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12-07-2012 at 11:34 AM
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Is a sex reveal party ever not tacky?

 

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12-07-2012 at 11:41 AM
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Tacky? I don't know if that's the right word. Do I personally think that they are very AWish and silly? Yes.
 
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12-07-2012 at 11:44 AM
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Unnecessary.  Why does it have to be a big production?  Why can't you just tell people if it's a boy or girl?
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12-07-2012 at 11:52 AM
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I think if you keep it small with only immediate family (the babies grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins) then it is ok.  Otherwise, I think that they are pointless.  I don't think it matters that much to other people and that other aren't as excited as you and your immediate family regarding your babies gender.
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12-07-2012 at 11:54 AM
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If I ever get an invite to one of these there will be so much eye rolling on my part! Terrible!
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12-07-2012 at 11:58 AM
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I don't see the point in having a party just to reveal the sex... and I know that all of my childless friends would absolutely have no interest in going, and even those with children would probably not be into it. 

On the other hand, if you already have something going on or another reason to get together, and you decide to do some cute way to reveal the sex to your family already in attendance, I don't see anything wrong with that. I just think it's weird when it's the whole focus of the party. 
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12-07-2012 at 12:04 PM
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I wouldn't throw a huge party and invite all my family and friends. That's too much, imo.

We get together with the immediate family (parents, siblings) every week for sunday dinner. I'm just going to order a cake for dessert, cut into it and voila - find out the sex. I thought it would be fun, and my sister's been dying for me to do it, so we will. Of course it's a little AWish, but whatever. *shrugs*
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12-07-2012 at 12:11 PM
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I've never been to one of these before, I don't think they are done in my circle. I'm planning on just telling everybody but first I might bring a small cake over to my parents house that says "Its a ___" on it just for fun. Its their first grandchild. Anyway, I'm curious...are people expected to bring gifts to these parties?
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12-07-2012 at 12:12 PM
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When my sister was pregnant with my nephew, they brought cupcakes over to the family when my mom had a family dinner. The filling inside was blue. It was pretty low key and everyone celebrated, then went on to have dinner as usual so I don't think it was tacky. I do think it was a little too AW-ish for my taste (then again, we're not finding out so I don't understand the trend to begin with).
 
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12-07-2012 at 12:12 PM
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I'm not a fan of a separate party -- I think it's unnecessary and a bit AWish.  But, I'm totally okay with incorporating a surprise into an already existing party/celebration.  For example, if you're celebrating Christmas with your family and have a special dessert that will reveal the gender (sex), then I think that's fine.  But planning something separate is just too much IMO.
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12-07-2012 at 12:13 PM
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No, I don't think they are tacky. If the MTB and FTB want to spend the time and money to throw a party (as long as it's not a baby shower), I don't see why not. I also think it is ok if it is limited to close friends and family. It would be extremely awkward to invite an acquaintance or co-worker to something they really don't care much about.
 
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12-07-2012 at 12:15 PM
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Ballet513:
I've never been to one of these before, I don't think they are done in my circle. I'm planning on just telling everybody but first I might bring a small cake over to my parents house that says "Its a ___" on it just for fun. Its their first grandchild. Anyway, I'm curious...are people expected to bring gifts to these parties?

No, GR parties are supposed to be non-gift giving events. But I do think that because this is a new trend, many people end up bringing a small gift as they don't know what to expect.
 
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12-07-2012 at 12:23 PM
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Tacky all the way. 
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I've gone to two...for the cake!!!!
 
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12-07-2012 at 12:27 PM
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Everyone I know was a lot more excited to find out I was pregnant compared to finding out the sex.  What's next, pregnancy revealing parties?  It's too much. 

 
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12-07-2012 at 12:31 PM
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I agree with what most people have said. They are unnecessary, silly, attention craving, look at ME!! kinds of parties. I would not attend one and I would never have one.

I wouldn't say they are tacky. They are just so pointless.

 
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I think a full on party to reveal the gender is very AW-ish. Then again, I feel similarly about engagement parties.


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12-07-2012 at 12:35 PM
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mcooper014:

Everyone I know was a lot more excited to find out I was pregnant compared to finding out the sex.  What's next, pregnancy revealing parties?  It's too much. 

 

This. The whole idea that every second of a woman's pregnancy is somehow jaw-droppingly special, and must be shared on a grand scale blows my mind.
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I'm not a fan of a separate party -- I think it's unnecessary and a bit AWish.  But, I'm totally okay with incorporating a surprise into an already existing party/celebration.  For example, if you're celebrating Christmas with your family and have a special dessert that will reveal the gender (sex), then I think that's fine.  But planning something separate is just too much IMO.

I agree with this. Pregnancy is exciting, but not everything has to have a party associated with it.
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12-07-2012 at 12:51 PM
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I don't necessarily think it's tacky...it's just pointless. And people who throw them have too much free time. Yes, I said it.

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12-07-2012 at 12:59 PM
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On the other hand, if you already have something going on or another reason to get together, and you decide to do some cute way to reveal the sex to your family already in attendance, I don't see anything wrong with that.

Ditto this. I think a cutesie reveal if your close family/friends are already gathered is a fun idea, but throwing a party just for that gets an eyebrow raise from me. Hmm

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i, for one, love a celebration of any kind. celebrate a baby's gender, a new job, a pet's birthday, the publication of a book, successful parole hearing, ect. live a little and be happy for someone else's milestones in life, after all, what's the harm? you say "congradulations," eat some cake, and mingle around with friends and family. quit hating.  
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I think if my friends invited me to one, I would raise an eyebrow.  I do however, love the reveal announcements that I have seen on here, they are cute.  But to sit through a party and wait to see what you will have 5 months down the road....no thanks.
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12-07-2012 at 1:15 PM
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OhSewCrafty:
I think a full on party to reveal the gender is very AW-ish. Then again, I feel similarly about engagement parties.

Engagement parties are traditionally hosted by the groom's family to introduce the bride to their extended family and to meet the extended family of the bride and to celebrate the two families coming together. This is not AWish.

Gender reveals are weird to me because the kid is not even born yet. I think it is bad juju to make such a fuss over the baby until it arrives.

 
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12-07-2012 at 1:27 PM
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Also not sure "tacky" is the word. But to have a whole party complete with invites and decorations dedicated to the gender of the baby is AWish. I think if it is kept small and simple (like a family or friend dinner), it is more acceptable. Even if I had held a small one like that, I wouldn't have called it a "gender reveal party".
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12-07-2012 at 1:37 PM
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Unnecessary.  Why does it have to be a big production?  Why can't you just tell people if it's a boy or girl?

Exactly.  People really don't care.  Really, they don't.

 
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They are not for me, but if you want to have them have them, who cares what other people think
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OhSewCrafty:
I think a full on party to reveal the gender is very AW-ish. Then again, I feel similarly about engagement parties.

Engagement parties are traditionally hosted by the groom's family to introduce the bride to their extended family and to meet the extended family of the bride and to celebrate the two families coming together. This is not AWish.

Gender reveals are weird to me because the kid is not even born yet. I think it is bad juju to make such a fuss over the baby until it arrives.

 

If the engagement parties I've been to were like this, I'd feel differently. They were, instead, basically an elaborate bridal shower dinner party.


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My cousin and his wife had a sex reveal party and I thought it was awesome.

They made it very clear on the invitation that they did NOT want anyone to bring gifts, as they were going to have an actual shower later on.

The had also just moved into their first house, so they kind of double it as a house warming party, but still insisted on no gifts for that either.

The baby is the first grandchild on his wife's side of the family, so the whole entire pregnancy has been a big deal to them.

It was an awesome party, outdoors, lots of food. Everyone was asked to wear pink or blue to 'vote' for what you think. Then they revealed by passing out cupcakes to everyone to bite into at the same time, and in the middle was blue icing!

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Tacky? I don't know if that's the right word. Do I personally think that they are very AWish and silly? Yes.

 

This.  Seriously just call, text, or tell them in person. 
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