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12-06-2012 at 2:22 PM
g8trkim
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If you have 3 or more kids...

I'm curious for those of you with 3 or more kiddos... how's it going? Do you work or stay at home? What are the ages of your LOs? Do you feel totally overwhelmed? What about financially? I ask because DH and I still aren't sure how many kids we want. We always said 4. Once we had DS I started thinking maybe 3 would be good. Now we have 2, which is great. People ask us all the time if we are done, to which we reply "We'll see," or "Maybe one more." I constantly get replies like, "Oh you should stop now," or "You have one of each don't have anymore." People are so rude. Anyway, I just was curous how you ladies are doing it and if you've gone totally insane or are loving life (probably a little of both). Share your experiences.


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12-06-2012 at 2:32 PM
JulesDiane
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I am curious too.. 2 is really hard, I can't imagine going to 3!

By the way... I am just curious, does everyone you talk to assume that Brynn is a boy? I know that Brynn is a gender neutral name, but every doctor's office I have dealt with has assumed she is a boy (and I have dealt with a lot of offices). Even though it is a gender neutral name, the overwhelming assumption of a boy name is getting on my nerves.




 
12-06-2012 at 2:44 PM
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JulesDiane:

I am curious too.. 2 is really hard, I can't imagine going to 3!

By the way... I am just curious, does everyone you talk to assume that Brynn is a boy? I know that Brynn is a gender neutral name, but every doctor's office I have dealt with has assumed she is a boy (and I have dealt with a lot of offices). Even though it is a gender neutral name, the overwhelming assumption of a boy name is getting on my nerves.

No, nobody has thought Brynn was a boy. But I think most of the situations where we told people her name they knew she was a girl first. But people do ask us how to spell it which I can understand. Though I was definitely at the store the other day and she was wearing a pink outfit and headband and someone said, "Boy or girl?" LOL.


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12-06-2012 at 2:54 PM
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g8trkim:
JulesDiane:

I am curious too.. 2 is really hard, I can't imagine going to 3!

By the way... I am just curious, does everyone you talk to assume that Brynn is a boy? I know that Brynn is a gender neutral name, but every doctor's office I have dealt with has assumed she is a boy (and I have dealt with a lot of offices). Even though it is a gender neutral name, the overwhelming assumption of a boy name is getting on my nerves.

No, nobody has thought Brynn was a boy. But I think most of the situations where we told people her name they knew she was a girl first. But people do ask us how to spell it which I can understand. Though I was definitely at the store the other day and she was wearing a pink outfit and headband and someone said, "Boy or girl?" LOL.

 

Oh yeah... that happened all the time with my first DD too. Head to toe in pink wearing a headband... Usually it was old men who would do that. Big Smile

When I took Brynn to the urologist last week, the receptionist called Brynn a "he" twice during our conversation and I corrected her both times. She hands me forms to fill out, and the last form is blue... and it starts asking questions about Brynn's penis. And I ask her "Ummm... is there a different form for a girl?" And she said, "Yes, I thought it was a boy." Ummm.... I corrected her TWICE! Really, it didn't bother me at first... but I have gotten slightly annoyed by it. Oh well.. I love her name and it suits her very well. Smile




 
12-06-2012 at 3:14 PM
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I have 4.  they are 17,15,11, and 7 weeks.  We thought we were done after the three but changed our minds :-)  Right now I stay at home but will probably end up going back to work.  My older kids love her and help, financially it has been tough but we are managing.  

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12-06-2012 at 3:19 PM
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We just had our 3rd.  She is a much better baby than DD was, and I find the whole newborn stage so much easier this time around. My kids are 5, 3 and 8 weeks and I SAHM.  I don't feel overwhelmed at all; I feel like we're in a good place and I'm really enjoying the kids.  It helps that my older two are really close and they are also very much in love with the baby.  They like to help and they are good at entertaining themselves when I need them to.  The new baby hasn't impacted us too much financially, but once I have three kids in activities, three kids eating table food, I'm sure that'll change.  

 

BTW, my DD1 is named Brynn.  In my experience I've never heard it considered a gender neutral name and she's never been called a "he".  Although, I have had people pronounce it "Brine" twice.  Brine? Seriously?  


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12-06-2012 at 3:48 PM
LissaLee
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We just had #3 and honestly the transition has been great! DD#1 is 5, DS is almost 3, and DD#2 is 5 weeks. I feel like this time around we really knew what to expect and have made smarter choices

Financially we are doing fine. We've adjusted our budget accordingly and I will be going back to work part-time when she is 3 months old. I've worked part time since DD#1 was born, but I'll be cutting back from 24 hours/week to 16/week when I go back since we won't be putting her in daycare- I now work evenings and weekends.

We had a lot of people tell us to stop at two, but I knew I wasn't done yet, and I can't imagine life without Charlotte!


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12-06-2012 at 5:00 PM
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I just had our fourth and so far so good, of course, it's only been three weeks!  Adding our third went pretty well though so I'm expecting the same with the new baby.  Our kids are 6, 3, 16 months and 3 weeks.

I work full-time, as does my husband, although he has a more flexible schedule than I do so that really helps out. We truly are a team and I don't think I ever would have had four kids if my husband wasn't the type to deal with dirty diapers, night feedings, transporting the kids, etc.  Right now with the newborn and that whole mommy brain thing, I'm a little out of sorts with regards to keeping track of all the schedules but I know that will get  better once the baby is a little older and has more of a routine.  Having multiple children does require a certain level of organization.

Financially I'll be honest and say it's a bit stressful.  There's the cost for our babysitter and also school tuition and then everything that comes with school like lunches, uniforms, field trips and it all starts to add up.  We just recently signed the two oldest up for swimming and ballet and it hit me that affording lessons, sports and such for four is going to get really tight. I think that for most people there is a trade-off in having three plus kids.  Some people love the idea of traveling a lot with their kids, fully funding their college tuition, etc. and the reality is that once you have three, four or more kids for many families those things are no longer going to be affordable.   But, at the same time, I know we'll find a way to make it all work.  Our kids all really love one another and there's nothing better than seeing them all playing and laughing together.


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12-06-2012 at 6:15 PM
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I have a 2.5 year old DS, a 15 month old DD, and a 1 week old DD. It's going super easy right now. I'm a stay at home mom, my husband is an apprentice carpenter, he'll be finished with the apprenticeship program in about 2 years (it's a 4 year program). I didn't think 2 was that difficult, and I've heard 3 is the tipping point... more than 3 and it doesn't change much, but 3 is the hardest. Because  she's only one week, and sleeps most of the day - and night - our schedule isn't altered much. We're planning on homeschooling and having many more children (we don't use birth control, so as many children as the Lord gives us, we'll welcome), so I'd encourage you by saying children are a blessing from the Lord and He will provide for your needs when he blesses you.

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12-06-2012 at 7:22 PM
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We have 4 - 6 years, almost 4, almost 2, and 2 months. While this transition has been the easiest yet (every transition gets easier and easier for us), adding a 4th has certainly made things much busier than they were. Other than the fact that our lives are crazy busy, we love it. I SAH and DH works out of a home office for the software company he owns. It helps that he is available if I need him in a pinch.

As far as whether we are going totally insane or loving life, I would say we have a bit of both but we wouldn't trade it for the world! 


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12-06-2012 at 10:14 PM
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It is a lot easier than I thought it would be.  Going from 1 to 2 was a huge deal for us.  Going from 2 to 3 - not so much.  Right now I stay at home but will be going back to work when the baby is 9 weeks old.  My oldest is in half day school five days a week and my middle child goes to school twice a week for 2 hours and she still takes a nap in the afternoon so I have a break daily from taking care of all three kids at once.  The girls love their little brother and there hasn't been any jealousy yet.  They understand he is a baby and needs my attention and have been very patient.  I really expected my two year old to act out in some way but she hasn't.  DS really has just melded right into our lives.  Things are going so well that I told DH I would consider having a fourth child if we are able to move into a bigger house.  He really wants at least one more kid and I was set with three until DS was born and I saw how wonderful the girls are with him.  

Good luck deciding.  I am sooooooo glad we decided to have our third child.   


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12-07-2012 at 12:19 PM
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I have 3 but a little different situation. DD1 is almost 2 and the twins are 11 weeks. I SAH and honestly most days I feel overwhelmed. Two babies and a toddler are a ton of work. That being said I can't imagine not having 3 it just seems complete now. Financially, we have a tight budget but prepared as much as we could for the added expense in advance.
I'm extremely tired and drained at the end of the day but I am still loving life. I love the cuddles from all three of my girls.

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