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12-11-2012 at 1:50 PM
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Pedi suggested CIO method -- LO is 4 weeks

Too soon?  at our 1 month well visit today I asked when we might start to implement a "schedule".  As things go right now, LO eats on demand, and sleeps when he sleeps.  Dr. suggested putting him in bed when we decide we want it to be bed time, and letting him cry it out for 10-15 minutes.  If he doesn't settle in that time, he suggested soothing him until he stops and then leaving him to go to sleep on his own.  On the one hand I love the idea of starting a "routine" now, as I do believe that kids thrive on a consistent schedule.  However, I don't really feel to jazzed about the idea of letting a 4 week old cry for any length of time longer than necessary.  So far the longest weve let him cry is probably 5 minutes while helping DD with her shower, or fixing dinner etc.  What are your thoughts?

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Thank you everyone for the feedback -- much of what im reading is reinforcing what I have been thinking as well.  Strange part is, we have been going to this pedi for 5 years and Ive always felt strongly that I trust in him and he GENERALLY gives good advice.   Agreed, far too young to CIO
 
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12-11-2012 at 1:51 PM
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Find a new pediatrician?



 
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12-11-2012 at 1:53 PM
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Oh, please don't. Please. 4 weeks is way too early for CIO. If I remember correctly, the youngest age to start CIO is 4 MONTHS. If a 4 week old is crying, its because they need something, even if that something is to be held/rocked/snuggled.
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12-11-2012 at 1:55 PM
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JulesDiane:

Find a new pediatrician?

If I'm being completely honest, this was my first thought when I read the title to this post.

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12-11-2012 at 1:55 PM
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JulesDiane:

Find a new pediatrician?

No kidding!

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12-11-2012 at 1:59 PM
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ugh, that's just wrong. I hope you'll stick with your instincts and not just CIO this early.
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12-11-2012 at 2:08 PM
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littlemac1117:
JulesDiane:

Find a new pediatrician?

If I'm being completely honest, this was my first thought when I read the title to this post.

Yep. Dear God, you can't make a 4 week old baby follow a schedule, soothe themselves or leave them to cry. Find a new pedi. 
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12-11-2012 at 2:15 PM
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Babies are not just small kids.  Kids may thrive on a schedule but brand new babies who don't know WTF is going on in their world right now just need someone to hold them and make them feel they're safe.  Having to let a baby cry while you finish showering or using the bathroom or eating enough calories to stay alive isn't CIO.  CIO is sitting on the couch doing nothing but listen to your baby cry for help just so they'll fall asleep.  Don't feel badly about taking care of your needs while your baby cries but please don't do it for convenience.
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12-11-2012 at 2:49 PM
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I wouldn't do CIO yet, too young, seems mean :( ANyway, what you CAN do is start a routine at bedtime. You can still pick the bed time and do the same thing each night so he gets the hints that bed time is coming. We do this with DD and she settles quickly after bath and PJs and nurses and then falls asleep and I hold her for a while until putting her in her crib. Been doing this since 2 weeks old and I get on average 4 hr stretches from her. GL!
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12-11-2012 at 4:31 PM
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Oh. My. Gosh.  Please dont let your 4 week old CIO.  They cannot mentally handle that.  That being said, I have let Brant cry long enough for me to go to the bathroom or finish taking a bath but I run to comfort him ASAP.  Your baby will get into a routine eventually but CIO will not help your situation at this point. 
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12-11-2012 at 5:18 PM
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Wow. That's horrible. Agreed that you need a new pediatrician asap.
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12-11-2012 at 8:42 PM
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littlemac1117:
Oh, please don't. Please. 4 weeks is way too early for CIO. If I remember correctly, the youngest age to start CIO is 4 MONTHS. If a 4 week old is crying, its because they need something, even if that something is to be held/rocked/snuggled.
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12-12-2012 at 11:08 AM
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I think its too young for CIO too. BUT babies need a schedule. An example would be on demand waking at night immediately feed and put back to sleep. Whenever they wake in am feed then have a little low key playing. Nap around 8:30, 9 or 2-3 hrs after waking. Let sleep 1.5-2 hrs then feed upon waking. Play then eat some "lunch around 12-1. Nap at the same time every day maybe around 1. Sleep for hour or 2 then feed upon waking. Then playtime. Then maybe small 30-45 min nap at 5 and dinner after waking. Then bedtime routine. Maybe bath, story, rocking then down around 730/8. Be flexible to a point where if your child had a hard time sleeping the night before maybe let them sleep a little longer for the nap. But try and get them back on the same 1 nap time later in the day. Some babies need to "fuss" for a little bit before they go to sleep. Its their way of getting comfy. But all out screaming... nope... I did CIO with DD1 and looking back this other way is better. It's going to take you a few days to get him into this routine but you will see a difference in his behavior demeanor and eating habits. Everything will be better. If your baby is continuously crying after you put him down and just generally seems unhappy you may have a medical issue that needs to be addressed. (Mine has reflux and milk allergy) Her routine is pretty flexible but for the most part she sticks to it. good luck and keep at it... Oh and if you think you and your pediatrician may clash on stuff like this issue I would find another ped. No matter how good everyone says they are. If you have a gut feeling this one isnt gonna work out go somewhere else. better now than later!
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