I dd my post bc I thought the drama was childish I am not nor have I ever been gift grabby I barely had a shower for my first and I didn't plan one at all for my second. This is me and my husbands first child together so we are excited about everything including planning. I thought your post was rude hence the reason I got defensive as was within my rights. Everyone has their opinion however just as I have been preggers for "all of a minute" you have known me all of about the same so you don't know me well enough to make those assumptions I have other very large concerns which are not an issue now but will be later my post was a means to get ideas and is one of my last concerns...I got mad not because you "hit the nail on the head" but because you know nothing about me and read 1 post and thought you knew so much to make such a rude statement. Moving on now.
This is a public message board, not everyone is going to agree with you all of the time. If you are going to get upset every time that happens, this is probably not the best place for you. Furthermore, if you're going to delete your posts every time someone posts something you don't like, chances are other posters here are going to recognize it and ignore your posts. It's considered bad form to DD, when people have taken the time to respond to you. It's annoying and someone almost always notices and posts about it.
Also, FWIW, you aren't supposed to plan your own shower, regardless of whether it's your first or fifth kid.