I mean this in the nicest, most helpful way: you created this situation knowing that your husband has anxiety and insecurity issues, so now you kind of have to suck it up and deal with it. Admittedly, it sounds like he overreacted to the butt swat. But to be honest, it sounds you also overreacted to everything else. My husband has anxiety issues too. He does this same sort of thing, where he gets all worried about a problem that doesn't really exist including getting moody over a nightmare. It's definitely a pain. But I don't make it worse by telling him that I would leave him, even in the worst of arguments. If you don't really intend to do that, then don't use it as a threat. Period.nbsp;
I'm going to try and bold the parts I agree with but just in case it does t work, I agree with everything peanut said minus personal stuff with her DH :D
You guys seriously need to work on the communication in your relationship. You also need to stay away from hot button triggers, just to get a response.
Now, DH and I fight every once and a while. It's a lot more rare since we stopped "fighting dirty" and stopped nit picking every little thing that annoyed us. We talk stuff out more often even if it's uncomfortable.
In reference to walking away. We walk away from each other but we tell each other that we need a few minutes or I need a shower etc, so the other person can process what's going on and why. We do not hang up on each other and we avoid arguing on texts. That has also helped.
Ps. My husband gets butt smacks all the time. And vice versa. I went to give him one the other night and accidentally thumped him in the balls! :/ He was not happy with me. Lol