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12-07-2012 at 9:54 AM
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Sisterhood?

I am new to the bump - and I have to say...I love what it stands for.  I love that I can come here everyday, as a new MTB and get my questions answered, my concerns heard, and the reassurance I need as I go through this journey for the first time.  But I am feeling really sad with some of the posts that I am seeing on here.  I understand that there are people who are having their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, babies at this point and I know you are all naturals by now.  And I understand that there are newbies like me, who have never done this before, but have some sort of insight on what to do because I have a wondeful relationship with my mother and she's helping me through this as well.  But I also am trying to be understanding of those who might not have anyone besides this website to give them the insight they need to help them through what might be a scary/exciting/unplanned time in their lives. 

Isn't the purpose of this site to help encourage one another?  To help each other through this time?  Yes I'm sure there are people on here who think, "There really is such a thing as a stupid question..." and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have that thought sometimes as well.  But why do some women on here feel the need to make these women or girls in some cases feel stupid??  And what is the point in being down right mean to some people on here?? 

Whatever happened to sisterhood? 

 
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12-07-2012 at 10:01 AM
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I agree there is never a stupid question before "we" knew it all, we had to learn it some how. It's great to get support here especially because a lot of us are waiting to tell loved ones until we're sure. Some people are just super opinionated and you'll get all views, just enjoy those that are helpful and ignore the rest. Unfortunately it cannot be avoided.
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12-07-2012 at 10:13 AM
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Barf.

This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name.

Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.
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12-07-2012 at 10:20 AM
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf.

This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name.

Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.

This. After you're around a while you'll get tired of all the ridiculous questions. People should use common sense or try to seek out information elsewhere before coming to a forum for answers.
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12-07-2012 at 10:27 AM
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf. This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name. Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.

Thanks for proving my point :)
 
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12-07-2012 at 10:29 AM
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After you've spent some time on these boards you'll be able to see the culture a bit more clearly.  Yes, this can be a place for support, a place to vent and talk to women going through a experience.  That being said, it's the internet...full of strangers!  There are literally thousands of different personalities, belief systems, ethnic and religious backgrounds all meeting up on a board!  You really can't expect puppies and rainbows all of the time! Coming from someone who has been around these boards for quite awhile now, it can be extremely annoying to read the same silly posts over and over.For example, if I read one more post asking if someone is KU...I may go a little nutty on the poster!  I mean, you really expect a bunch of internet strangers to read a random list of "symtoms" and tell you if you're pregnant???  If you end up sticking around the bump OP, you'll see that well thought out, honest posts are rarely flamed!  Be a smart bumpie and don't post ridiculous questions and people are usually nice to you!
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12-07-2012 at 10:38 AM
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf. This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name. Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.

Ditto! I just don't have patience for crap like this today.  
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12-07-2012 at 10:40 AM
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf. This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name. Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.

 

 this. its naive to think you will find "sisterhood" with a bunch of strangers via internet. 
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12-07-2012 at 10:45 AM
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If you want sisterhood and support, stick around, make some friends and become part of a group of people that know and truly care about you.  To expect "sisterhood" from a group of strangers just because we're all pregnant, that's just silly. 
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12-07-2012 at 10:55 AM
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Dear Lord, no.

Once you are close to 2nd tri the questions will get ridiculous, just wait.
 
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12-07-2012 at 10:57 AM
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf. This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name. Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.


Thanks for proving my point :)



Seriously, you didn't make a point. You just whined. Be the change you want to see, and all that. Stick around, get to know people and then rethink this diatribe.
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12-07-2012 at 11:01 AM
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I tell my sister when she's stupid. So if we are sisters, and you're stupid, Imma help you out.
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12-07-2012 at 11:15 AM
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You have a notion in your head about what this place should be.  You made it up and are now upset that your imagination isn't reality.  So, to this I say "Hello.  Welcome to the internet."

 

EDIT: You are free to post as you choose.  If you want to be puppies and rainbows with everyone, then that is totally fine.  Others do not feel similarly.  I often choose not to be snarky when others do because that's how I feel that day. 

Go with the flow.  Get to know this place the way that it is.  Be yourself.  But, don't get upset when everyone on the internet doesn't behave the way you think they should.
 
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12-07-2012 at 11:28 AM
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I tell my sister when she's stupid. So if we are sisters, and you're stupid, Imma help you out.

hahahahaha.... I love this.  
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12-07-2012 at 11:35 AM
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sisterhood is for sororities, best friends, and families. . . online forum . . Not so much.
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12-07-2012 at 11:43 AM
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I tell my sister when she's stupid. So if we are sisters, and you're stupid, Imma help you out.

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12-07-2012 at 12:04 PM
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lindsayanne79:
After you've spent some time on these boards you'll be able to see the culture a bit more clearly.  Yes, this can be a place for support, a place to vent and talk to women going through a experience.  That being said, it's the internet...full of strangers!  There are literally thousands of different personalities, belief systems, ethnic and religious backgrounds all meeting up on a board!  You really can't expect puppies and rainbows all of the time! Coming from someone who has been around these boards for quite awhile now, it can be extremely annoying to read the same silly posts over and over.For example, if I read one more post asking if someone is KU...I may go a little nutty on the poster!  I mean, you really expect a bunch of internet strangers to read a random list of "symtoms" and tell you if you're pregnant???  If you end up sticking around the bump OP, you'll see that well thought out, honest posts are rarely flamed!  Be a smart bumpie and don't post ridiculous questions and people are usually nice to you!

But I want to see Rainbows and puppies. 

 
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12-07-2012 at 12:12 PM
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Where did this come from? 1st Tri is pretty tame compared to TTGP, I didn't see anyone being mean?

But I agree with PP, lame posts get old.
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PrimRoseMama:
Barf. This site is for entertainment and money. Sometimes you get to know people very well and create a support network over a period of time. It's not a right or entitlement the minute you create a screen name. Seriously, calm yourself. These posts are obnoxious.

Ditto! I just don't have patience for crap like this today.  

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Joy2611:

You have a notion in your head about what this place should be.  You made it up and are now upset that your imagination isn't reality.  So, to this I say "Hello.  Welcome to the internet."

 

EDIT: You are free to post as you choose.  If you want to be puppies and rainbows with everyone, then that is totally fine.  Others do not feel similarly.  I often choose not to be snarky when others do because that's how I feel that day. 

Go with the flow.  Get to know this place the way that it is.  Be yourself.  But, don't get upset when everyone on the internet doesn't behave the way you think they should.

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12-07-2012 at 12:42 PM
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lindsayanne79:
After you've spent some time on these boards you'll be able to see the culture a bit more clearly.  Yes, this can be a place for support, a place to vent and talk to women going through a experience.  That being said, it's the internet...full of strangers!  There are literally thousands of different personalities, belief systems, ethnic and religious backgrounds all meeting up on a board!  You really can't expect puppies and rainbows all of the time! Coming from someone who has been around these boards for quite awhile now, it can be extremely annoying to read the same silly posts over and over.For example, if I read one more post asking if someone is KU...I may go a little nutty on the poster!  I mean, you really expect a bunch of internet strangers to read a random list of "symtoms" and tell you if you're pregnant???  If you end up sticking around the bump OP, you'll see that well thought out, honest posts are rarely flamed!  Be a smart bumpie and don't post ridiculous questions and people are usually nice to you!

But I want to see Rainbows and puppies. 

Thanks for these! While you can't expect them all of the time, every once in awhile puppies and rainbows are great, lol!
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Where did this come from? 1st Tri is pretty tame compared to TTGP, I didn't see anyone being mean?

But I agree with PP, lame posts get old.

1st Tri is pretty tame...I don't know for sure, but I think OP didn't like some of the comments on the "Bad Reactions?" thread.
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haha sisterhood.  You're in the wrong place. 
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There is a lot of support here for woman with serious query's, problems, issues and rants relating to pregnancy and pregnancy loss. With that said, this is a site that is here to make $ and hey let's face it, it wouldn't be the same without some hilarious snark here and there. ;)

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Its terribly sad that people have to go to the internet for "sisterhood." Real community is built face-to-face. 
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I am new to the bump - and I have to say...I love what it stands for.  I love that I can come here everyday, as a new MTB and get my questions answered, my concerns heard, and the reassurance I need as I go through this journey for the first time.  But I am feeling really sad with some of the posts that I am seeing on here.  I understand that there are people who are having their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, babies at this point and I know you are all naturals by now.  And I understand that there are newbies like me, who have never done this before, but have some sort of insight on what to do because I have a wondeful relationship with my mother and she's helping me through this as well.  But I also am trying to be understanding of those who might not have anyone besides this website to give them the insight they need to help them through what might be a scary/exciting/unplanned time in their lives. 

Isn't the purpose of this site to help encourage one another?  To help each other through this time?  Yes I'm sure there are people on here who think, "There really is such a thing as a stupid question..." and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have that thought sometimes as well.  But why do some women on here feel the need to make these women or girls in some cases feel stupid??  And what is the point in being down right mean to some people on here?? 

Whatever happened to sisterhood? 

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I am new to the bump - and I have to say...I love what it stands for.  I love that I can come here everyday, as a new MTB and get my questions answered, my concerns heard, and the reassurance I need as I go through this journey for the first time.  But I am feeling really sad with some of the posts that I am seeing on here.  I understand that there are people who are having their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, babies at this point and I know you are all naturals by now.  And I understand that there are newbies like me, who have never done this before, but have some sort of insight on what to do because I have a wondeful relationship with my mother and she's helping me through this as well.  But I also am trying to be understanding of those who might not have anyone besides this website to give them the insight they need to help them through what might be a scary/exciting/unplanned time in their lives. 

Isn't the purpose of this site to help encourage one another?  To help each other through this time?  Yes I'm sure there are people on here who think, "There really is such a thing as a stupid question..." and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have that thought sometimes as well.  But why do some women on here feel the need to make these women or girls in some cases feel stupid??  And what is the point in being down right mean to some people on here?? 

Whatever happened to sisterhood? 

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I am new to the bump - and I have to say...I love what it stands for.  I love that I can come here everyday, as a new MTB and get my questions answered, my concerns heard, and the reassurance I need as I go through this journey for the first time.  But I am feeling really sad with some of the posts that I am seeing on here.  I understand that there are people who are having their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, babies at this point and I know you are all naturals by now.  And I understand that there are newbies like me, who have never done this before, but have some sort of insight on what to do because I have a wondeful relationship with my mother and she's helping me through this as well.  But I also am trying to be understanding of those who might not have anyone besides this website to give them the insight they need to help them through what might be a scary/exciting/unplanned time in their lives. 

Isn't the purpose of this site to help encourage one another?  To help each other through this time?  Yes I'm sure there are people on here who think, "There really is such a thing as a stupid question..." and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have that thought sometimes as well.  But why do some women on here feel the need to make these women or girls in some cases feel stupid??  And what is the point in being down right mean to some people on here?? 

Whatever happened to sisterhood? 

 

I agree with you. I think it's nonsense that we women can't just be nice. There is a thing called compassion stranger or not, internet or not. Just remember sometimes people need to tear down others in order to make themselves feel better. I hope you find some quality people and opinions in here!!

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If you want sisterhood and support, stick around, make some friends and become part of a group of people that know and truly care about you.  To expect "sisterhood" from a group of strangers just because we're all pregnant, that's just silly. 

This.  Would you walk up to some random pregnant person expecting her to be your new bestie just because you're both pregnant?  No.  Well, I certainly hope you wouldn't but it's hard to judge based on your lack of judgment with this ridiculous post here.   
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