crap...ugh!

To avoid this happening, let the service staff in on your secret. They won't out you, and (if they're anything like I was) they'd love to play along. A language barrier doesn't help though unfortunately.


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Things to avoid during pregnancy: Eye contact with cats. Cats will suck the burgeoning life right out of you, using their infamous feline mind-powers. Avert your eyes, and move along.

FACT: 1 in 10 people are said to be a carrier of Listeria. Therefore you should avoid all shopping malls, grocery stores and busy street corners for the duration of your pregnancy. Or microwave anyone you contact until steaming, just to be safe. 
12-06-2012 at 12:08 PM
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mainerocks:
I told them I am taking muscle relaxers for a back problem and can't drink while on them.
This is actually pretty good. And believable. I don't know how people take drinks into the bathroom. That's so gross to me.

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12-06-2012 at 12:15 PM
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mainerocks:
I told them I am taking muscle relaxers for a back problem and can't drink while on them.

This is actually pretty good. And believable. I don't know how people take drinks into the bathroom. That's so gross to me.

lol. The "I'm not drinking because I'm on medication" thing would never fly with some of my family/friends. They'd immediately suspect. And there's nothing gross about bringing a drink that youre not drinking into the bathroom to pour some out.



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12-06-2012 at 1:29 PM
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My work party is tonight that I planned! I am nervous, my first night pretending to drink. Everyone I work with are total lushes too. The good news is, once they are drunk enough, they won't notice. I am getting there early to tell the bartender. My coworkers keep being like, lets all go early! So I keep having to move up the time I go to beat them there:) haha

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It's easy if you drink mixed drinks, just go to the bar and have them put regular soda in a rocks glass.  For wine, ask the bartender for ginger ale in a wine glass.  If you drink been order one and take it to the bathroom, dump it out and fill it with water.  

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12-06-2012 at 4:26 PM
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I would drink sparkling water with lime. It looks like a cocktail, and nobody ever questions it.  

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12-06-2012 at 6:52 PM
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crogers19:
my favorite mocktail last pregnancy was pomegranate juice and ginger ale.  It is sooooo good!

Yum!

You guys are all so clever. This hasn't happened to me yet, but I am taking notes! 


 
12-06-2012 at 7:16 PM
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Just went through this same scenario last weekend when I went to visit friends back home (I'm 7 wks pregnant today). I took my husband's car the night we went out and claimed that as my reason for "not drinking"; although, I did walk around with a glass of wine for a while. I had girlfriends trying to throw drinks at me left and right! My best friend knows so I would just pass her the drinks and let her have a grand time and I drove us all home. It is so difficult to keep a secret when out like that. Good luck as you, along with so many of us, try to keep this a secret for a few more weeks!
 
12-06-2012 at 7:55 PM
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These are good suggestions.   Any advice for when visiting relatives?  I'm still not sure if I can pull it off when we visit the in-laws for 5 days.  Over New Year's!!!  They will definitely suspect if I don't drink.  It sounds tricky to sneak away to pour things out and switch things when you're in someone's home and toasting, as opposed to out at a bar.  Maybe I'll just try the fake sip and hope DH can help me out... it will be an interesting game!  :) 
12-06-2012 at 8:50 PM
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I am having a similar issue except we are going to a wine bar...  the type of establishment where the table buys a few bottles of wine and everyone pitches in, splits it, and it is served  at your table.  Ugh.  How do I get around that one? 

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12-06-2012 at 10:36 PM
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These are all great ideas!  I have been stressing over this since I rarely pass up a glass of wine but we are not ready to share the news yet.  Last weekend we were over at a friends house and I told everyone I wasn't drinking because I was still hungover from the night before but I can't use that excuse all the time.  Thanks for the ideas!

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