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12-12-2012 at 8:02 AM
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Sex- opposite issue of the majority

Hi all, 

 

I've seen a few posts on women who aren't enjoying sex because of too much discharge, etc. I'm having the opposite problem... everything is extremely dry. I know, we can lube up, but even so, once things have gotten, ahem, started, it seems to dry right up again, and things are a little painful. Anyone else in this boat? 

 
12-12-2012 at 8:20 AM
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I am ALWAYS in the mood for sex and unfortunately I seem to dry up after about 3-5 min. It gets so painful that even lubing doesn't help. My SO thinks it's because "I'm not in the mood" and it really upsets me because it is the complete opposite. In the end we are both so frustrated, and I continue to be sore for the next 2 days!!!

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12-12-2012 at 8:27 AM
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Right there with you! I feel terrible because hubby says it is the best sex ever! I on the other seem to dread it because it is so painful! Don't have much advice for you but glad to hear I'm not the only one in this position! Good luck!

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12-12-2012 at 8:29 AM
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yeah same issue here.  Lube does not help and it's mostly just painful.

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12-12-2012 at 9:09 AM
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Same here.

It's really weird because when I was BFing my DD I had a lot more natural lubrication going on and everyone said it's more normal to be dry.  I just didn't expect this at all! 


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12-12-2012 at 9:18 AM
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And my pain isn't just feeling like the result of not enough lube... it's like the entire region hurts, needs heat and ice, and I can't stand for a long period of time for 24 hours after. Same?
 
12-12-2012 at 9:45 AM
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We still use the "preseed" stuff ( http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/pre-seed-fertility-friendly-personal-lubricant/ID=prod6149894-product) that we had switched to back when we started trying to get pregnant (only took two cycles by the way using it even with my cycles being irregular and about 50-60 days long). It is the only stuff I've ever found that seems to last a while and doesn't get dry and tacky after a few minutes. It isn't cheap but has been really great and has lasted forever (you don't need much and can just ignore the applicator that came with it and just use a couple pea-sized blobs). I'm still a little sore afterwards now but not from dryness - just from general positioning and such and it doesn't last more than an hour or two.

 

 
12-12-2012 at 10:11 AM
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starting all over again:
I am ALWAYS in the mood for sex and unfortunately I seem to dry up after about 3-5 min.

 

I was having this exact problem for months since being pregnant and the past couple weeks it's seemed a little better. My soreness afterward was the entire region as well, like my pelvic muscles couldn't take the pressure of the baby and sex too. We have experimented with some different positions (where I was more supported...think lots of pillows!) and slowing down and more foreplay and it is all helping with both the dryness and the soreness afterward. Constant communication with your partner and making adjustments as you go makes all the difference. Good luck, ladies!  


 
12-12-2012 at 11:17 AM
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empirerecords:
And my pain isn't just feeling like the result of not enough lube... it's like the entire region hurts, needs heat and ice, and I can't stand for a long period of time for 24 hours after. Same?

That doesn't sound the same as what I have.  It actually sounds like what happens when I get yeast infections.  I usually don't have much itching, but sex hurts like the devil and I'm all irritated down there for days afterward.  I would actually get that checked out...just to be on the safe side.  Symptoms of yeast infections and other things are really different in every woman. 


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12-12-2012 at 11:52 AM
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yes, I'm usually dry, and my DH is very well endowed, which means we've always needed lube, but now i'm so sensitive that sex is painful for me most of the time, and even when I am in the mood I get kind of afraid that it is going to hurt again.

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12-12-2012 at 12:21 PM
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There is usually a window of time (15 min or so) that I'm ok. After that I really need him to focus on just getting the job done already! lol

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12-13-2012 at 7:24 PM
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When I'm not pregnant, I usually have quite a bit of discharge... however, since I've been pregnant, it's been the opposite. And it does make bedroom activity difficult or painful :(  I can't wait to start to get my body back to normal... though I will be BFing, and I hear that dries you out, too. Sigh. 

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