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12-07-2012 at 11:45 AM
lasposa425
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Thinking ahead -- how different does it get?

Hi ladies, apologies if this gets asked a lot but our oldest will be starting K next fall and I'm starting to worry a little about how different/challenging the school age years will be.  Right now all three are at the same daycare/preschool -- just one drop off/pick up.  Next year, it will be two drop offs/pick ups.  Plus homework, etc. and other activities that come along with K for my oldest.  I'm just looking for any insight and advice from those who've transitioned from having all LOs in daycare to eventually having them all in school.  What can I expect?  Thanks!


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12-07-2012 at 3:44 PM
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Parenting elementary school kids presents a different set of challenges and rewards from those of the preschool years, but overall I feel that this phase is easier than the earlier one.

With elementary school comes more activities and obligations for your child.  There's homework, PTA stuff if you're into that, playdates with kids whose moms you don't know from pick up/drop off, after school clubs and activities, etc.  Yes, this takes more running around.  Organization really helps.  Structure and routine help everyone.

On the other hand, kids this age are much more self-sufficient and need less supervision from parents.  They can play in the house or yard by themselves for a while without a parent entertaining them or checking in on them.  They're less emotionally fragile. Kids this age have a MUCH greater ability to see beyond the here and now, which results in less crying and drama.

Kindergarten is a nice transition year between the two modes.  It takes a while to get in the new groove of elementary school, but once you make the transition, life is easier.

My husband and I loved it when our kids were small and snuggly, and we kind of miss that.  But know what we really love?  We love saying on the spur of the moment, "You guys want to go for a bike ride this afternoon? Great.  Get your bike gear on and help me get the bikes on the bike rack.  DS, fill the water bottles.  Everyone in the car!  Let's go!"  And we don't have to work around anyone's nap schedule, and no one needs to be reminded to potty, and no one refuses to put on a seat belt, and you don't have to take a diaper bag or snacks or sippy cups, and no one freaks out if their special lovey is left behind.  And if you get to the bike trail, and it unexpectedly thunderstorms and the bike trip has to be canceled, the kids are disappointed but they roll with it.


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12-08-2012 at 8:26 AM
shopgirl78
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Ditto Neverblushed.  I have 3 kids, one in second grade, one in PreK and one in daycare.  My second grader meets DS2 at the same daycare in the afternoon. DS1 goes to karate afterschool.  I have 2 pick ups.  Parenting my DD/DS1 has generally got much easier.   They are completely potty trained, they don't need sippy cups, bottles, diaper bags, no naps, etc...They are much easier to roll with the day. 

KG like PreK is a transitional year for school.   There isn't a lot of homework if anything memorizing a few sight words generally in the second semester.  Your DD will learn to put works together in text and that is an amazing feeling eventually your child reading is useful.  There is a lot of growth during the KG year, a lot of independence is learned.  They learn better how to get along with others and will learn the new schedule.  It may be hard at first but keep a routine and get organized.  Generally,  kids love school that first year.  You might want to get a paper filer and a calendar to record important dates (your snack week, parties, etc), school lunches (my kids pick whether they buy or bring based on the menu), any craft projects, volunteer time, etc.     Homework, I find needs to be added into a daily routine.  My DD can be a little fussy about not wanting to do it.  I did find it a little hard to take all 3 of my kids to the KG activities:  any afterschool meetings, programs, etc

I love that my kids can be sent outside to play in our fenced yard and need very little supervision.  I love that we know a lot of neighborhood kids and they come over to play and entertain my kids.  I love that DD loves and really GETS Santa claus.  She is soooooooo excited about him moreso than previous years.  I love that I can write on the bathroom mirror from the Elf on the Shelf and say "Too much whining/fussing" and she needs no help reading it. I love that it doesn't take much planning anymore to go somewhere.  DS2 still needs his cup and is mostly PTed.  HE does hate some public toilets though but there is a light at the end of the toddler tunnel.  

I love that my 2 of kids can swim and I am not freaking out around pools.  Sure, they still need supervision but if they fell in my older two could def get themselves out.   There are more activities for the older kids.  My DD does cheer and DS does karate and its great to see them excited about it and/or winning a trophy.  I love that traveling is easier.  

I too miss the cute cuddly days esp with DD.  Sometimes I feel that she grew up too fast because I was busy with her brothers (my second was a TOUGH toddler) but we are really content at this age...and I love that too.  

 


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12-08-2012 at 10:31 AM
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Honestly I am finding Kindergarten insanely easy academically and the homework is less than 5 min MonThurs.

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12-09-2012 at 5:54 PM
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I have one in 1st and one in kindergarten. At first it's a lot to keep track of, but you will get into a routine. I suggest taking off the first few days they are in school. It really helped me a lot. Every day I swear I'm going to forget something such as lunches (Do they buy today or bring?), Is it library day--for which one?, Did I put the show-and-tell toy in the bag? Did I pack snacks? Who wears gym clothes today?

Homework doesn't take that long right now, so I'm enjoying it. My 1st grader doesn't need help with his, which helps me.

I am always asking questions at the school office. They will assume you know things, but you don't. Try to buddy up with a mom who knows the ropes so you can e-mail her with questions if need be.

The parties, money collections, little projects, etc. can be a bit much since they all seem to happen at once. In fact, sometimes the parties overlap so I'm going back and forth from one classroom to another.

One thing I want to add is that you don't always get much notice that there is an event happening in which you will really want to attend. So you might want to ask the teachers if there is anything other than what's on the school calendar when you should plan to take off work. I just received a note on Friday asking if I can come in on Friday because my child is this week's "star child." I just happen to have off on Friday. But if I didn't, where would I find vacation time in mid-December?? Sometimes they want volunteers to come in and read, etc. So leave vacation time for things like that!!

The calendar will be your friend!!

 
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